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Ioana
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Essentially, as the question says where does it stop being a responsibility?
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Avila123
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Ioana, in short and based on what you said “No you have not”. It seems to me that you are trying to honor you parents the best you can in very difficult circumstances. For whatever reason, it seems like your mother is hurting a lot, getting angry and then getting upset because you are honest and cannot go along with (or guess) what she has been saying.
I can only suggest trying not to give out so much information if possible. I learned years ago that when parents are at war or angry, the best thing is to try to get out of the way and be a very useless weapon.
Just because we are to honor our parents, it doesn’t mean letting them use us as a weapon, or getting involved in any of their deceptions. God knows how hard it is for you, so keep praying for them and yourself.
I can only suggest trying not to give out so much information if possible. I learned years ago that when parents are at war or angry, the best thing is to try to get out of the way and be a very useless weapon.
Just because we are to honor our parents, it doesn’t mean letting them use us as a weapon, or getting involved in any of their deceptions. God knows how hard it is for you, so keep praying for them and yourself.
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Cruciferi
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It sounds like there’s way more going on here than this forum can possibly sort out. I’m assuming you’re not yet 18. Therefore, if your mother has sole custody, you’re gonna have to put up with this until you can move out.
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TheLittleLady
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If you are a minor, still dependent on your parents you owe them obedience (if they do not command something immoral).
All of your life you owe them respect.
You honor your parents by not bringing them dishonor.
Paragraph breaks are your friend.
All of your life you owe them respect.
You honor your parents by not bringing them dishonor.
Paragraph breaks are your friend.
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Viki63
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No, Ioana, you haven’t sinned. It sounds like your mother is difficult and expects you to read her mind. Clearly you can’t do that.
As Avila said, try to not divulge too much info to your parents. But it’s too much to expect that you not mention you went out for dinner to your dad, just because your mom is trying to tell him that you have a hard life.
Perhaps you could talk to your priest or an understanding teacher about your situation. It sounds like you could use a helpful ear.
Praying for your family.
As Avila said, try to not divulge too much info to your parents. But it’s too much to expect that you not mention you went out for dinner to your dad, just because your mom is trying to tell him that you have a hard life.
Perhaps you could talk to your priest or an understanding teacher about your situation. It sounds like you could use a helpful ear.
Praying for your family.
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Xanthippe_Voorhees
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There are many factors here.
One is that you are a minor at home. You do need to respect the adult in the household you live in.
HOWEVER.
In America, your mother’s behavior would be considered parental alienation. It is both abuse and considered a crime.
I would recommend going to your high school guidance counselor. Tell them what you said here. Explain to them how your mother is berating your ideas, lying about what your father said and interfering with your relationship. They will know the social and legal ramifications and can help you navigate them.
You need a professional to help you navigate what’s going on here. Different countries have different laws and rulings so I can’t speak to each. As an American in the educational field, I would call for a legal assessment of parental estrangement for you if you were a child/teen who came to me.
One is that you are a minor at home. You do need to respect the adult in the household you live in.
HOWEVER.
In America, your mother’s behavior would be considered parental alienation. It is both abuse and considered a crime.
I would recommend going to your high school guidance counselor. Tell them what you said here. Explain to them how your mother is berating your ideas, lying about what your father said and interfering with your relationship. They will know the social and legal ramifications and can help you navigate them.
You need a professional to help you navigate what’s going on here. Different countries have different laws and rulings so I can’t speak to each. As an American in the educational field, I would call for a legal assessment of parental estrangement for you if you were a child/teen who came to me.
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