School dances...what's appropriate?

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Okay, we just had our Homecoming dance at school and it was a blast. But at the dance there’s not a specific “line” on how to have fun and how to know if your doing some risky business. How should a Catholic behave at a school dance? I went with friends who are morally pretty good people, and we didn’t get into all that gross dancing, but how are you supposed to know? I love to dance, but how do I know what’s appropriate? And even though I didn’t do anything inappropriate, I still felt guilty at church yesterday! ( That might be something left to clean up from my scrupulocity.)
Thanks for your help.
 
I would think as long as you where not “dirty” dancing (gyrating and grinding pelvic regions together) you where ok.
 
Or you could jsut skip the male /female dancing and dance ina group of same sex people …like they do at Orthodoz Jewish Weddings.
 
scapularkid8 said:
Peace be with you.
Okay, we just had our Homecoming dance at school and it was a blast. But at the dance there’s not a specific “line” on how to have fun and how to know if your doing some risky business. How should a Catholic behave at a school dance? I went with friends who are morally pretty good people, and we didn’t get into all that gross dancing, but how are you supposed to know? I love to dance, but how do I know what’s appropriate? And even though I didn’t do anything inappropriate, I still felt guilty at church yesterday! ( That might be something left to clean up from my scrupulocity.)
Thanks for your help.
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Glad you had fun!.. that’s the whole point!

The “line” is where your intentions were…

Was your intention to dance and have fun with your friends in the light of social norms? (ie, dancing within your culture… sometimes certain dance moves may look “wrong” from one culture to another… but that doesn’t say anything for intention)

Or was it to flaunt your sexuality and to show off and TRY to be dirty?

Being silly and having fun is nothing to be worried about. Intending to be nasty or actively crossing the lines of sexual morality is a different question.

Glad you had fun!
 
After chaperoning a dance last year and being shocked at the simulated sex and grinding:eek:
I have to say that no catholic kid should dance like that even if it’s just “for fun”
If you were dancing without gyrating on someone’s leg - you’re probably all right:)
 
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After chaperoning a dance last year and being shocked at the simulated sex and grinding:eek:
I have to say that no catholic kid should dance like that even if it’s just “for fun”
If you were dancing without gyrating on someone’s leg - you’re probably all right:)
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I chaperoned last year too, and it was a dance in the gym at my daughter’s elementary school, and I was crushed that the kids, even at that age are well on their way to worse stuff, judging by what they have already picked up as far as dancing. I didn’t like that there was so much hip hop music.
 
Sister Merry Slapstick says, “Leave a little room for the Holy Ghost!”
 
Room for the Holy Ghost = not dancing chest to breast or socking it in there. Just a little space berween the sensitive parts of the anatomy is a good rule. Trying to dance at arms length for the most part doesn’t work well either. Oh how it would be nice to be young enough to square dance, do the Shottische, and Lindy Hop again.
 
just picture your grandma standing there next to you. would she smile or frown.
 
scapularkid8 said:
Peace be with you.
Okay, we just had our Homecoming dance at school and it was a blast. But at the dance there’s not a specific “line” on how to have fun and how to know if your doing some risky business. How should a Catholic behave at a school dance? I went with friends who are morally pretty good people, and we didn’t get into all that gross dancing, but how are you supposed to know? I love to dance, but how do I know what’s appropriate? And even though I didn’t do anything inappropriate, I still felt guilty at church yesterday! ( That might be something left to clean up from my scrupulosity.)
Thanks for your help.
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You did not say how old you are or what grade. So here is my “old fashioned” advice.

Have fun that is age appropriate.

Go in groups you have more fun and less temptation for alone time. Dress for fun not to specificly attract everyone or out do others.

The biggie, before you do something ask yourself if your main dates (Mary & Jesus) would approve of what you are doing or going to do. If the answer is no then don’t do it.

Never be afraid to tell others why you choose not to do something. They might make fun of you but in the long run they will respect you for it.
 
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