Religious liberty and refusing homosexual couples in certain circumstances

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No problem with “best friends” living together. But two people who live together and have a romantic relationship are doing something immoral and it would be wrong of a Catholic to act in any way that signaled approval of such.

I don’t know what “mailings” you are talking about. No one put the baker “on notice” that he shouldn’t provide a cake for the wedding. It was his own recognition of the situation that caused him to refuse.

But, yes, a baker who makes a cake for a second marriage, where no annulment was granted and prior spouses are still living, is cooperating with an immoral act. But, as stated before, the degree of “complicity” is a factor of the degree of cooperation as well as the knowledge the baker has about the situation.
Please define “romantic relationship”

It is my understanding, that like St Basil and St Gregory, one can have an emotionally intimate relationship without “romance” or sex.

Such relationships are not sinful.

How the baker knows if the couple is “romantic” or just “2 bodies with one spirit” as the saints are is beyond me.

So it seems complicity is only perceived complicity based on unknown assumptions.
 
Please define “romantic relationship”

It is my understanding, that like St Basil and St Gregory, one can have an emotionally intimate relationship without “romance” or sex.

Such relationships are not sinful.

How the baker knows if the couple is “romantic” or just “2 bodies with one spirit” as the saints are is beyond me.

So it seems complicity is only perceived complicity based on unknown assumptions.
Deep friendships are not sinful.

If the couple comes and and asks the baker to help them by designing a “wedding” cake than you know they are not just good friends.

No one is suggesting that the baker refuse to sell a loaf of bread or a box of cookies to two people just because they come in together and may or may not be in a homosexual relationship. The activity, attempting marriage, is immoral. Now there are two reasons why two men or two women attempt marriage. One is that they are in a romantic relationship. The second is that they are just friends but want to commit fraud (for taxes or spousal benefits, etc). The baker doesn’t need any inside knowledge to know that they are asking him to cooperate with their immoral act.
So it seems complicity is only perceived complicity based on unknown assumptions.
What you call “complicity” most moral theologians call cooperating with sin. And the degree to which one is culpable for that cooperation is a mix of known and unknown factors, not assumptions.
 
Deep friendships are not sinful.

If the couple comes and and asks the baker to help them by designing a “wedding” cake than you know they are not just good friends.

No one is suggesting that the baker refuse to sell a loaf of bread or a box of cookies to two people just because they come in together and may or may not be in a homosexual relationship. ** The activity, attempting marriage, is immoral. ** Now there are two reasons why two men or two women attempt marriage. One is that they are in a romantic relationship. The second is that they are just friends but want to commit fraud (for taxes or spousal benefits, etc). The baker doesn’t need any inside knowledge to know that they are asking him to cooperate with their immoral act.

What you call “complicity” most moral theologians call cooperating with sin. And the degree to which one is culpable for that cooperation is a mix of known and unknown factors, not assumptions.
Ok you make an interesting case here and I get what your saying. Thank you.

I would say there is a third choice of why same sex couples might contract “marriage” or a civil union. That is because those things have civil ramifications such as the determining of inheritance and care of one another. Such things can be present among best friends without being Fraud or involving romance I am certain St Gregory would have felt such a desire to help St Basil and vice versa if necessary back then.

I want to key in on the bold in your statement above.

If it is the “attempt at marriage” that is sinful, then from a Catholic perspective all marriages outside the church, and certainly all non Christisn marriages would be considered an “attempt at marriage”.

So baking a cake for those situations would be sinful .
 
Ok you make an interesting case here and I get what your saying. Thank you.

I would say there is a third choice of why same sex couples might contract “marriage” or a civil union. That is because those things have civil ramifications such as the determining of inheritance and care of one another. Such things can be present among best friends without being Fraud or involving romance I am certain St Gregory would have felt such a desire to help St Basil and vice versa if necessary back then.
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That’s possible but two people entering into such an arrangement wouldn’t likely be haveing a “wedding” reception, let alone ordering a custom “wedding” cake.

