Scrupulous

[Dennis_Nedry]

Greetings all!

I feel pretty bad about posting this thread, since all I have done so far is mainly post about being scrupulous, so forgive me if I sound like all I’m doing is being repetitious. But I had recently been given three good sites to look at which helped ease my heart a bit, and today after mass I had spoke with father about my situation and he definetley helped me a bit as well. So later this afternoon I had remembered that I had a list of things which I thought were mortal sins (I usually list off things which I fear are mortal sins, that I might have committed during the day), and upon seeing them I had gotten nervous and scared. Then I as a way of trying to get comfort tried to look at a list of mortal sins, but instead of comforting me it did the exact oppisite. Now I feel like I’ve commited about ninety percent of the list of mortal sins without even knowing I’ve committed them, and now I feel like I keep commiting sacrilege when I recieve communion. I know that there are three requirements to make something a mortal sin, Serious matter, premeditation, and out of my free will. But I feel as though everything I do is of serious matter, and I usually don’t really think about what I do, but I feel like just having a few seconds is enough to be considered premeditation, and of course I have free will. So should I just make an appointment with the priest so I can go into full detail about my situation? All advice and information are welcomed. Thanks in advance.

Dennis_Nedry

 

[triumphguy]

Get a spiritual director.

 

[George_Stegmeir]

The best thing for you to do, is go to or call your parish rectory and make an appointment to see a priest. If there is a problem due to a lack of priests in your parish, or you are uncomfortable with doing this in your parish, try another.
Then, just before you go to your appointment, go on your computor, and enter “Examination of Conscience for adults (or for men)” on any search engine. You will find a large selection of sites. don’t dither about, simply choose from the top two or three. They are all good! You might consider making notes of your sins.
Then when you see the priest, explain your situation and ask to make a general confession. If you are not comfortable confessing face to face, ask if you can use a confessional. During confession, use your notes to refresh your memory.If it is in a confessional, there is usually enough light coming through the grate from the priests side for you to read your notes. At some point during your meeting with the priest or during confession, ask the priest for a recommendation for a spiritual advisor.
After confession, be sure to either shred or burn your notes!
All in all, you fell much better after all of this, and having a spiritual advisor will go a very long way towards overcoming scrupulosity!

 

[Pilosopo]

Maybe you should consider being scrupulous about being scrupulous?
I suspect that at the heart of scrupulousness is selfishness.
Well, maybe.
Hey, all the best. I think I was quite scrupulous during my younger years. I believe I took myself too seriously. And then, figuratively, God had me run into a field of flowers, which was for me his way of saying that he wants me to be happy, that he wants me to share the good joyful news of salvation.
Take care. Talk to a priest? a spiritual director? Yes. Try a Franciscan… a Jesuit…???

 

[Christine85]

Please see this link on the love of God
whatchristianswanttoknow.com/20-inspirational-bible-verses-about-gods-love/
Having suffered from scruples in the past I now realize it stems from a lack of trust in the mercy of God and doubting His love for you. Focus on Gods love and mercy rather than justice.
Perhaps also read the Diary of St Faustina which is all about the mercy of God

As others suggested a director who is a Priest could be good too.

 

[ProdigalSon1211]

Greetings all!

I feel pretty bad about posting this thread, since all I have done so far is mainly post about being scrupulous, so forgive me if I sound like all I’m doing is being repetitious. But I had recently been given three good sites to look at which helped ease my heart a bit, and today after mass I had spoke with father about my situation and he definetley helped me a bit as well. So later this afternoon I had remembered that I had a list of things which I thought were mortal sins (I usually list off things which I fear are mortal sins, that I might have committed during the day), and upon seeing them I had gotten nervous and scared. Then I as a way of trying to get comfort tried to look at a list of mortal sins, but instead of comforting me it did the exact oppisite. Now I feel like I’ve commited about ninety percent of the list of mortal sins without even knowing I’ve committed them, and now I feel like I keep commiting sacrilege when I recieve communion. I know that there are three requirements to make something a mortal sin, Serious matter, premeditation, and out of my free will. But I feel as though everything I do is of serious matter, and I usually don’t really think about what I do, but I feel like just having a few seconds is enough to be considered premeditation, and of course I have free will. So should I just make an appointment with the priest so I can go into full detail about my situation? All advice and information are welcomed. Thanks in advance.

Dennis_Nedry

Try reading this book by Trent Beattie.

shop.catholic.com/scruples-and-sainthood-accepting-and-overcoming-scruples-with-the-help-of-the-saints.html

 

[ready]

Taken from a very reputable book from the 19th century called The Way of Interior Peace by Fr. Lehen, pg. 99:

“To a mortal sin belong three points: 1st. Weighty matter; – a jesting lie, for example or a vain, self-conceited thought, is not sufficient for a mortal sin. 2d. Full knowledge of the evil; that is, the deliberate consciousness that what one does is a mortal sin. This excludes all cases in which the sin proceeds from surprise, or in which the soul is not full master of her powers; as, for example, in half-slumber, and the like. 3d. Full consent of the will to that which the understanding knows to be mortal sin. As long as the consent remains imperfect, or we are conscious of a certain hesitancy, a deferring, or a reproach of conscience in consequence of our neglect in combating the temptation, the sin is only venial.”

This should help you.

 

[Dennis_Nedry]

I appologize for the amount of time it has taken me to reply to every one .

Get a spiritual director.

I would definetley love to find myself a spiritual director, but I’m not quite sure on where to start. I might be wrong but arn’t sponsors suposed to also be spiritual directors, and if so my sponsor has moved out of state and I havent had any contact with them for over a year or two. But thank you!

Maybe you should consider being scrupulous about being scrupulous?
I suspect that at the heart of scrupulousness is selfishness.
Well, maybe.
Hey, all the best. I think I was quite scrupulous during my younger years. I believe I took myself too seriously. And then, figuratively, God had me run into a field of flowers, which was for me his way of saying that he wants me to be happy, that he wants me to share the good joyful news of salvation.
Take care. Talk to a priest? a spiritual director? Yes. Try a Franciscan… a Jesuit…???

Thank you for the advice, I too have also heard that at the heart of scrupulousness is selfeshness. But I don’t intend to be selfish. But I will most suredly make an appointment with a priest about my situation.

The best thing for you to do, is go to or call your parish rectory and make an appointment to see a priest. If there is a problem due to a lack of priests in your parish, or you are uncomfortable with doing this in your parish, try another.
Then, just before you go to your appointment, go on your computor, and enter “Examination of Conscience for adults (or for men)” on any search engine. You will find a large selection of sites. don’t dither about, simply choose from the top two or three. They are all good! You might consider making notes of your sins.
Then when you see the priest, explain your situation and ask to make a general confession. If you are not comfortable confessing face to face, ask if you can use a confessional. During confession, use your notes to refresh your memory.If it is in a confessional, there is usually enough light coming through the grate from the priests side for you to read your notes. At some point during your meeting with the priest or during confession, ask the priest for a recommendation for a spiritual advisor.
After confession, be sure to either shred or burn your notes!
All in all, you fell much better after all of this, and having a spiritual advisor will go a very long way towards overcoming scrupulosity!

Thank you I will definitely do this, I just hope I don’t feel overwhelmed by the examination of my own conscience, since when I begin to examine my owbn conscience I feel asthough I have commited every mortal sin possible. But thank you again for the advice.