Resisting impurity?

[Antonio_022]

So for the past 9 months, I have been consumed by the sin of impurity (i.e Masturbation/Pornography). I have taken 5 confessions these 9 months and the longest i could resist with the confession lasts about 2 weeks. Without confession, 2 days. I need a way to resist this sin ENTIRELY. Even without internet or electricity I still masturbate. I told myself that all this would stop at my birthday which is 10 days from now. Please help me.

 

[RonF]

So for the past 9 months, I have been consumed by the sin of impurity (i.e Masturbation/Pornography). I have taken 5 confessions these 9 months and the longest i could resist with the confession lasts about 2 weeks. Without confession, 2 days. I need a way to resist this sin ENTIRELY. Even without internet or electricity I still masturbate. I told myself that all this would stop at my birthday which is 10 days from now. Please help me.

Antonio,

You are not alone. In this world, it is very difficult to be pure. Most people don’t even try. Those of us who do want to follow the Church’s teaching and the Lord’s commandment on purity and chastity find it enormously difficult. I have struggled my whole life, but with God’s help I have now gone nearly a year without masturbating.

Success requires three things: prayer, self-education, and an action plan. You can’t do it through prayer alone. (God is not a slot machine where prayer goes in and purity comes out.) and you can’t do it through “willpower” or “white knuckling” your way through it. The Evil one is stronger than us, and we cannot withstand him on our own resources alone.

Also, this takes time. One cannot win the battle overnight. There is no quick fix. Instead, we make continual progress, one day at a time. The frequency diminishes, then with God’s grace ends for good. If we could quit overnight, we would probably give ourselves and our own holiness the credit.

There is a group here on Catholic Answers called the Impurity Addiction Support Group. I am an active member, and since joining it I have been clean for 335 days. You will find wonderful support and great ideas on how to defeat this. I strongly urge you to join us - I thing this group can be your God-given key to defeating your enslavement to this vice.

God bless!

Ron

 

[Chuck1]

I struggle with this aswell but I havnt done it in a month and a bit so what I do is
Pray
Fill my day with things to do
Go into a room where there are people
Set restricted acess on my Internet search
Feell really guilty and forget about it and say I’m not that person anymore and you want to nip this in the bud Before advent then you fell really bad !

Your in my prayers
Good luck and have a good birthday
Chuck

 

[RoseMary131]

God gives us so much strength and graces in His Sacrament of Confession.

Every single time you commit the sin, go to confession as soon as confession is offered in your town. Do not receive communion before going to confession. Make a list of the times confession is offered at all parishes in your area, so you know where you can go ASAP each time.

Go to confession every two weeks even if you have not comitted this sin. This will also strengthen you.

Steve Wood offers a booklet Breaking Free - 12 Steps for Sexual Purity for Men. $2.95

familylifecenterstore.net/breaking-free/

God bless.

 

[Antonio_022]

God gives us so much strength and graces in His Sacrament of Confession.

Every single time you commit the sin, go to confession as soon as confession is offered in your town. Do not receive communion before going to confession. Make a list of the times confession is offered at all parishes in your area, so you know where you can go ASAP each time.

Go to confession every two weeks even if you have not comitted this sin. This will also strengthen you.

Steve Wood offers a booklet Breaking Free - 12 Steps for Sexual Purity for Men. $2.95

familylifecenterstore.net/breaking-free/

God bless.

My school is Opus Dei so they offer Confessions. Sadly, my local church has no Confession because all the priests that host the masses are different. I already know about Sacrilegous Communion. My Mom always wants all of the family to take communion. So I can’t really stop myself without telling her about my problem. Also, I read that it can be taken if you are not able to attend confession. Is this true?

 

[RoseMary131]

My school is Opus Dei so they offer Confessions. Sadly, my local church has no Confession because all the priests that host the masses are different. I already know about Sacrilegous Communion. My Mom always wants all of the family to take communion. So I can’t really stop myself without telling her about my problem. Also, I read that it can be taken if you are not able to attend confession. Is this true?

