Responding to friends who malign the Church in front of Catholics

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My mother mentioned to me that a few people in her group of friends (that she socializes with frequently) say terrible things about the Catholic Church in front of her, knowing full well that she is Catholic! She is surprised and kind of down about this. The friends are not fundamentalists, they are from liberal mainline churches in the area.

I told her that the same thing had been happening to me too! I too was very surprised that some of my “friends” would say such things in front of me, knowing full well that I am a Catholic. I was always taught to be respectful of others’ religions, so this is so bewildering. If someone wants to discuss religious issues with me in a sincere and charitable manner, I’m always open, but I’ve never heard of civil people just blurting out unkind things about someone else’s religion - especially right in front of them!

For instance, there are many things I do not accept or like about many denominations or other faiths (such as Mormonism, Jehovah’s Witnesses, etc), but if I was socializing with one of them it would be rude to start disparaging their religion then and there.

Has our culture changed so much that this has become acceptable practice? What would be a good response to such people?
 
You could say that you are offended by their comments. You could point out their prejudice and challenge them. If they don’t stop you are free to avoid them and find new friends.

I’ve been in the same situation and suffered for a long time, feeling intimidated. At one point I got fed up, stood up for my faith and answered back. Guess what happened: people were suddenly very quiet and stunned that I spoke up. They didn’t expect it to happen. many people say the most rude things when they feel safe and supported by others. But when challenged they lose the courage and often don’t know how to respond. Don’t be afraid. It might be hard the first time but it gets easier with practice.
 
I had exactly that situation at Thanksgiving dinner this year. I was at the home of a Protestant minister. I didn’t say anything, although I certainly wanted to,

But I am reminded of something I was told long ago:

“Never argue with an idiot. After a while, it’s difficult to tell which one is which.”
 
Hello.

You just gave me a good idea, well, it’s an idea, anyway.

Whenever my husband gets testy or pleasantly sarcastic with me, I’ve learned to give him a hug and tell him how wonderful he is. This always stops the talk in a gentle way and we remain friends, as well as married. 😉

Maybe, if they’re really your friends, you could warmly shake their hand and tell them which Catholic parish you go to and which Mass you attend regularly right when they make these comments to you.

Please disregard this if it’s of no help.

Many blessings to you.
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My mother mentioned to me that a few people in her group of friends (that she socializes with frequently) say terrible things about the Catholic Church in front of her, knowing full well that she is Catholic! What would be a good response to such people?
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