Saint with relationship problems

[BintuluChuchGuy]

Hi everyone,Im going to get confirmed in September this year,and our Sunday School teacher asked us to find a saint so that we could follow their way of life.Im trying to find a saint who had relationship problems in his/her life because in my life I always have relationship problems one after another with friends,family and etc…

Thank you,God bless.

 

[Madeline616]

1. Elisabeth Leseur:

She’s not a saint, but the cause for her cannonization has, I believe, been open since 1934. Here is Amazon’s product description for the book about her life:

This inspiring book gives you a splendid example of how to live as a Christian in a secular environment that can be indifferent or hostile to your Faith. For Elisabeth Leseur had two great loves: God and her husband Felix, who was an atheist. Felix loved Elisabeth as well; yet to their mutual sorrow, he couldn’t share the life of the Spirit that Elisabeth cherished.
Occasionally the happiness of their life together in upper-class Parisian society was shattered by Felix’s frustration and impatience. How could such an intelligent woman waste her time, as he saw it, with ignorant superstitions? Sometimes he and his friends would even ridicule and mock her faith.

But Elisabeth loved Felix too much to allow their home to degenerate into an emotional war zone. She realized that confrontations and arguments were useless; she chose instead to keep quiet and pray for Felix. In her secret diary she recorded how she used his efforts to destroy her faith as means to grow in love for him and for God.

Throughout their life together, it grieved Elisabeth to think that Felix might be separated from her for all eternity because of his rejection of God.

For her, life in Heaven wouldn’t be happy without him. Yet when she died prematurely, Felix was still an unbeliever.

The story doesn’t end there. When Felix found this diary, he discovered how Elisabeth’s whole life bore witness to the truth of the God she loved.

In time, Felix was transformed by the diary and his memories of Elisabeth. He became a Christian and, later, a priest. Now she may even be declared a saint. Elisabeth’s diary and spiritual writings (all included in this one volume) map out for you a path to marital harmony and greater love for God — especially if you love someone who stands outside the Faith. Let Elisabeth’s two great loves, and her faith and perseverance, inspire you now.

1. Saint Rita of Cascia

Here is a description from Catholic.org:

St. Rita was born at Spoleto, Italy in 1381. At an early age, she begged her parents to allow her to enter a convent. Instead they arranged a marriage for her. Rita became a good wife and mother, but her husband was a man of violent temper. In anger he often mistreated his wife. He taught their children his own evil ways.

Rita tried to perform her duties faithfully and to pray and receive the sacraments frequently. After nearly twenty years of marriage, her husband was stabbed by an enemy but before he died, he repented because Rita prayed for him. Shortly afterwards, her two sons died, and Rita was alone in the world. Prayer, fasting, penances of many kinds, and good works filled her days. She was admitted to the convent of the Augustinian nuns at Cascia in Umbria, and began a life of perfect obedience and great charity.

1. Saint Monica, Mother of Saint Augustine

In addition to being married to a difficult man, who was unfaithful to her, she prayed for years and years for conversion for her son, who later became a saint.

An excerpt from the West Coast Augustinians Website:

Monica was a woman of great inner resources buoyed up by a profound faith, but it did not go untested. She never abandoned the desire to see her talented but wayward son a Christian. For almost eighteen years this preoccupied much of her thinking and action. She had persuaded Patricius to have Augustine enrolled as a catechumen, but it seems that neither she nor her husband was overly concerned about baptism. She was rightly indignant, however, when Augustine was unfaithful to the catechumenate, having joined the Manicheans. She stoutly refused him entrance into her home, until after a dream where she was assured that one day Augustine would be a Christian.

Monica’s whole life, as well as her sanctification, “was inextricably bound up with Augustine’s, her faith, hope, and love were heroically tested and proved pure in the crucible of suffering.” One bishop told her that she should be consoled because the son of so many tears could not be lost to Christ. Such occasional consolations gave her new courage to press on. Augustine was strong-willed, stubborn, and not infrequently deceitful with his mother, Monica. It is understandable that Augustine at the age of twenty-nine did not relish having his mother accompany him to Rome, where he was to teach rhetoric. But one cannot excuse the deceitful way in which he escaped. He intimated that she should go back to the inn, because he wanted to say goodbye to a friend. Instead, he sailed away. When this became known to Monica, she wept; she continued to pray for Augustine’s conversion. Later, she followed him and joined him in Milan, and it was here in 386, due in great part to Saint Ambrose’s preaching, that Augustine finally converted and was baptized in the spring of 387.

 

[catharina]

Hi everyone,Im going to get confirmed in September this year,and our Sunday School teacher asked us to find a saint so that we could follow their way of life.Im trying to find a saint who had relationship problems in his/her life because in my life I always have relationship problems one after another with friends,family and etc…

Thank you,God bless.

I recommend St. Vincent de Paul who often accused himself of irritability.
Little is more dangerous to “smooth sailing” in relationships than an irritable attitude.
Also, there’s TONS of material on him. In addition, he’s the founder of several communities!

Welcome to fullness of life in the Church.

 

[Monica4316]

Maybe St Stanislaus Kostka? I read that he had many problems with his brother.

St. Stanislaus Kostka Biography of a Saint“Come let us go into the church and pray before the Blessed Sacrament.”

