Scared to get pregnant again

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Please dont judge me…okay where to start…My husband and I have a wonderful one year old little boy who is the absolute joy of our lives:) He is such a blessing! I don’t know what it is but lately well I guess when my cycle came back when my son was 6 months old, I have been terrified of getting pregnant again mostly because I am so scared of miscarrying and being so heartbroken from that:( etc…Its irrational i know, but I have been so terrified like to the point of engaging in sexual acts with the intent of not being open to life. I don’t really know why I am scared I have been pregnant before and I loved every minute of it. I feel stuck in my faith life as well I am trying to be a good faith example for my husband and little boy. I feel horrible about being afraid:( My cycle is super irregular and i guess I dealt with postpartum anxiety a little bit after I had my son. I know the sexual acts not being open to life is a mortal sin and I will be going to confession ASAP. I feel so stuck right now and I guess I dont know what road to go on. I am so sorry this is all over the place. again PLEASE do not judge me. I am scared and stuck in my faith life and I just need some advice please!
 
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Please dont judge me…okay where to start…My husband and I have a wonderful one year old little boy who is the absolute joy of our lives:) He is such a blessing! I don’t know what it is but lately well I guess when my cycle came back when my son was 6 months old, I have been terrified of getting pregnant again mostly because I am so scared of miscarrying and being so heartbroken from that:( etc…Its irrational i know, but I have been so terrified like to the point of engaging in sexual acts with the intent of not being open to life. I don’t really know why I am scared I have been pregnant before and I loved every minute of it. I feel stuck in my faith life as well I am trying to be a good faith example for my husband and little boy. I feel horrible about being afraid:( My cycle is super irregular and i guess I dealt with postpartum anxiety a little bit after I had my son. I know the sexual acts not being open to life is a mortal sin and I will be going to confession ASAP. I feel so stuck right now and I guess I dont know what road to go on. I am so sorry this is all over the place. again PLEASE do not judge me. I am scared and stuck in my faith life and I just need some advice please!
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It sounds like you still may have some postpartum anxiety.

Find a Na-pro doctor. They are wonderful. I consider those women my friends. Talk with them about NFP and make a day by day decision based on your body.
 
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Sweetheart, did you ever think you may have post partum depression???? Go see your doctor. While on meds, use family planning. They have machines to p(name removed by moderator)oint ovulation. 
God is w you, dear heart. It’s going to be all right. Confession will liberate your soul for happiness. The pill will liberate your mind to joy. Then, surrender to Jesus and rest in body. Play cheerful praise music. In two months, you’ll feel better.
GOD IS NOT THE AUTHOR OF FEAR BUT OF A SOUND MIND…
Matthew 11: COME UNTO ME ALL YE, WHO LABOR AND ARE HEAVY LADEN. And I WILL GIVE YOU REST. TAKE MY YOKE UPON YOU. FOR MY YOKE IS EASY AND MY BURCDEN IS LIGHT.
In Christ’s Love
Tweedlealice
 
Did you ever have a miscarriage?
:pray:t2::pray:t2::pray:t2:for you
 
No I haven’t experienced one of those which I consider myself so blessed! My sister has had two before and idk I am just so scared of it happening and I’m afraid I wouldn’t be able to handle trying again if I had one:(
 
No judgement here. I’m a mom of 6 kids…but a few of them are spaced farther apart and for me, that was a good thing. It sounds like you may be having some anxiety still though. Maybe you could address that with your doctor. I also think maybe you need to cut yourself some slack. Having a one year old toddler can be overwhelming at times, as well as being joyful. Maybe you’re putting a little too much pressure on yourself as well. Does your husband help out around the house and help with your son too? Maybe you can find a good Catholic counselor or a spiritual advisor for the dryness in your faith. But, I think it’s probably best to first address the anxiety you’re experiencing…a lot of it could be physiological. Having a baby can really wreak havoc on your body. I’ll keep you in my prayers…
 
All my wishes of happiness for you, and your baby and husband.
Try to size the day, and be happy with your baby.

Cycles can be super irregular for approximately six days after the come back of period. Even if it was not the cse before the pregnancy.

It’s good that youcan identify where come from your fear of misacarriages. It’s not exclude, but we live better if we not worry about what can never happen.

You have to trust life again. It can take time. You are not require to have a child right now. There is a difference to not feeling open to life and try to deprive the acts for their natural consequences.

Do you would like that if you speak with someone, a close friend, or a psychologist of your fears and wishes?

Pregnancy, childbirth and young motherhood are life changing. Perhaps, would you join a support mommy group, real or virtual?
 
If you are worried of sin, You might speak with your husband of the option of temporary abstinence, until you trust life better. It could be just a transition.

Perhaps it is what you need actually?
 
Three! 2nd, 4th, 6th pregnancies. Had a son first! No problem.
 
Hugs back. NATURAL FAMILY PLANNING IS COOL W THE MACHINE THAT KNOWS WHEN YOU CAN CONCEIVE.
 
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Hugs back. NATURAL FAMILY PLANNING IS COOL W THE MACHINE THAT KNOWS WHEN YOU CAN CONCEIVE.
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That doesn’t work postpartum if you are not getting 3 hours of uninterrupted sleep and waking at the same time.
 
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You might think of a reason for a miscarriage. One miscarriage was a blighted egg=NO BABY, just placenta. Glad of miscarriage. Nine months and no baby… PATOEY. My sister in law, had 2 still borns( that hurts! They were short 1 umbilical cord. There are suppose to be three and her boys only had 2. There is a chemical in some women that have them prone to miscarry. 1 nurse , I worked w had multiple muscarriges. But, if she wanted a baby, she had to keep trying. Death is a part of life. Our babies had short lives. There is usually a flaw in the embryo for a miscarriage to occur. It’s a journey!
 
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