Thank you MtnDwellar:
I try to follow the advice of St. Francis deSales about how to handle calumny and such. Everyone ought to read that. His advice is mighty wise. Here again is a link of St. deSales essay about this:
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Yes, I have been poked to a point that at one time it has affected my health. I have been accused of just about everything you can imagine. Several people have harassed me and tried to destroy me and this apostolate off of the Internet and in “real life”. I have even had my life threatened. One person even tried to use my children to attack me. All this because apparently these people do not like the truth and will tell any lie to shut down me and this organization.
In each and every case, these people offer no evidence to back their accusations. They do what St. deSales says of the worldly mind:
It is not possible to satisfy the world’s unreasonable demands… if we give in to the world, and laugh, dance, and play as it does, it will affect to be scandalized; if we refuse to do so, it will accuse us of being hypocritical or morbid. If we adorn ourselves after its fashion, it will put some evil construction on what we do; if we go in plain attire, it will accuse us of meanness; our cheerfulness will be called dissipation; our mortification dulness; and ever casting its evil eye upon us, nothing we can do will please it. It exaggerates our failings, and publishes them abroad as sins; it represents our venial sins as mortal, and our sins of infirmity as malicious.
… and if it cannot find fault with our actions, it is sure at least to impute bad motives to them…
There is no surer groundwork for the beginnings of a devout life than the endurance of misrepresentation and calumny, since thereby we escape the danger of vainglory and pride… We are crucified to the world, and the world must be as crucified to us. It esteems us as fools, let us esteem it as mad.
I think the reason that God allows this terrible behavior on the part of other Catholics (whom are suppose to be fellow brothers and sisters), is that if I, or anyone like me, cannot persevere through the mud slinging, then I have no business doing this or any other apostolate. It is a test that God uses to teach and mold. Besides, the mud slinging says nothing about me, but it says volumes about the mud-slinger. Keep in mind, in order to sling mud the mud-slinging must get his own hands muddy.
St. deSales says that when we are slandered in a way that effects others, then we must do a little more than just make a statement of truth. We get around 500,000 hits per month. That is a small amount, but it is a lot when one considers that we do no promotion at all so far. 100,000s of thousands of people around the world since 1997 have read our websites, which also contains my essays. I take that seriously because I will be held accountable to God for how I have publicly influenced people.
I think people need to remember the advice by St. Ignatius of Loyola:
Every good Christian ought to be more ready to give a favorable interpretation to another’s statement than to condemn it. But if he cannot do so, let him ask how the other understands it. And if the latter understands it badly, let the former correct him with love. If that does not suffice, let the Christian try all suitable ways to bring the other to a correct interpretation so that he may be saved.
Also, the advice of St. Paul who said:
"But if you bite and devour one another, take care that you are not consumed by one another" (Gal. 5:15).
I try to follow this advice. I fail at it sometimes, but I do try. There is no point in biting each other. This is not the Christian way.
We are, however, to expose error whenever it is found and regardless of whom posits that error.
By the way, I have been asked why I do not defend myself much of the time. The reason is that if I were to address each and every attack I would get nothing else done.
This, I created a blog called
The Detractor Malefactor Chronicles. In this blog my detractors get their full say unedited, then we write a response line-by-line. We fully acknowledge the things that are true, and point out the things that are false.
One note: just because something is true does not make it fair game to gossip about and try to harm people. That is called detraction, which is a grave sin.
By having this blog we can let people know our side of things, and expose the evil and lies that get purported.
The Jeff Mirus situation has not been written up yet, but it will go on this blog. There are a couple of other entries that need to go on the blog and will get there eventually. We don’t spend a lot of time on it as there are much more important tasks to perform. But, St. deSales says we should respond to error in respect for the truth.
St. deSales also says that once that truth has been presented, if the slanderer is convicted of his sin, praise God. If the slanderer is not convicted of his sin then also praise God for we are to accept it as mortification and, as St deSales says, “A 1000 pounds of mortification is greater than one ounce of honor.”
Jesus says we are to bless those who persecute us or harm us. I bless each of you who have participated in gossip and defamation or false accusations toward me. May you be well and blessed and happy in the Lord and healed of the ill will toward anyone.