"The name Stanislaus means glory and honor. This young saint had to suffer many trials and difficulties in his short life, some due to family problems, especially problems with his brother. Many of us can relate to this saint in having pains that come from within our own family. Stanislaus was human like us, as were all of the saints. They cried and felt lonely and sad at times with the pain of not being loved. The saints help us to overcome our problems and difficulties with their testimonies of faith and love of God and with their intercessions for us, which are their prayers in heaven.

Our Lord, knowing St. Stanislaus would need special help in his life to fulfill his plan on earth, gave him a holy godfather. This godfather was a priest, and this priest baptized Stanislaus himself. The baptism took place on October 28, 1550 in Rostkow, Poland. Stanislaus, this day, became a child of God. On this holy day, Stanislaus was doubly blessed because after the Baptism, the priest, who was his godfather, took the child, Stanislaus, and laid him on the ground in front of the altar of the Blessed Sacrament and dedicated him to our Lord hidden in the Eucharist. This act of faith and prayer given to the Lord had a great effect on Stanislaus’ life as we soon shall see.

From his earliest years, Stanislaus had a tender love for the most holy Blessed Sacrament, this love was so great that it was said of him that his face would seem all on fire at the moment he would come in the presence of Jesus in the Eucharist.Sometimes Stanislaus’s friends saw him praying in front of Jesus in the Blessed Sacrament in ecstasy floating in air. He was often in ecstasy at Mass after receiving Holy Communion. The whole day after receiving Jesus, he could hardly bring himself to speak of anything else but the great love of Jesus in the Eucharist, and he spoke with such great joy and happiness that those who heard him delighted in his words of love.Stanislaus’ biggest trials were soon to begin as he entered his teen years. At the age of fourteen, he and his brother, Paul, were sent to Vienna to college. This older brother, Paul, was very cruel to him. Stanislaus was young and gentle and many times Paul would come home drunk, beat and kick him and make fun of his devotion to God. He would yell, “Why do you pray so much?” Then he told him that he should go to bars like other young men his age.

Stanislaus prayed for his brother’s conversion, and he received strength and love not only not to hate him, but to love him. This love came from heaven through Jesus in the Eucharist. One day, because of the abuse from his brother, Stanislaus had been unable to eat and eventually fell ill with a high fever and was near death.He called on help from Heaven. He prayed to St. Barbara to bring him Jesus for he loved Jesus and longed for Him in the Holy Eucharist. He suddenly saw a bright light and within this light was St. Barbara, accompanied by two angels. Bilinski, a friend who had been taking care of Stanislaus saw this vision, too. Stanislaus said, “Kneel down, adore the blessed Sacrament. Two angels of the Lord are with Him and the virgin martyr, St. Barbara.” Bilinski witnessed this miracle with his own eyes. He saw St. Barbara who was holding a gold chalice, give Holy Communion to Stanislaus.

After receiving Holy Communion, Stanislaus waited for Our Lord to come to take him to Heaven, but Our Lord had other plans. Suddenly, Mary appeared, holding the Baby Jesus. Our Lady placed her infant Son in his arms. Stanislaus thought he was dreaming, but no, this moment was real and true for he was holding in his arms and to his bosom, the Lord of Life. Mary told Stanislaus that he would get better as she took her Baby back in her arms. She told him to continue to follow Jesus and she encouraged him to try to become a Jesuit priest.Stanislaus lived for three more years, but his health began to decline. He truly wanted to be a priest, a Jesuit priest, but heaven willed him to go to God. He lived for ten more months as a saintly novice. He loved Our Lord in the Eucharist as an angel does, he loved Our Blessed Mother and always told everyone that she was his mother. He prayed to die on her feast day, and on the Feast of the Assumption, 1568, at the age of seventeen, Mary answered his prayers.

For on this day, August 15, as he laid in bed, worn out from his illness, he said, with eyes of joy “I see the Blessed Virgin Mary and she is surrounded by beautiful angels.”Through God’s grace and Stanislaus’ holiness, his brother converted. After his death, Paul wept greatly for abusing his brother. Grace opened his soul to change his life and he even entered a seminary. After Stanislaus’ death, people were shocked to hear the story, told by Paul, about how he so viciously mistreated his brother and was jealous of him. They had never heard Stanislaus complain. They soon realized that this young man was truly a saint who had suffered and loved all, especially those who treated him so badly, just like Jesus Himself had done.St. Stanislaus always longed to be with Jesus in the Blessed Sacrament and in Heaven. No matter how hard it was for him, he remained close to Jesus and Mary in prayer and would not let hate or bitterness enter into his heart. We can pray to Stanislaus to help us to love Jesus deeply in the Holy Eucharist and for help in our family difficulties so that we might have wisdom and strength to love those who do not love us or even those who may hate us. This love is divine, supernatural love, offered in the Holy Eucharist."

 

[jeanne71350]

Hi everyone,Im going to get confirmed in September this year,and our Sunday School teacher asked us to find a saint so that we could follow their way of life.Im trying to find a saint who had relationship problems in his/her life because in my life I always have relationship problems one after another with friends,family and etc…

Thank you,God bless.

Are you male or female?

-Jeanne

 

[BintuluChuchGuy]

Im a male.Thank you for all your replies everyone.I appreciate it.

 

[Rawb]

Blessed Piero Giorgio Frassati loved a girl, but could not be with her because she was of a different ‘class’ and his parents didn’t approve. She married someone else, and he died before he ever did.

Besides this issue, he is an EXCELLENT example for Catholic men, especially young men.