a close friend and her husband have just put his mother in an Altzheimer care facility, a difficult situation, but the household situation was a nightmare and the children simply were not safe with her around. The rest of her children are out of town, and not part of her care at all, visiting only a couple of times a year. Friend had to quit her job, her church work, could not have friends over to the house, it was a nightmare. MIL has settled down and is much happier, and of course much safer. If you are the care-taking family, make the decision that is best for all concerned, and invite those relatives who are not interested in being part of the care-taking to feel free to offer help, but not to make these important decisions.
We still have MIL with us part of the year, hope her mental and physical health stay good, she is praying for all of us, and prays especially for “all the old people” who need care, and their caregivers. she is now praying for you, too.
just venting