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I was speaking with a friend about same sex attraction. We had a discussion about gay ‘marriage.’ I mentioned the Church’ teachings on marriage- and we spoke about the procreative and unitive elements of marriage. He said that although gay marriage isn’t procreative, neither is heterosexual marriage after a woman reaches menopause. He said that following the logical conclusion, we would come to the point where heterosexual couples would be barred from marriage after the women reaches menopause, and that any woman who reached menopause, would be unable to marry. He also said that the unitive element of marriage is also present in same sex relationships. Can someone help me out please?
Marriage is the union of Man and Wife through the blessing of God. Not man and man. That is stated in the Bible. I don’t think marriage is defined by the fact of whether this man and woman are going to have children. That statement is never found in the Bible or the teachings of the Catholic Church. An infertal man can still be married.

Furthermore, sex between 2 men is a sin according to the Bible. It’s unnatural. Love between two man without sex…I don’t think that is a problem.
 
Homosexual behaviour is seen as inferior to heterosexual behaviour. Apart from the character weakness associated with giving in to disordered behaviour, homosexuals as people get a pretty good go in this day and age. However, by any definition, their behaviour disgusts most people, as it has down through recorded history, so from the perspective of what is normal sexuality, homosexual acts are not normal.

As for feeling a little stalked Seeker, one of the reasons you attract so much angst on these forums is because you have very openly thrown your lifestyle into the faces of others. Many feel as though you are trying to ram it down our throats. Why you come onto a Catholic forum and do that is beyond me, unless you think you can persuade others here of the wrongness of their beliefs, or to convince those here that the Catholic Church is an old fashioned, bigoted organisation. None of this will wash here Seeker, because you are trying to defend the indefensible.

Personally, I think you come here because deep down you are unhappy.

You confuse libertarian with libertine. A libertarian believes in smaller government and less government interference in an individuals life. It might surprise you to know that I have a very, very strong libertarian streak in me. I loathe the amount of governmental interference in our lives that we must endure in this day and age. However, to believe in Libertinism is something alse again. We describe someone who is a libertine as being “immoral”. Did it ever occur to you that “morals” are just guides to how people should behave in society? That without morals, society cannot function as a coherent whole? That as moral behaviour declines, there needs to be greater legislative direction as to how society must function? In other words, when morals lapse, people forget how to regulate themselves and so governments do it for them. …
Bravo, John! Your entire post nails it. Could not have said it better.

But Seeker here is still persuading us to his ‘enlightened’ reasoning, hoping to gain ground with repetition of arguments.

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Seeker

*Where I struggle with my own philosophy is should people have the right to discriminate. It’s something I find personally abhorrent, but a true libertarian society would allow for it, and I’m not sure I can support that. *

We can live in a true libertarian society and still draw lines about what is acceptable and what is abnormal. Sodomy is definitely abnormal. All civilizations have agreed on that. No civilization in the past has ever given licenses for the practice of sodomy. Many have punished it mildly, some have persecuted it cruelly. None have been told that they must honor it as a normal and acceptable form of sexuality by granting a license for the practice of it. Yet this is just what is being demanded today by a society (and its governing body) that has gone increasingly lunatic over the past fifty years.

This is what the rise of secularism has brought to America. Brace yourselves. The battle has just begun.

As John Paul II so wisely saw, we must evangelize the West once again. 👍
 
I seriously can’t wait to get this thread shut down. In fact, I’ll report it right now.
 
I seriously can’t wait to get this thread shut down. In fact, I’ll report it right now.
And why is that? Everyone is posting in a civil manner and when you consider that it is an argument with someone who is in serious disagreement with Catholic doctrine, that is a credit to those involved. Just because you can’t handle, or dislike the subject matter, is no reason to go running off with a complaint. We are adults here and with a job to do. Let us do it. You are advocating extreme censorship, which our protagonist is arguing against. So, let the arguments and ideas stand on their merits.
 
And why is that? Everyone is posting in a civil manner and when you consider that it is an argument with someone who is in serious disagreement with Catholic doctrine, that is a credit to those involved. Just because you can’t handle, or dislike the subject matter, is no reason to go running off with a complaint. We are adults here and with a job to do. Let us do it. You are advocating extreme censorship, which our protagonist is arguing against. So, let the arguments and ideas stand on their merits.
I guess… but this “civil” discourse as you call it, at least from my perspective, isn’t entirely civil, and is rather a one-sided flame war. Either way, it’s a good six hours in the system, I’ve already been informed by the admin that they’re looking into it, we’ll see where it goes from there.
 