(btw, using St. Basil and St. Gregory doesn’t really help here. The way that people expressed friendship was very different in centuries past. Even the way people publicly expressed married love was different than it is today. Not to mention that neither was writing in English. It is always hard to translate from an expressive language into English which is much less expressive than, for example a Romance language - no pun intended. ;))
I want to key in on the bold in your statement above.
If it is the “attempt at marriage” that is sinful, then from a Catholic perspective all marriages outside the church, and certainly all non Christisn marriages would be considered an “attempt at marriage”.
Attempting marriage is sinful. It’s not the only sin. Non-Christian marriages are usually valid marriages as are marriages outside the Church between two non-Catholic Christians. They are real marriages, not attempts at marriage. There isn’t anything sinful about a valid marriage outside the Church or between non-Christians.
So baking a cake for those situations would be sinful
No, it is not a sin to bake a cake for a valid marriage even if it is not Sacramental. But even if it was a completely invalid marriage, it *might be *cooperation with evil but it may or may not be sinful depending on degree of cooperation and knowledge. Knowledge is important. You can’t sin by accident. But you can cooperate with evil unwittingly.
 
That’s possible but two people entering into such an arrangement wouldn’t likely be haveing a “wedding” reception, let alone ordering a custom “wedding” cake.

(btw, using St. Basil and St. Gregory doesn’t really help here. The way that people expressed friendship was very different in centuries past. Even the way people publicly expressed married love was different than it is today. Not to mention that neither was writing in English. It is always hard to translate from an expressive language into English which is much less expressive than, for example a Romance language - no pun intended. ;))

Attempting marriage is sinful. It’s not the only sin. Non-Christian marriages are usually valid marriages as are marriages outside the Church between two non-Catholic Christians. They are real marriages, not attempts at marriage. There isn’t anything sinful about a valid marriage outside the Church or between non-Christians.

No, it is not a sin to bake a cake for a valid marriage even if it is not Sacramental. But even if it was a completely invalid marriage, it *might be *cooperation with evil but it may or may not be sinful depending on degree of cooperation and knowledge. Knowledge is important. You can’t sin by accident. But you can cooperate with evil unwittingly.
I know Pope Francis has said that he thinks half the marriages in Buenos Aires are invalid. It seems granted annulment percentages would cooperate this here in the US.

So it seems that unless you are catholic bring married in the church there is a good chance you are merely attempting marriage. There 'a your knowledge about it!

So if a guy comes in to your bakery and asks to see your cake catalog.

Flips through for a while and picks a four tier cake. You write it up and he pays and leaves.

Your knowledge about what the cake is for is what?

If the guy comes in with another man and they pick it out together then how do you know what it’s for ?

Are you advocating a don’t ask don’t tell policy?
 
I know Pope Francis has said that he thinks half the marriages in Buenos Aires are invalid. It seems granted annulment percentages would cooperate this here in the US.
I haven’t seen that quote, perhaps you can provide a source? If true, Argentina is a predominantly Catholic country. He may have been referring to the number of civil marriages by Catholics or he may have been referring to seemingly valid marriages that might be found null if examined.

Annulments are a different thing entirely. The granted percentages are not a good measure since cases are not sent to the tribunal unless there is a very good change the marriage was invalid.
So it seems that unless you are catholic bring married in the church there is a good chance you are merely attempting marriage. There 'a your knowledge about it!
But the overwhelming number of marriages **are **valid. Virtually ALL marriages between two non-Catholics (a man and a woman) are valid unless there was a prior bond.
So if a guy comes in to your bakery and asks to see your cake catalog.
Flips through for a while and picks a four tier cake. You write it up and he pays and leaves.
Your knowledge about what the cake is for is what?
If the guy comes in with another man and they pick it out together then how do you know what it’s for ?
Are you advocating a don’t ask don’t tell policy?
Don’t ask, don’t tell works just fine. Why would you need to know what the cake is for if a man or even two or three or five men order a cake out of a catalog?

On the other hand, if two men come in for a consultation on a custom cake, announce that they are getting married to each other and want you to help make 'their special day" memorable, you have knowledge you didn’t want and now have to make a decision based on that knowledge.

Do you knowingly and willingly help “make their special day” memorable? Or should you decline? And more importantly, should you be allowed to politely decline or should you be forced to work with the couple to design the cake against your will?
 
Answer this (I noticed all your answers ignored it )

Is it a sin of scandal for a baker to bake a cake for a second or third marriage?

Is it a sin of scandal for a baker to bake a cake for Catholics marrying outside the church?

If so,

Provide ONE, even just ONE example of it occurring. (Good luck)
Answer my statements first please.
 
