If you look at the information provided above, and study the documents in context, I believe that you will see that the Church did teach and continues to teach baptism of desire, and baptism of blood. In addition, I believe you will come to understand what the Church teaches about invincible ignorance, the natural law, and those who are outside of the Church through no fault of their own.
Furthermore, please do not confuse what the Church has traditionally taught with what those such as Fr. Feeney believe. Traditional Catholics often get accused of having the same beliefs as Fr. Feeney when it comes to this area. However, this is an inaccurate presentation of the situation and if you read the sources cited above, you will see that this is not what has been taught traditionally.
Heck, even the SSPX does not understand the doctrine this way, and they most certainly would state that they have a traditional understanding of the doctrine of salvation and baptism. I’m in no way affiliated with the SSPX, but I do believe they present their case well in this situation in making it clear what they do, and do not, believe in regards to this issue.
sspx.org/miscellaneous/feeneyism/fr_feeney_catholic_doctrine.htm
sspx.org/miscellaneous/feeneyism/three_baptisms.htm
sspx.org/miscellaneous/feeneyism/three_errors_of_feeneyites.htm
sspx.org/miscellaneous/feeneyism/may_01_district_superiors_letter.htm
For the record, I am just as disturbed by the thought of those people I know (my family, friends, colleagues, etc.) who are outside of the Church not being saved as anyone else is. I am just as disturbed by the thought of those who have not recognized the truth of the Catholic Church not going to Heaven as anyone. However, the answer does not reside in pretending that the certain Church teachings do not exist, even the hard ones. The answer also does not reside in reinventing doctrines or taking them out of continuity with the Sacred Tradition of the Church in an effort to placate our emotions and absolve our consciences.
We have had several posts on this thread which were based upon emotion rather than an objective look at the teachings of the Church. There is a reason that
appeals to emotion are a logical fallacy and that is because they are designed, intentionally or otherwise, to distract others from the discussion at hand and to use our emotions to convince us of something, rather than the strength of the argument being presented. I agree, it feels better to think of an increased likelihood of salvation for those outside of the Church. That, however, does not make it true. This fallacy of an appeal to emotions is particularly problematic when we try to apply it to those decisions that God will or will not make. We humans have a tendency to think that God loves as we love, that God’s love equals a human emotion or sentimentality. This is not true. Pope Francis has spoken about this on at least one occasion since beginning his pontificate. This is not to say that our emotions are bad, they are not. But, we do have to be wary of confusing our emotions for objective truth, and of assuming that God’s love is reflected in our human sentimentality.
So where does this leave us. Simple, let’s take positive steps to do something about it. We should evangelize and do our best to bring people into the Truth of the Catholic Faith so that they can have the benefits which are available in the superabundant graces which flow from the sacraments. This can be done in a non-triumphant or condescending way which makes the Faith attractive to those we are seeking to convert. We should pray for those who die outside of the Church, that God will have mercy on their souls and show them the truth of the Catholic Faith before they die, or even as they are on death’s door. We should do things like enroll family members, loved ones, our priests, heck even those people we disagree with or cannot stand, into Mass associations, so that their souls are being prayed for at the Holy Sacrifice of the Mass (there are several places who, for a minimal donation, will enroll people into their Mass association and pray for them,
forever). There are any number of things which can be done to help the situation, and I am sure that others would have some great ideas that I did not mention.
At this point, I respectfully encourage you to take some time to read all of the information which has been provided (from everyone, not just me), and to go back and read the doctrinal statements (and the sources cited for them) in the order in which they were written. In addition, I encourage you to pray to our Blessed Lord and to the Holy Spirit about it, and to ask the intercession of our Blessed Mother and St. Joseph. I encourage you to ask for the intercession of the Popes, Church Fathers, and Church Doctors who wrote on the doctrines, that they will help you come to understand the meanings of what they wrote and declared. If you do that, I truly believe that you will be able to form your conscience on what the Church truly teaches in this area, and that you will see the importance of looking for solutions, rather than loopholes to the doctrine. In addition, I believe that you will come to see the false narrative of a difference in Church teaching pre versus post Vatican II. Finally, I also believe that you will come to some peace of mind, which seems to be a great deal of what you are looking for.
I am going to step out of the discussion at this point and leave you to it.
God Bless you.