Marriage is the union of Man and Wife through the blessing of God. Not man and man. That is stated in the Bible.
You have described the sacrament of marriage. The issue currently under debate is whether or not marriage as defined by law ought be open to same sex couples. Given that we are prohibited from legislation that applies to one category of citizens and not to all, there’s considerable question whether or not banning the practice is even constitutional. Regardless, a secular government has no business legislating based solely upon religious rules.
 
Where I struggle with my own philosophy is should people have the right to discriminate. It’s something I find personally abhorrent, but a true libertarian society would allow for it, and I’m not sure I can support that.
Seeker, for the moment I will ignore the bulk of your post and just concentrate on this point.

One of the great “cons” in modern society is the idea that discrimination is wrong. Governments throughout the western world have legislated that to discriminate against people on the grounds of ethnicity, gender, or creed, is wrong. I will argue that to discriminate against people on the grounds of ethnicity, gender, or creed, might be silly, stupid, misplaced, misguided, or even just plain dumb, but it cannot and never should be argued that it is “wrong”. I use “wrong” in a moral sense. The fact that the non-discrimination is “wrong” in a legislative sense is a given, but we call that positivist law.

Discrimination is an inherent part of our human character. We discriminate from an early age. We discriminate between certain foods, between the types of people we meet as we decide who will become our friends. We do it when we make career choices. We do it when we meet and marry. Another term for discriminate is “discern”. As we go through life we discern what is good and bad for us and what is best for our own happiness. years ago, the ability to discern was something that was taught to us from a young age and it was taught to us so we would stay out of trouble. Today’s children are not being taught that basic life skill. In fact, they are being taught the exact opposite. Did it ever occur to you that so many marriages fail today simply because couples no longer go through a process of discernment? In other words, they rush in and buy before they realise what they have bought into.

What is making a lot of people unhappy and even angry today is that because governments have legislated that discrimination, or discernment, is wrong, they are having to accept that which they would normally abhor. Using legislation to say things are equal is never going to make unequal things equal. You tell us that demographics will one day ensure homosexuality will be considered “normal”, because the under 40s accept it. The thing is the under 40s are forced to accept it. Still, we read of bullying against homosexuals by the younger generation and of homosexuals committing suicide. That is despite the legislative decrees that they be accepted. In schoolyards the kids still do not accept this equality. I know, because I have kids at school. So what does the homosexual lobby demand? Why, they demand that the kids be “educated” to stop the bullying and the discrimination. In other words they are being forced to accept that which they have a natural abhorrence towards. The legislation is trying to make equal that which can never be equal. The intent of the equality legislation is smother our natural human tendencies. Acquiesence and acceptance are not the same thing. You come here and bemoan the idea that the Catholic Church is supposedly ramming morality down people’s throats, yet the very anti-discrimination movement is ramming down everyone’s throats an idea which is at odds with human nature. You bemoan that which you espouse!

So yes, a true Libertarian society would indeed allow us to follow our natural discriminatory thoughts and feelings and as a self professed Libertarian you would have to accept that. You would have to accept that discrimination, or discernment, is a natural human tendency and always has been. However, what worries and concerns you is that you and what you do will be discriminated against. You worry that homosexuals and hedonism would be discriminated against, so in order to protect your own vested interest you find it hard to accept that discrimination would be given free reign. In times past, when the natural human tendency to discriminate has been given free reign, the homosexuals of various societies have been given a torrid time. In those places where they were a little more accepted, like ancient Greece, for example, you then say homosexuals have always been accepted and therefore it must be “normal”. Not so. You confuse tolerance and non discrimination with total acceptance, which is what the homosexual lobby of today wishes and strives for. Now if your preferred philosophy, Libertarianism, were to come to fruition and governments interfered in our lives a whole lot less, then the homosexuals would need the protection of Christian principles to make sure they are not unfairly discriminated against. You wont find that tolerance under Islam, for example! You’d need the morality of the Catholic Church to make sure you can give into your sensual proclivities if that is what you want. You’d need the Catholic Church to stand up for you and say “let live” which is exactly what the Catholic Church does today.