Let us submit to the atheist nations, Russia & China, where they have no tolerance for homosexual acts. JK’ing … It is irronic that these groups wave “atheist” to say “religion” is evil … Reality, without the compassion of the religious, those with same sex attractions would be excessively persecuted (as they do in Russia & China).
 
In the final days, they said it would happen. Just look at Mandela’s case and others and you can see the parallels.

This should create a few thousand cases of conscientious objection or conflict of interest. These are legitimate mitigating reasons within the laws of democratic nations. With thousands refusing, maybe the law will wake up one day and see we’re not going to give in to demonic pressure.
 
Let us submit to the atheist nations, Russia & China, where they have no tolerance for homosexual acts. JK’ing … It is irronic that these groups wave “atheist” to say “religion” is evil … Reality, without the compassion of the religious, those with same sex attractions would be excessively persecuted (as they do in Russia & China).
Religion is not required for compassion.
 
Religion is not required for compassion.
Agreed, religion is not needed for compassion; but the religious institutions have made the most head way for elevating human dignaty over fear. Yes, religious institutions will still speak the truth they know, but they elevate human dignaty. Again, when groups push to entitle themselves to hurt others (as in the businesses listed by OP) they are butting the hand that feeds them. Sometimes, you can only get bitten so much before you walk away. This is where for a split second, let’s surrender to Russia and it will fix itself (I know … I know bad idea )
 
A camouflage suit materially advances the cause of the sniper. He uses it in the commission of his crime.
No, it helps, it’s desirable, but not strictly necessary. Hence the analogy.
Without it he may very well be stopped from his crime. A cake does not materially advance the illicit cause of the couple.
It is desirable, but not strictly necessary. See above.

The more the lie is made to look like the truth, the greater the scandal.
It is used at a celebration in which no illicit sexual act is performed.
The act is immoral, as is the celebration of something immoral, and the celebration includes acknowledging the intent to engage in immoral sexual acts.

Immoral. Not illicit, immoral. The difference is between the truth, and an arbitrary custom or law.

Homosexuality is immoral, not just illicit.
The absence of a cake would not have any effect on the subsequent commission of illicit sexual acts. It is not scandalous to proved food to unrepentant sinners.
Straw man argument. The question is not about providing food to unrepentant sinners, the question is about giving material assistance in the commission of an immoral act, AND the scandal of doing so, as it sends the message that the act which you are supporting is morally acceptable.

The baker in one case had no problem selling baked goods to homosexuals. Thus, he had no problem with selling baked goods to an unrepentant sinner. To give aid in, and be seen giving aid to an immoral act, was what the baker refused to do.
I don’t think the reluctant baker is so concerned about giving scandal as he is about making life miserable for people he finds uncomfortable.
How can you write the above, and now claim to know the heart of the baker?
 
Now you are just being offensive.
Not intentionally. Why is it offensive to ask someone if they truly want to convert to a religion that they do not whole-heatedly love and believe in? In your studies, or in your RCIA class, have they discussed “The Great Commision” with you?
Your shot gun blast here is not furthering your cause. Why don’t you pick a topic and stick to it.
I’ve been writing about the same topic all along. Please clarify what part of what I’ve written appears to be off topic, please?
Seriously you think I should not become catholic because I think a person who decides to do a wedding business in a secular society should have to perform said business to any member of the public who seeks the service provided?
No. Your restatement of my posts misrepresents them. I was questioning what appears your support for homosexuality.
That’s odd.

To clear things up for you smart guy,

I am 100% behind the teachings of the One Holy Catholic and Apostolic Church

I am 100% against redefining marriage

I am 100% against homosexual acts which are “intrinsically disordered” and “grave matter”
Then, like it or not, when necessary you must be willing to both say so, and act in accordance to that belief.

That would include politely, lovingly refusing to bake a “wedding cake” for a homosexual couple who wish to engage in an act that is fundamentally a lie, and immoral.
I am also 100% against heterosexual acts far more prevalent in society such as sex outside marriage, cohabitation, adultery, etc… All grave matter.

