Sacraments

[CarmenM]

My husband attended RCIA, obtained his annulment. We are waiting now on my annulment in order for him to be Baptized into the church and for our amrraige to be covalidated. (I am already Catholic). My question is, can our marriage convalidation take place during the same Sunday Mass as his Baptism, or should be have a special Mass on a Saturday for both Sacraments? We really wanted his Baptism to take place at a Sunday Mass, but it seems like it would be too much to add a marriage convalidation.

 

[Mrs_Sally]

You’ll have to ask your priest about this. Remember, he will be baptized, confirmed, and receive his First Holy Communion all at the same time. Perhaps you should arrange for your convalidation to be later that week. But check with the pastor before making any plans–his will be the final word.

 

[Diaconia]

Carmen:

Yes it can. A couple of years ago a woman who I had prepared to enter the Church was baptized, confirmed and received her first Holy Communion all at the same Mass. We had a reception for her and afterward I validated her marriage in a small ceremony. Four sacraments in one day – what graces were poured upon her that day!

I hope you hear soon regarding your nullity case. I will pray for you and your husband.

God bless,

Deacon Chris

 

[SuscipeMeDomine]

My husband attended RCIA, obtained his annulment. We are waiting now on my annulment in order for him to be Baptized into the church and for our amrraige to be covalidated. (I am already Catholic). My question is, can our marriage convalidation take place during the same Sunday Mass as his Baptism, or should be have a special Mass on a Saturday for both Sacraments? We really wanted his Baptism to take place at a Sunday Mass, but it seems like it would be too much to add a marriage convalidation.

Adults are baptized at the Easter Vigil. That’s a Mass that is already very full and very long.

Perhaps your convalidation could take place either outside of Mass or at another Mass earlier in the week.

 

[CarmenM]

We have been told that he does not have to wait for the Easter Vigil Mass and that he can come into the church anytime now, once this annulment is finalized.

 

[parrotgal]

I know I will be corrected (of course!) if i am wrong on this.

When I was going through RCIA, (in the Jubilee Year 2000!) my husband already being Catholic, we were told that we had to have our marriage convalidated BEFORE I was baptized, otherwise we would be living in sin after my Baptism and receiving my Sacraments.
So that is what we did. One RCIA night the whole group witnessed our “new marriage” in the Church. It was the whole marriage ceremony, with readings and the whole shebang! The cool part was my kids (who were also going through the RCIA process) got to see their parents being married “for real”.

Good luck and welcome to your husband into the Church!

molly

 

[CarmenM]

That’s interesting… I was told Baptism has to come first. We lived like brother and sister for a while so I could continue receiving the Sacraments. But then, I just stopped receiving the Sacraments. At least it won’t be as long as it has been. I’m expecting the first finding any day now.

Thanks!

 

[puzzleannie]

My husband attended RCIA, obtained his annulment. We are waiting now on my annulment in order for him to be Baptized into the church and for our amrraige to be covalidated. (I am already Catholic). My question is, can our marriage convalidation take place during the same Sunday Mass as his Baptism, or should be have a special Mass on a Saturday for both Sacraments? We really wanted his Baptism to take place at a Sunday Mass, but it seems like it would be too much to add a marriage convalidation.

Yes with some care and attention to detail. Normally the marriage would be convalidated right before (not during) the Easter Vigil, and his baptism, confirmation and first communion during that Mass. The diocese might even have some celebration planned for folks share your circumstance.

If for some reason your pastor has permission to receive your husband at another time, yes the marriage vows could be exchanged before the baptism and other sacraments are conferred. But it is something that needs to be coordinated and planned for so discuss it with the priest who is preparing him, and whatever RCIA director is in charge. Bear in mind he may have very good reasons for not doing it this way, which he will explain to you. Sensibilities of non-Catholics who you invite to the marriage ceremony would be one reason for suggesting a different scenario.

If the logistics mean that the convalidation will happen after the initiation sacraments, then yes a couple would “live as brother and sister” until the marriage is convalidated, but if at all possible this should be done as soon as possible and before baptism. If the reasons why have not been explained to you insist the pastor instruct you both as this is information you need. The marriage is convalidated (made valid) and at the moment of your husband’s baptism, automatically becomes sacramental as well.

Wow 4 sacraments, stand back because the blast of grace into your family is going to be hurricane force. Welcome home to you both as you enter fully into the life of Christ in the sacraments.

 

[Br.Rich_SFO]

My husband attended RCIA, obtained his annulment. We are waiting now on my annulment in order for him to be Baptized into the church and for our amrraige to be covalidated. (I am already Catholic). My question is, can our marriage convalidation take place during the same Sunday Mass as his Baptism, or should be have a special Mass on a Saturday for both Sacraments? We really wanted his Baptism to take place at a Sunday Mass, but it seems like it would be too much to add a marriage convalidation.

Several years ago at another parish, after the Easter Vigil we had a Marriage Convalidation (after Mass) it only takes a few minutes. Adult Baptism should only take place at the Easter Vigil, unless there is a serious need like danger of death.