The tension that is evident between what you want and what you believe in is now very evident. You loathe all the rules and regulations which govern our lives, all this positive law, yet you deny and denigrate the very institution that would protect your personal freedoms if and when the rediculous positive, anti-human-nature laws were ever repealed. You would need “morality” to keep you free. Yet under your libertarian philosophy, libertinism would fracture society. Morality would protect it. Your price would be breaking the morality that would bind society together, and being told that what you do is morally wrong. By the same token, you’d be tolerated and left alone, because your free will would be accepted. The more you push for libertinism, protected by positivist laws, the more other people’s free wills are unnaccepted. And you, as a Libertarian, cannot accept that.
 
Seeker, for the moment I will ignore the bulk of your post and just concentrate on this point.

One of the great “cons” in modern society is the idea that discrimination is wrong. Governments throughout the western world have legislated that to discriminate against people on the grounds of ethnicity, gender, or creed, is wrong. I will argue that to discriminate against people on the grounds of ethnicity, gender, or creed, might be silly, stupid, misplaced, misguided, or even just plain dumb, but it cannot and never should be argued that it is “wrong”. I use “wrong” in a moral sense. The fact that the non-discrimination is “wrong” in a legislative sense is a given, but we call that positivist law.

Discrimination is an inherent part of our human character. We discriminate from an early age. We discriminate between certain foods, between the types of people we meet as we decide who will become our friends. We do it when we make career choices. We do it when we meet and marry. Another term for discriminate is “discern”. As we go through life we discern what is good and bad for us and what is best for our own happiness. years ago, the ability to discern was something that was taught to us from a young age and it was taught to us so we would stay out of trouble. Today’s children are not being taught that basic life skill. In fact, they are being taught the exact opposite. Did it ever occur to you that so many marriages fail today simply because couples no longer go through a process of discernment? In other words, they rush in and buy before they realise what they have bought into.
So… let’s make this clear. Do you believe that people should be treated differently as a result of your desire to further discrimination based on ethnicity, gender, creed, etc? Did I interpret your desire, to further discrimination, correctly?

Look, I’m not saying that discrimination isn’t a natural human instinct, but the same could be said about other negatively-viewed human instincts, masturbation, for example. Where do you draw the line?
 
Before I start, let me say that you’ve grossly misjudged my concerns over discrimination. It never even occurred to me that in a truly libertarian society that I would be discriminated against. Rather, it was more along the lines of would we allow a restaurant to post a ‘No n****rs allowed’ sign, or even just enforce such a policy absent the sign. I’m white, straight, middle-classed. It is people LIKE me who have historically been the source of discrimination, not the victims, and I see no reason to think that would ever change.

Even now that I’ve thought about it, my sexual habits are not something someone could know about me unless I chose to make them aware of it, so facing discrimination in a day to day basis is not even possible.
One of the great “cons” in modern society is the idea that discrimination is wrong.
Let me stop you for a moment. You are absolutely correct, virtually every decision we make in our lives involves ‘discrimination’ of some kind. What I’m talking about is treating one kind of human different (worse) than another type based upon a trait upon which such mistreatment is not justified. Believing that whites are superior to blacks (or vice versa), refusing to serve Irish people simply for being Irish, not hiring someone because they’re too old, that sort of thing.

We all discriminate, and much of the time reasonably so. Choosing our spouse, where we work, who is, and is not, one of our friends. Certain, personal discrimination is, and should be legal, both in our society and in the hypothetical hyper-libertarian one we’ve been discussing. If you don’t want to date black women, that’s your choice. If it’s because you are a racist, that just means you are scum, if it’s because you are attracted to asian girls, well, you like what you like.

The question is, should you be a bonafide racist (please know I’m using ‘you’ generically here, you personally have given me no reason to think you are), and decide to open say a bed n breakfast, should you have the legal right to turn black people away at the door. On the one hand, it’s your business. On the other, one of the prices of being allowed to operate a business is being required to serve everyone, without discrimination.

