Think about a person, real or imaginary, historic or contemporary, who exhibits the kind of behavior that you want for yourself.
It could be some heroic figure from history, for example.
Or it could be someone you know.
The only behavioral characteristics you are looking for are the ones you want … deselect the stuff that is of no interest to you.
And then take those desirable behavioral traits and introject them into yourself.
Gradually, as you visualize those desirable traits, visualize them entering your mind and your body, so that you gradually build up those same desirable traits for yourself.
Basically, you are creating, in part, a new you … but just those parts that you want to “upgrade”.
So, gradually, you start to acquire new, desirable traits, and the ones you don’t want gradually start to fade away … the old ones go away and the new ones gradually take hold.
So, if you visualize someone who is confident, you can visualize assuming and taking on, copying their confidence. And just keep doing that.
Right now, think of someone you admire, real or imaginary, and visualize their confidence and then … sort of … putting on that suit of confidence. Do that five times. And gradually you will start to feel more confident. Do that five more times. Each day visualize yourself being more confident.
Sometimes, if you read history or memoirs of successful historic people, you can see how they overcame difficulties and lived out their lives, so you also can adopt their feeling of success.
You can take their attitude of success and put on their suit of success and triumph over difficulty.
People actually borrow or transfer the affect from one person to another.
It seems like an act … but only at first … after a while, you can develop the positive, confident affect within yourself.
A little at a time.
Like building a house, one brick and one board at a time.