Start by making regular confessions every two weeks at school. Then add in confession as soon after you sin as possible.

I’m sure your mother wants everyone to recieve communion, but I’m sure she also wants everyone in a state of grace before recieving. Can you tell your mother that you would like to begin going to confession more often?

You have no need to confess your sins to your mother, just that you want to strengthen yourself through the sacrament.

Where do the other parishioners go for confession?

Ask the priest in the confessional what you should do if you commit this sin and can not go to confession before Mass.

Maybe the idea of not being able to go to confession and thus not receiving Jesus in Holy Communion, may be a strong way to help you when you are tempted.

 

[Antonio_022]

I struggle with this aswell but I havnt done it in a month and a bit so what I do is
Pray
Fill my day with things to do
Go into a room where there are people
Set restricted acess on my Internet search
Feell really guilty and forget about it and say I’m not that person anymore and you want to nip this in the bud Before advent then you fell really bad !

Your in my prayers
Good luck and have a good birthday
Chuck

I don’t really think that guilt is the solution. Because i learned that God will forgive us and we shall never feel guilty but to earn that forgiveness, we have to work.And that guilt is never of God. That’s kind of my motivation as of late.

And thanks for the prayers and greeting!

 

[DeMontfort2]

I told myself that all this would stop at my birthday which is 10 days from now. Please help me.

this is going to sound harsh, but it’s intended to help.

this nonsense about stopping on a certain date never works. you need to stop NOW. TODAY.

you have to pray. ask God for the grace to resist the temptation. Whenever you feel the need to sin, pray; even if this means you pray 50 times a day.

you’ve become accustomed to an elevated level of dopamine and serotonin associated with an orgasm. it will take time but you will eventually get over the addiction if you humble yourself and ask for the strength to do what’s right.

don’t forget to ask Mother Mary and the saints to pray for you as well.

 

[cap76]

you’ve become accustomed to an elevated level of dopamine and serotonin associated with an orgasm. it will take time but you will eventually get over the addiction if you humble yourself and ask for the strength to do what’s right./QUOTE]

Sin starts at the level of the heart. It is covetousness, an inordinate desire for something which God has forbidden. Also, there are the physical aspects which affect your body. You have been feeding lust and the nature of lust is that it is never truly satisfied, it will always come back for more. The physical urges will come on with great strength, but you need to fight really really hard to overcome them. Then the urges will become less intense. You need to place the reason for the hope that is in you in your mind everyday. Realize when you are most vulnerable (usually while you are in bed or lounging around) and prepare to do battle when bedtime comes. Just before bed, meditate upon the things which will keep you from sinning and when you wake, let them be the first things to dominate your thoughts. I look to Christ hanging upon the cross suffering for such sins, and ask, ‘how shall I trample His blood beneath my feet by my sin?’ FIGHT, FIGHT, FIGHT! A good preacher once said, “you must be killing sin, or sin will be killing you!”

 

[Antonio_022]

this is going to sound harsh, but it’s intended to help.

this nonsense about stopping on a certain date never works. you need to stop NOW. TODAY.

you have to pray. ask God for the grace to resist the temptation. Whenever you feel the need to sin, pray; even if this means you pray 50 times a day.

you’ve become accustomed to an elevated level of dopamine and serotonin associated with an orgasm. it will take time but you will eventually get over the addiction if you humble yourself and ask for the strength to do what’s right.

don’t forget to ask Mother Mary and the saints to pray for you as well.

I have tried and i have failed. But there is still hope. I found out that if this soon becomes a habit, it will become uncontrollable but if it is late enough for control, you are the master of this sin. I have currently gone a week without sinning but please pray for me. I have had TONS of urges and barely escaped.

 

[RoseMary131]

I have tried and i have failed. But there is still hope. I found out that if this soon becomes a habit, it will become uncontrollable but if it is late enough for control, you are the master of this sin. I have currently gone a week without sinning but please pray for me. I have had TONS of urges and barely escaped.

Keep up your courage. It is never uncontrollable. Have faith. We are thankful God gave you the graces to escape the temptations.