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We’ve been married for 17 years, 15 of which have been a total sexual missery since my wife gave birth to our first daughter 2 years into the marriage. Newly weds sex was fantastic, everything and more of what I expected I won the lotterywith her. After my daughter was born my wife entered a severe post partum depression and since then her hormones have been out of control, had been diagnosed for bipolar disorder other doctors just severe PMS, etc, she never follows through any treatment as she doesn’t like medications because of the possible side effects
I had cancer 3 times seven years into the marriage, radiation treatment got my foreskin severely burn and after surgery with severe scar tissue, having sex is vary painful as my skin does not expand anymore. I had my thyroid removed, diabetic, high blood pressure, cholesterol, one side effect of the medications is lost of libido. To say the least, I wish it was true. I love my wife very much and I desire her every day for the last 25 years since she was my girlfriend, I don’t know if I love her more than I desire her or viceverse.
For 15 years we have sex 1-3 times a month if lucky, 1 or two months had passed. She blames her horminal problem, and continues her life normal, I feel like a street dog begging for sex almost every day for 15 years. She spends hours cleaning, working, reading, hours praying as she is very devoted, but she is too tired for 10 minutes of intimacy, she says that needs sleep or simply silence, if I hug or simply place my hand on her she gets mad and then for the next few days it is my fault because I didn’t let her sleep.
I am tired of begging for sex to my wife, it is not life, 3 times this years she did it out of the obligation by the church to “take care” of her husband… it was absolutely pathetic, I could see her total desinteres, no reactions, no emotions, really not what I want. Every morning she wakes up like nothing is happening and we are happily married. We have two beautiful kids that I rather die than not living with them for the few years we have before starting their lives. Whe I get angry, she says that I don’t support nor understand her hormonal problem, maybe I’m selfish, but I had severe hormonal problems and still get aroused just by watching her on lingerie or touching her.
It is now 3:52am and I’m here venting to see if I find a clear solution, I don’t want to go back to a church that obligates my wife to have sex with me, just like a sex slave; but I refuse to continue to live this emotional and physical torture of wanting her so bad just to be rejected every time of every day, by my own wife.
I want to stay at my house for my children, but I refuse to beg for sex. Maybe a fake life pretending every day that this is normal as my wife does. I will pay for sex not to pest my wife. I’ll get my 10 minutes of attention whenever it starts to get painful from all the times I get aroused at home; she gets to sleep peacefully all she wants, and we can live like this until she finds whom she desires to have sex with or my children move out to college, whatever comes first.
Now, your comments.
I had cancer 3 times seven years into the marriage, radiation treatment got my foreskin severely burn and after surgery with severe scar tissue, having sex is vary painful as my skin does not expand anymore. I had my thyroid removed, diabetic, high blood pressure, cholesterol, one side effect of the medications is lost of libido. To say the least, I wish it was true. I love my wife very much and I desire her every day for the last 25 years since she was my girlfriend, I don’t know if I love her more than I desire her or viceverse.
For 15 years we have sex 1-3 times a month if lucky, 1 or two months had passed. She blames her horminal problem, and continues her life normal, I feel like a street dog begging for sex almost every day for 15 years. She spends hours cleaning, working, reading, hours praying as she is very devoted, but she is too tired for 10 minutes of intimacy, she says that needs sleep or simply silence, if I hug or simply place my hand on her she gets mad and then for the next few days it is my fault because I didn’t let her sleep.
I am tired of begging for sex to my wife, it is not life, 3 times this years she did it out of the obligation by the church to “take care” of her husband… it was absolutely pathetic, I could see her total desinteres, no reactions, no emotions, really not what I want. Every morning she wakes up like nothing is happening and we are happily married. We have two beautiful kids that I rather die than not living with them for the few years we have before starting their lives. Whe I get angry, she says that I don’t support nor understand her hormonal problem, maybe I’m selfish, but I had severe hormonal problems and still get aroused just by watching her on lingerie or touching her.
It is now 3:52am and I’m here venting to see if I find a clear solution, I don’t want to go back to a church that obligates my wife to have sex with me, just like a sex slave; but I refuse to continue to live this emotional and physical torture of wanting her so bad just to be rejected every time of every day, by my own wife.
I want to stay at my house for my children, but I refuse to beg for sex. Maybe a fake life pretending every day that this is normal as my wife does. I will pay for sex not to pest my wife. I’ll get my 10 minutes of attention whenever it starts to get painful from all the times I get aroused at home; she gets to sleep peacefully all she wants, and we can live like this until she finds whom she desires to have sex with or my children move out to college, whatever comes first.
Now, your comments.
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