On that question is where I struggle.
Did it ever occur to you that so many marriages fail today simply because couples no longer go through a process of discernment? In other words, they rush in and buy before they realise what they have bought into.
Truth be told, I haven’t spent too much time analyzing why so many marriages fail. I imagine, though, that sexual incompatibility is pretty high on the list, and the morality you espouse necessitates that people wed without having any idea whether or not they are sexually compatible. Think that might be part of the problem?
The thing is the under 40s are forced to accept it. Still, we read of bullying against homosexuals by the younger generation and of homosexuals committing suicide.
The bullying you refer to is horrible, but that’s simply because theres no such thing as 100% in anything. Even though younger people are more likely than older people to accept homosexuality as normal doesn’t make it absolute.

Regardless, you say they are ‘forced’ to accept it. I say that’s the natural condition, that discriminating against them is a learned behavior. Learned from their parents. Learned from peers. And, most importantly, learned from religion.

As you know, I reject man made religion. Because I think it’s man made. So I have asked myself, well, if god didn’t actually declare that all these sexual things are bad, what made the men who created religion think that he did? What I concluded is that sexually transmitted diseases, which 2,000 years ago was a much more serious problem than it is today, due to our advances in medical technology, were seen, literally, as punishments from god for the underlying behavior. And if god punishes behavior, that must mean the behavior is bad.

Back in the day, syphilis, gonorrhea, you name it, just about every STD was a death sentence.

But today, the physical consequences of promiscuity have been all but eliminated. Most sexually transmitted diseases are completely and easily curable, and the one that isn’t that is serious is easily prevented.

Your morality made sense during days gone by. But not anymore.
Why, they demand that the kids be “educated” to stop the bullying and the discrimination. In other words they are being forced to accept that which they have a natural abhorrence towards.
To the extent that your kids think homosexuals are ‘abhorrent’ and deserving of bullying and discrimination, it’s because you and your church have taught them so.
However, what worries and concerns you is that you and what you do will be discriminated against. You worry that homosexuals and hedonism would be discriminated against, so in order to protect your own vested interest you find it hard to accept that discrimination would be given free reign.
I believe I covered this sufficiently way back in the beginning of this post, but let me just say this. To the extent that laws are being enacted to restrict people from engaging in swinging, while I certainly object to them, but in a true libertarian society they would not exist. For if I am free to put dangerous drugs into my system, and in Libertyville, I would be, I am certainly free to engage in reckless sexual behaviors.
 
You wont find that tolerance under Islam, for example! You’d need the morality of the Catholic Church to make sure you can give into your sensual proclivities if that is what you want.
Codswallop. While the catholic church has been less successful at instituting theocracy than have various muslim sects, under a catholic theocracy I’d likely be imprisoned, and probably worse, just for being who I am. I’m not, in any way, justifying muslim atrocities, I’d have no problem with banning islam as an anti-freedom political movement. But to think your church would ever defend people like me is to kid yourself. Your church has burned people like me at stakes.
 
*But to think your church would ever defend people like me is to kid yourself. Your church has burned people like me at stakes. *

When was the last time the Catholic Church burned anyone like you at the stake? Please give the person burned and the century. But Catholic bishops, priests, and nuns are routinely murdered all around the world every year (you’d never know it if you only read the secular controlled “humanistic” media).

This conversation has gone off the rails. How is the Catholic Church the villain when it is persecuted and scoffed at everywhere in the world? When it stands up for the unborn child, it is vilified by the feminists. When it stands up for traditional marriage, it is vilified by the sodomites. When it stands up for not allowing heterosexual children to be adopted by sodomites, it is vilified by sodomite couples who want to impose their lifestyle on unsuspecting and helpless children.

I don’t get you, Seeker. You turn every truth tops-y-turfy on its head and expect to be taken seriously in this Catholic forum?

You confuse libertarianism with libertinism (you’re certainly not the first to do that). Libertinism means that anything goes. It has never meant that society has to accept libertine values because supposedly there are no victims. You rant against Catholic sexual morality as outdated because medical science has overcome, or is able to combat, many STDs. But there is no vaccine against AIDS, the lesser STDs (contrary to your statement) are rampant throughout the world, and divorce caused by adulterous relations has damaged if not destroyed millions of marriages.

