Remember my sister?

[whatevergirl]

Please keep my sister in your prayers. Recently, she told me she was getting out of that relationship she was in…living with a guy, who left his wife for her. (for those who don’t know the story) Well, I talked to her last night, (she is in Florida too) and she is so excited for me and my family to come to stay with ‘them.’ I asked her how things were going…she said…‘oh much better, things are going great.’

Not that I want her to be sad…but I truly feel that a)this guy she is living with is using her b)that being with a man that was married when you met him and has three kids under the age of 8 is a bad, both spiritually and secularly and c)that her soul is in danger because of how she met him.

Anyways…I didn’t say anything…I just listened. I have planted many seeds with her…at this point, I just feel badly for her. I think my sister is deathly afraid of being/living alone…which is why she stays in such a messy situation. She has told me he isn’t even altogether that kind to her anymore, and he asked her to marry him like 5 months ago, and she still has no ring?

Anywho…just wanted to share with you guys…please pray for her…I’m going to offer up the Rosary tomorrow at church for her, and some other intentions. Thanks for listening…not sure what else I might do for her?? Any ideas?

I think at this point, any additional advice from me will seem overstepping my boundary, in her eyes.

 

[jrabs]

awe. I will add my prayers too. It’s difficult to stand by and watch family make poor choices.

 

[whatevergirl]

awe. I will add my prayers too. It’s difficult to stand by and watch family make poor choices.

Hi jrabs…yes, it is. I have made a slew of mistakes in my life…I suppose because I did, I can see the flip side of wanting to change one’s life…live a life for God, instead of self centered fears and desires. You know, it’s fear that is driving this for her…thanks for keeping her in your prayers.

 

[jrabs]

Hi jrabs…yes, it is. I have made a slew of mistakes in my life…I suppose because I did, I can see the flip side of wanting to change one’s life…live a life for God, instead of self centered fears and desires. You know, it’s fear that is driving this for her…thanks for keeping her in your prayers.

Yes, a bunch of us on the forum have made horrible mistakes. However prayers do help turn lives around.
I pray that God will strengthen her through Him. That she may soften her heart and hear God calling from that correct path of life and then she may follow His voice down that path.

 

[whatevergirl]

thank you jrabs!:hug1:

here’s from today’s Gospel reading…and interpretation off of www.wau.org…thought it was very timely to this thread…

It is tempting to give up on people who seem to be far from God. Yet like the scribe, they may be just one or two steps away! It’s better that we do as Jesus did, and meet people where they are instead of trying to judge their spiritual condition. It’s better, too, that we take heart from anything they say or do that reveals a desire for the Lord or an agreement with his words. Rather than despair—or condemn—it is far better to encourage and support.

 

[LSK]

Hey! I resemble that remark! (about past poor choices).

Please do not give up on her - keep praying. My mother never stopped praying for me. Today I am an obedient daughter of the Holy Mother Church.

I guess, better late than never!

 

[dulcissima]

I think it is great that you will be near her now. She already knows how you feel, so I think if you relax a little bit and work on strengthening your relationship, you might help her realize that she has more options and is worth more than this guy who doesn’t really seem to value his marital obligations or your sister’s sanctity. I think being there for her can make a difference. I will be sure to keep your sister in my prayers.

 

[Em_in_FL]

I agree with the others here… staying close to your sister and praying hard for her are the most important things…

We’ve had lots of people in our family that have strayed into difficult situations… what can you do but love them and remind them that you’re always there for them?.. you don’t want to push them further away…

She’ll be in my prayers… and so will you! Watching a sister suffer (no matter how she got there) is never easy… it can be draining on you too…

God bless…

 

[whatevergirl]

Hey! I resemble that remark! (about past poor choices).

Please do not give up on her - keep praying. My mother never stopped praying for me. Today I am an obedient daughter of the Holy Mother Church.

I guess, better late than never!

