Like my Mom has always said, āNothing lasts forever down here.ā There will come a time when happiness gives way to sadness, and vice-versa. God is there in the happy times, but even more so in the dark times, the time when we have absolutely no power to change what is happening. We ride the storm, we trust in God, and we emerge stronger, more peaceful, and more able to love even when life is dark.
Just my two cents.
Iāve done this several times - ridden out the storm, but what got me through the first time was the unshakable belief in myself that my parents instilled in me, and the gift of determination that they gave me.
Later storms were comfortably ridden out with the love strength and support of family and real friends.
I know me, and my needs are very very simple. I think the simpler your needs, the better the chance you have of having them met, and once theyāre met, youāre free to work on your happiness. I was just as āāhappyāā setting out on my life, when I literally did not have two cents in my pocket, as I am now. It was a different in many ways, but itās still happiness.
My mother is still alive, and she is of a great age.
We all know she will not be with us for very much longer, although she is very healthy for her age. I will be broken hearted when she dies.
But we all know itās going to happen. I knew from the time I had reason she was going to die sometime - Iām just lucky sheās lived to see me make a success of my life, marriage, business, and give her back the gift of life through her grandchidren. It will be devestating for all of us when she dies. But we will not be āāunhappyāā in the sense that together we have had a sometimes hard life, but a great life, filled with love and fun and deep deep freindship, and we all know everyone dies at some time.
In fact, it is a source of great happiness for us, that we have had her so long and she has been a rock for us when we needed her to be.
I donāt think Iām explaining this very well, because reading back the words are not quite what Iām trying to say.
Of course there will be great sadness when she goes, but that in no way diminishes the enormous happiness and joy and love she brought into everyones lives that she touched.
And it is this we remember always, because we are all going to die.
Belief in God wonāt change anything.
She will still die. We will still miss her. We will still have had the great fortune of having such a truely wonderful, kind, loving, great woman in our lives.
And this we will always celebrate and remember.
Sarah x