The old morality is irrelevant.? Only to those who plan to go full steam ahead with their irrational hedonism
 
JChapel

*Look, I’m not saying that discrimination isn’t a natural human instinct, but the same could be said about other negatively-viewed human instincts, masturbation, for example. Where do you draw the line? *

Where they need to be drawn. Civilizations throughout history have drawn the line at sodomy. As an obedient Catholic, where do you draw it?
 
JChapel

Look, I’m not saying that discrimination isn’t a natural human instinct, but the same could be said about other negatively-viewed human instincts, masturbation, for example. Where do you draw the line?

Where they need to be drawn. Civilizations throughout history have drawn the line at sodomy. As an obedient Catholic, where do you draw it?
I’ll ignore the leading question and answer it as if it weren’t leading. I draw the line at the act of sodomy, because I have no choice as it is part of my faith as interpreted by The Church. However, I am strongly against discrimination, on any basis. Even the most morally tainted of people are still people, and if they want to screw their lives over after hearing the word of The Catholic Church, so be it. That doesn’t make them any less human.
 
I suppose that’s true, to a certain extent. What I want is a truly libertarian society. One in which one is free to harm ones self to their hearts content, so long as whatever harm you wish to expose yourself to doesn’t cause undue risk to others. But there’s a tail to that coin, and that means one is also dependent on the fruits of their own labors. I have no problem with friends, family, whatever, choosing to help those who refuse to help themselves, nor do I have any issue with safety nets, to a degree. After all, I myself have taken advantage of Unemployment Insurance. But sucking at the public teat for year after year after year is over the top.

But what I want is a society who does not attempt to protect it’s citizens from themselves.
I will suggest that there is no such thing as a “truly libertarian society” - that’s a pie-in-the-sky abstraction that doesn’t really mean anything because it could mean so many different things. I’m quite certain that no one, including Seeker, actually wants “a society [which] does not attempt to protect it’s citizens from themselves” - that is impossible for the same reason: it is an abstraction that could mean so many different things that it’s meaningless in itself (and more specifically for the reason that no libertarian can make that claim without qualification; and no libertarian is likely to agree with any other about how exactly it should be qualified). And Seeker has admitted anyway that he can’t honestly claim that that is what he wants - he is torn.

So what does he want? He desperately wants to believe that his particular moral choices are reasonable and legit and that everyone will recognize that in the near future. That’s why he makes utterly silly prognostications about the coming paradise of “acceptance by all, of all of his approved sexual proclivities.” I think this desperate grasping at will-o’-the-wisps may speak of Seekers unhappiness, but I would suggest it is probably more specifically a case of a troubled conscience trying to reassure itself, by hook or by crook.
 
Not to put words in Seeker’s mouth, but based on what I have read in his previous posts regarding sexual freedom, I suspect that he might be after not libertinism but the secular idea of “everything is okay, as long as it doesn’t harm someone else” (which, might I add, I’m against). Like it or not, that is certainly the direction I see our country moving in.
 
So… let’s make this clear. Do you believe that people should be treated differently as a result of your desire to further discrimination based on ethnicity, gender, creed, etc? Did I interpret your desire, to further discrimination, correctly?

Look, I’m not saying that discrimination isn’t a natural human instinct, but the same could be said about other negatively-viewed human instincts, masturbation, for example. Where do you draw the line?
No. In fact you have totally misconstrued my post. Please have a re-read. My post was a precis of an argument comparing legislated positive law with human natural tendencies and the relevance of ‘morals’ in curtailing human tendencies in the absence of said positive laws.

I wrote no-where that I wanted discrimination ‘furthered’. Mate, I sometimes gain the impression you misread, or perhaps misinterpret, a lot of what is written. I am of the impression that your passions run a little hot when you read something you think is distasteful. Read, step back a little and try to be a little more objective.

By the way, is masturbation an instinct, or a habit? And if you think it should be discriminated against, how would you go policing the problem? Eye tests perhaps?! :rolleyes:
 
Seeker, you and pro gay ‘marriage’ posters ask: how would our lives change if gays and lesbians could wed?

***Marriage is a public good. If you change the definition of marriage, you don’t just change it for the gay married couple down the street, you change it for everyone.

If gay marriage is allowed, then the state is essentially saying that my views on marriage, and the majority of Americans’ views on marriage, are equivalent to discrimination…It profoundly affects me if my children are taught in the schools that my views on marriage are bigoted. It profoundly affects me if the church that I’m part of is treated in the law as bigoted.