I am 100% against the epidemic of pornography and masturbstion that has completely destroyed our culture.
A fine statement of what you believe. But what is your faith?
If I am not in line with the Catholic Church , show your brother his fault, catechism references about providing food for a commitment ceremony would be appreciated.
Thank you, brother. Here it is:

vatican.va/archive/ENG0015/_P80.HTM
It seems you give much more weight to the “same sex wedding” than I do. I see it as no marriage at all. You seen to see it as a legitimate marriage of some sort.
I do give weight to Caesar intruding on what is God’s, yes. But the point here is that of sending the message that homosexuality is acceptable, moral, normal, is not what God intended when he laid the Great Commission upon us.
The war to fight is on the items above, not in providing cake from your catalogue to someone who takes it and does who cares what with
You are misrepresenting the cases in question. The cakes in question were not ordered out of a catalog as a mass produced item, but specifically as “made to order” items that required the baker to know what he was doing, and what the cake would be used for.

If there is a difference between “belief” and “faith”, it is that faith is acting on your beliefs.

So, at what point would you say “I’m too close to this, I have to stand up and object?”
 
God is love.

By his nature he cannot and does not hate.
The quote, as I was taught it, was: “God is perfect love.” That statement is, of course, a lie; a lie of omission. God is also perfect mercy, perfect reason, perfect justice, and etc. God is not just love.

Whether or not “hate” is the proper word to use depends on what you mean by it. A sinner in hell may very well describe God’s attitude towards him as one of Perfect Hate, as his punishment is eternal, and God’s judgement of him final.

That, in a human being, I would call “hate.”

That said, that word is to easy to mis-understand, so I would prefer not to use it myself in reference to the attributes of God. I distinctly remember getting the wrong impression, once, when a person talked about how greatly God was angered by the cities of Sodom and Gomorrah.

🤷
 
So, baking a cake for a sinner is an “immoral action”? Better not go into the cake baking business then, there are a great many sinners who might want cakes baked.
No. You restated my position incorrectly. Why, isn’t clear, so out of deference to how difficult this seems to be for you to grasp, I will go slowly, point by point:

When one takes an action, one acts to a goal; a reason; a purpose.

An act done to no purpose, to accomplish no goal, done for no reason is not what I was talking about. To repeat, it is not the act alone that is under discussion, so you are entirely missing the point when you only talk about the action.

Nor is the state of BEING of a person in question; it has no bearing on my point.

Even more slowly: a “sinner” is a description of a person’s state of BEING. A person who is sinning is ACTING; they are committing a sin.

Again, the question is NOT the state of being of the customer.
So, baking a cake for a sinner is an “immoral action”?
No. Really, really slowly: we aren’t talking about the act of baking, nor the state of being of the person you are baking for.

It is the telos; the purpose; the goal to the use to which the cake will be put that is source of the immorality for the baker.

The purpose of baking the cake is to assist in the commission of an immoral act: a celebration of homosexuality, which is a mortal sin.

There is also the sin of scandal, but this first point seems to be so difficult for you to understand that I don’t want to confuse you with the more complex concept of leading people away from the truth.
 
What immoral action??
The immoral action of being complicit in a homosexual “union” or “wedding.”

Secondarily, the act of being seen to act in support of a homosexual “union” or “wedding.”
 
But, I in know way can understand how you can refuse to serve someone over it.
Does the baker of the cakes refuse to make wedding cakes for Catholics marrying outside the church?
Does the wedding photographer refuse to photograph weddings of a cohabitating couple?
Should people fill out a questionnaire prior to buying a cake.
All of these questions are easily settled by just allowing the free market to work.

That means that if a business owner wants to require a questionnaire or a marriage certificate, they should be allowed to run their business as they see fit. And if a customer doesn’t want to fill out a questionnaire, they can go somewhere else.
There is no approval or participation in evil by making a cake.
There is no participation in evil by taking photographs of a gay wedding. (As can be proven by photos being taken for news or documentary purposes right?)
Some religious folks feel very differently about it. Why should the government help them form their consciences?

That’s a bad idea! :mad:
So this is a fight that will not be won, it does nothing but equate people to racists and distracts from the real education on why marriage should just be between a man and woman.
Racism and discrimination by behavior are not comparable. Do not fall for that fallacy, it’s one of the favorites purported by the gay “marriage” movement.

It’s a social phenomena loaded with deceit and false hopes. :sadyes:
 
Religion is not required for compassion.
A lot of this “compassion” in general is just talk. It’s fun to use the force of government to take from others while claiming credit for “helping” and “giving”.

Quite another to sacrifice yourself without anyone else mandating you do so. :yup:
 
So, baking a cake for a sinner is an “immoral action”? Better not go into the cake baking business then, there are a great many sinners who might want cakes baked.
I think we’re getting close to a straw man here…
 
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