PRAISE BE TO GOD…Yes, I hear you. I’m not giving up…I just don’t get why she doesn’t leave. She said she is not happy on several occasions…and feels that what she has done is ‘wrong,’ in the eyes of God. I remember times when I was immersed in mortal sin way back when…and when I finally confessed my sins to a priest…he said…‘you have been overwhelmed with your sin, it’s not unusual to struggle to get out of it.’ I never forgot what he said–never. So…she is overwhelmed…I pray to our Lord that He helps her to get out from this struggle…

 

[whatevergirl]

sigh…thing is too that she wants my husband, our kids, and me to spend the weekend at her place soon…ugh, I just don’t feel comfortable with the whole scene…you know? But, I don’t want to start WW3…my husband said we should just go once in a while to keep the peace – she knows right from wrong. Us staying there, he said…doesn’t condone it. I dunno…just bugs me, because even my kids understand at this point that their aunt is living in a bad situation…they miss their uncle too. It’s all kind of sad, really. But, thank you for listening…and for your prayers!!!

 

[whatevergirl]

The other thing that occured to me was that my sister told him…as he is wrapped up in a custody/child support battle with his ex, that ‘maybe he shouldn’t see his kids anymore.’ She had the nerve to tell him that!!! I did speak up on that…I said…‘who is that convenient for…you or him?’ She said, ‘well, if his ex gives him a hard time…’ I said, ‘it’s not up to you to decide how often he sees his kids.’

WHATEVER!!!:banghead:

 

[ltbpoe43]

Praying for you and your family and especially your sister and her heart.

Visiting okay - staying with them??? I’m not so sure on that. You said your kids miss their aunt and “their uncle” - is he? If I get your posts - he is a still married guy living with your sister.

You said you don’t feel comfortable with that and your instincts are right on. Trust those feelings.

I’m pretty sure me and my kids would have to stay someplace close by - but I would definitely visit to show support but I just wouldn’t stay under the same roof. Do you really know this “uncle” and all the cause of the current break up. It doesn’t bode well for your sister and we pray God’s plan for her unfolds soon and brings her the happiness she deserves. Peace.

 

[whatevergirl]

Praying for you and your family and especially your sister and her heart.

Visiting okay - staying with them??? I’m not so sure on that. You said your kids miss their aunt and “their uncle” - is he? If I get your posts - he is a still married guy living with your sister.

You said you don’t feel comfortable with that and your instincts are right on. Trust those feelings.

I’m pretty sure me and my kids would have to stay someplace close by - but I would definitely visit to show support but I just wouldn’t stay under the same roof. Do you really know this “uncle” and all the cause of the current break up. It doesn’t bode well for your sister and we pray God’s plan for her unfolds soon and brings her the happiness she deserves. Peace.

oops…sorry I wasn’t very clear. lol Their uncle is my sister’s ex husband who raised me (my ex BIL) My kids miss him.

This new guy is civilly divorced…but no annulment. Same for my sister. She said "the RCC will not grant me an annulment, so why bother.’’ I’m not sure either, but coveting another woman’s husband is bad news, any way you slice this situation.

Oh well…thank you for listening…and for your post!

 

[jules11]

Whatevergirl, I would visit your sister, but under no circumstances stay there. It isn’t sending the right message to your children. I know it can be hard, not wanting to offend people and all that… but it’s easier than in a few years dealing with it with your own children and them thinking that, ‘mum didn’t care too much with Aunt… so she’ll get over it with me.’
Besides other things… it just isn’t morally right to stay in a situation like that. You can love your sister, but her choices should not impact on your life or faith. I know it’s a hard one!
Don’t mean to tell you what to do… just my opinion.

 

[Katie1723]

…I think at this point, any additional advice from me will seem overstepping my boundary, in her eyes.

Smart thinking. Be there for her. Speaking from experience, state your case and then let it be. She most likely wants someone who will listen anyway.
Kathy

 

[whatevergirl]

Smart thinking. Be there for her. Speaking from experience, state your case and then let it be. She most likely wants someone who will listen anyway.
Kathy

exactly…I also have a lot on my own plate…I would love to swoop down an rescue my sister…but I know God will do that, once she lets Him in.

jules–thanks for your advice…it is what my husband and I were discussing over dinner. He can go either way…he said that we might start a rift with her, but he also wouldn’t care if we didn’t sleep over there, either.