Roomate wants to go to non-denominational Service

[Kendy]

Hi,

My new roomate is whell-chair bound and she just moved to Chicago from Notre Dame University. I was trying to make plans to drive her to Mass this morning where there’s wheel chair accessibility. Anyway, she said that 11 a.m. Mass was too early, and then asked me if there was a non-denominational service she could go to “just to check it out.” I was very disappointed, but I just said, I don’t know. I was really looking forward to having a catholic roomate. Anyway, how do I handle my roomate’s desire to go to a non-denominational service at a more convenient time. And should I drive her if she asks?

I just hate being in these situations because people invariably think you are just closed-minded and then they just don’t listen to you.

Kendy

 

[MariaG]

Hi,

My new roomate is whell-chair bound and she just moved to Chicago from Notre Dame University. I was trying to make plans to drive her to Mass this morning where there’s wheel chair accessibility. Anyway, she said that 11 a.m. Mass was too early, and then asked me if there was a non-denominational service she could go to “just to check it out.” I was very disappointed, but I just said, I don’t know. I was really looking forward to having a catholic roomate. Anyway, how do I handle my roomate’s desire to go to a non-denominational service at a more convenient time. And should I drive her if she asks?

I just hate being in these situations because people invariably think you are just closed-minded and then they just don’t listen to you.

Kendy

Personally, I would just make sure that the offer to take her to Mass stands as an open invite. As for taking her to a nondenominational Church, I would politely tell her that you already went to Church and you have other plans for the afternoon. And make sure you do have plans even if it is reading the Bible at home when your roommate wants the ride.

You cannot make someone go to Mass. But just because your roommate is wheel chair bound does not mean you have to cart them around places if you don’t normally go there. Not unless it was part of the agreement before they moved in. A roommate is a roommate.

And I am sorry that it appears your hope of getting a Catholic roommate were dashed.

God Bless,
Maria

 

[DCD]

Nooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo

Peace,
David

 

[Kendy]

Personally, I would just make sure that the offer to take her to Mass stands as an open invite. As for taking her to a nondenominational Church, I would politely tell her that you already went to Church and you have other plans for the afternoon. And make sure you do have plans even if it is reading the Bible at home when your roommate wants the ride.

You cannot make someone go to Mass. But just because your roommate is wheel chair bound does not mean you have to cart them around places if you don’t normally go there. Not unless it was part of the agreement before they moved in. A roommate is a roommate.

And I am sorry that it appears your hope of getting a Catholic roommate were dashed.

God Bless,
Maria

We have no such agreement. But I already offered to take her to mass in the afternoon (eventhough I am going in the morning), but we would have to go to a church no so close to home, and she didn’t seem up for that.

Kendy

 

[MariaG]

We have no such agreement. But I already offered to take her to mass in the afternoon (eventhough I am going in the morning), but we would have to go to a church no so close to home, and she didn’t seem up for that.

Kendy

That does make it a little more sticky.

Is she a baptized Catholic? If she is, then you can tell her that you can take her to Mass in the afternoon, but feel it would be wrong to take her to a nondenominational Church since it would be putting her soul in mortal danger if she leaves the Catholic church and she will need to find her own ride if she chooses not to attend the Catholic Church.

This will probably upset her and may make her a distant roommate, but I really don’t see how you have a choice in the matter while keeping your own moral compass.

God Bless,
Maria

 

[Kendy]

That does make it a little more sticky.

Is she a baptized Catholic? If she is, then you can tell her that you can take her to Mass in the afternoon, but feel it would be wrong to take her to a nondenominational Church since it would be putting her soul in mortal danger if she leaves the Catholic church and she will need to find her own ride if she chooses not to attend the Catholic Church.

This will probably upset her and may make her a distant roommate, but I really don’t see how you have a choice in the matter while keeping your own moral compass.

God Bless,
Maria

Yes, she’s a baptized catholic. Confirmed and everything.

 

[MariaG]

Yes, she’s a baptized catholic. Confirmed and everything.

No, I do not think you can in good conscience facillitate her leaving of the Catholic Church since you know that she will be/has placed her soul in mortal danger through her actions.

She is an adult and needs to find her own way to a nondenominational Church.

However, as I said, be prepared for a possibly distant roommate. But pray that your stance will help her to realize the importance of continuing to go to the Catholic Church and not giving up the Real Presence of Christ.

God Bless,
Maria