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Originally Posted by jcrichton
…you’ve picked up your theology from a psycho-babblist, I gather… how can a marriage benefit from mental fornication or adultery?
No one is talking about marriage or adultery. We are talking about how an ancient misunderstanding of biology resulted in condemnation of a harmless act.
***Hi, patg!
Substitute masturbation with alcohol or any other recreational drug and you might be able to understand the issue better. Paul tells us that if we cannot control our desires that we should get married; he does not say find some hideaway place to have solo sex nor that we grab somebody with whom we can have sex: selft-control or marriage!
When Jesus speaks about adultery He is very explicit about what constitutes adultery: if you lust you have committed adultery–yes, even if it is just in the privacy of your own mind: you think it there for you did it–transgressed God’s Command.
Jesus does not speak about fornication because it is understood that none are supposed to engage in such acts. And He clearly portrays a dim picture for those who desire to engage in recreational sex (sex outside of marriage with or without a partner): if your eye or hand causes you to sin cut-it-out!
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As a child, once or twice, I would wake up aroused; not because I had been dreaming or thinking about sex–that is a natural behavior… that would not be the same as an adult if I aided the natural process with conscious thought–that is no longer an innocent event!
That’s not really logical.
As children we are compelled both by the natural processes of our bodies and the natural inclination to explore; till our innocense is tainted, sex does not become a conscious thought that we atribute to ourselves. Waking up with a full bladder causes some males to awake in an aroused state–to this innocent child that is a humorous situation not a sexual discovery.
Being aware of our sexuality changes this very inconsequential arousal if we react in a sexual manner.
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A woman breastfeeding her child could become aroused… if she begin to consciously seek the arousal or allows the natural behavior to escalate… she is committing an immoral act with her child.
So she should stop breastfeeding because she enjoys it also? A totally natural biological reaction which promotes a necessary and healthy activity is a beautiful thing.
When we have to defecate or urinate there is a sense of relief–that is perfectly natural. When we are famished and we get home and find some tasteless, textureless or otherwise truly unappealing food source our mind blocks the truth and fakes our taste buds into believing that what we’re eating is wonderful… that is very natural (coincidentally, it only works for the very first mouthful or two). A woman breastfeading her child–extremely very very natural. A woman being sexually aroused by her breastfeeding child is only natural till the very first conscious thought of the breastfeeding as a sexual act: the child cannot be the mom’s sexual partner!
If the mom cannot stop herself from thinking of the child as a sexual release, then she has the obligation of terminating that particular breastfeeding session. If it is wholesale arousal then she should stop breastfeeding altogether.
“We’re on a mission from God.”
…Elwood Blues
I think that you get confused with values… the Blues Brothers were not on a mission from God–they said they were on a mission from God; ditto with the use of euphemisms that purport that having sex is “making love,” solo sex is a “necessary release,” “multiple partners” is just what the doctor ordered for a healthy marriage, “too young” to be married or have children but not to “experiment” and engage “multiple partners” in the quest for bliss, “if not able to be with the one you love just love the one you’re with,” the list goes on and on…
Maran atha!
Angel