And, ultimately, same-sex marriage is not true.***

by Brian Brown, President of National Organization for Marriage

Mr. Brown’s words resonate with many Americans. Before you discount his and NOM’s influence, just check the reasons for the Nov. 2 ouster of three Iowa Supreme Court justices who ruled to legalize same-sex marriage there in 2009, and voter initiatives in Maine and California that rolled back gay marriage, despite continuing challenges there.

His words illustrate how gays are forcing the charge of discrimination and bigotry to be applied where they should not be. It is already being used now against people who are for traditional marriage between a man and a woman. In fact, these words have been used by you and those on your side in this very thread against gay ‘marriage’ opponents. Unfairly.

Seeker, you claim not to be gay, but champion gay ‘marriage’. If or when it happens, as you say it will, how will it affect you or your life? If you had your own child, or change your plan and would want to have one in the future, would you be sorry for the position you are taking? Your honest answers please.

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No. In fact you have totally misconstrued my post. Please have a re-read. My post was a precis of an argument comparing legislated positive law with human natural tendencies and the relevance of ‘morals’ in curtailing human tendencies in the absence of said positive laws.

I wrote no-where that I wanted discrimination ‘furthered’. Mate, I sometimes gain the impression you misread, or perhaps misinterpret, a lot of what is written. I am of the impression that your passions run a little hot when you read something you think is distasteful. Read, step back a little and try to be a little more objective.

By the way, is masturbation an instinct, or a habit? And if you think it should be discriminated against, how would you go policing the problem? Eye tests perhaps?! :rolleyes:
In JChapel’s defense on this one, I thought you made some very good points, but I too found this first paragraph pretty confusing:
One of the great “cons” in modern society is the idea that discrimination is wrong. Governments throughout the western world have legislated that to discriminate against people on the grounds of ethnicity, gender, or creed, is wrong. I will argue that to discriminate against people on the grounds of ethnicity, gender, or creed, might be silly, stupid, misplaced, misguided, or even just plain dumb, but it cannot and never should be argued that it is “wrong”. I use “wrong” in a moral sense. The fact that the non-discrimination is “wrong” in a legislative sense is a given, but we call that positivist law.
 

We can live in a true libertarian society and still draw lines about what is acceptable and what is abnormal. Sodomy is definitely abnormal. All civilizations have agreed on that. No civilization in the past has ever given licenses for the practice of sodomy. Many have punished it mildly, some have persecuted it cruelly. None have been told that they must honor it as a normal and acceptable form of sexuality by granting a license for the practice of it. Yet this is just what is being demanded today by a society (and its governing body) that has gone increasingly lunatic over the past fifty years.

This is what the rise of secularism has brought to America. Brace yourselves. The battle has just begun.

As John Paul II so wisely saw, we must evangelize the West once again. 👍

When was the last time the Catholic Church burned anyone like you at the stake? Please give the person burned and the century. But Catholic bishops, priests, and nuns are routinely murdered all around the world every year (you’d never know it if you only read the secular controlled “humanistic” media).

This conversation has gone off the rails. How is the Catholic Church the villain when it is persecuted and scoffed at everywhere in the world? When it stands up for the unborn child, it is vilified by the feminists. When it stands up for traditional marriage, it is vilified by the sodomites. When it stands up for not allowing heterosexual children to be adopted by sodomites, it is vilified by sodomite couples who want to impose their lifestyle on unsuspecting and helpless children.

I don’t get you, Seeker. You turn every truth tops-y-turfy on its head and expect to be taken seriously in this Catholic forum?

You confuse libertarianism with libertinism (you’re certainly not the first to do that). Libertinism means that anything goes. It has never meant that society has to accept libertine values because supposedly there are no victims. You rant against Catholic sexual morality as outdated because medical science has overcome, or is able to combat, many STDs. But there is no vaccine against AIDS, the lesser STDs (contrary to your statement) are rampant throughout the world, and divorce caused by adulterous relations has damaged if not destroyed millions of marriages.

The old morality is irrelevant.? Only to those who plan to go full steam ahead with their irrational hedonism
Excellent posts above.
 
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