Back in my “casual,” or “cafeteria” Catholic days, I was a big fan of the Red Hot Chili Peppers, among other groups that I would not listen to now. You may ask, what is wrong with them? Not to individually pick on them, but since another poster brought them up, let’s examine the issue… While, “Breaking The Girl,” may sound musically brilliant, it is glamorizing taking a girl’s virginity(no indication of marriage whatsoever.) What about, “I could have lied?” Regretting telling the truth??? “Sir Psycho Sexy” - quite a few profanities and degrading to women. “Mellowship Slinky in B Major” - uses God’s name quite a few times, not giving Him glory. “Suck My Kiss,” uses profanity and assigns a creation to some woman’s mouth that is NOT why God made her. “Give it Away,” can be interpreted suggestively. The aforementioned songs are all on the “Blood Sugar Sex Magic” CD, and that is just scratching the surface. I haven’t seen it, but I heard that their “Funky Monks,” video is very obscene.
Now, on the issue of lovers’ lament songs. Many men can relate to the lyrics, “Why she had to go, I don’t know. She wouldn’t say. I said something wrong, now I long for yesterday” Many men can relate to, “Was it something I said or something I did…did the words not come out right.” Also, many men can relate to, “Just one more fight about your leadership, and I will straight up leave your…” I’m sure that many women can also relate to the lyrics, “Every time you speak her name did she know that you told me you’d hold me until you die…and you’re still alive!” However, do any of those lyrics(Beatles, Poison, Limp Bizkit, Alannis Morisette) bring POSITIVE emotions out of people who got a raw deal in a past relationship? The moods can range from depressed to furious, and yes, as another poster mentioned, different people will react differently, but clearly a positive uplifting message is not what is intended here. It’s more of a wallow in misery with me, or join me in my venomous rage kind of message. It is more likely to contribute to disdain towards the opposite sex, than the love and charity that God calls us to show. Someone who has just been through a bad relationship needs a message of hope, and the aforementioned songs don’t provide that. Thus, it isn’t good for the soul. Songs like “Second Chance” by 38 Special, or “Take Good Care of My Baby,” by Bobby Vee are also bad, because they are an attempt to generate sympathy for men who cheat. Not that Jesus didn’t die for that sin, too, but there are too many decent men out there for cheaters to be portrayed as “romantic.” Then, you get songs like “Never Say Goodbye,” by Bon Jovi, or “Getcha Back,” by the Beach Boys that look back to the fact that they were sexually immoral with ex-lovers as a positive thing, and want her back. “What it Takes” by Aerosmith is another depressing wallow in misery song, as is “Settle For A Slowdown,” by Dierks Bentley, a song showing sadness that an ex is moving on with her life, full speed ahead. The underlying theme behind all these songs is that, “She was everything. Now that she’s gone, my future holds nothing, unless I can have her again.” In essence, it denies the hope we have in Jesus Christ, and encourages people to bring the baggage of their past relationships into any new relationship they may enter, (“If I Fell” by the Beatles), which would hurt the new relationship and perpetuate the cycle of misery. That’s not to say that from a strictly musical perspective, the aforementioned songs aren’t good, but we can’t allow ourselves to be seduced by music in that manner. Bad attitudes can develope subtly without us even knowing it is happening to us. Now, there are some break-up songs that take a more positive emotional spin to a break-up. Songs like “Already Gone,” by the Eagles, “Another Girl,” by the Beatles, and of course FREEBIRD!!! Still, though, being MORE positive is not positive enough, especially in “Another Girl,” which seems like he is using the new girl to claim victory over the ex. As I said, songs about the deceased can be an exception, like “Last Kiss,” although even with that song, it would be nice to mention more than merely being good to get to Heaven. There are some songs about break-ups that send positive messages of hope. “Love Song,” by Tesla, or “Broken Heart” by White Lion would be examples. Those are the types of messages that people who have been through a bad relationship should hear. Those are songs that could really lift someone up. They create an attitude of looking forward to the future, rather than dwelling on the misery of the past. Even so, the lyric about taking the new girl home in “Broken Heart,” has some negative implications.