Search for self awareness and today and the connection to true humility

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As time has passed since the writings of the great spiritual classics, we have had new insights into the dynamics these writings present, and with these new insights of come new words or nouns to contain those dynamics and new insights. One of these new words is “self awareness” which is intimately connected to true humility and the foundation of all virtue. What follows is one of a series of articles, all of which I will post into threads over time. They are well worth a read.
Our new insights in no way at all changes the dynamics of spirituality and mysticism presented by the great spiritual writers – if they did they could be held decidedly suspect in my book.

The source of these articles is “The Aquinas Academy” by the Marist Fathers and the articles are written by Fr Michael Whelan SM, PhD, Principal of Aquinas Academy.

Blessings all - Barb
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Quoting portions only of overall text as follows:
…….”…………St. Teresa of Avila: “I don’t know if this has been explained well.
Knowing ourselves is something so important
that I wouldn’t want any relaxation ever in this regard,
however high you may have climbed into the heavens.

While we are on this earth nothing is more important to us than humility.
So I repeat that it is good, indeed very good,
to try to enter first into the room where self-knowledge is dealt with
rather than fly off to other rooms.

**This is the right road **

and if we can journey along a safe and level path,
**why should we want wings to fly?” **…….”………

…………”…………Nor should we think that the simple fact of believing in Jesus Christ is enough to preserve us from this tragedy. The quest for holiness can mask self-centredness. This may be manifest in such attributes as dogmatism, moralism, legalism and judgementalism. The self-centred pursuit of holiness has nothing to do with holiness and everything to do with an infantile wish for a life that is rendered safe and secure in the knowledge that I am doing the “right” thing….”……….
 
Not meaning anything against the saints, but C. S. Lewis made the interesting observation in MERE CHRISTIANITY that true humility is a kind of self-forgetfulness.
 
Not meaning anything against the saints, but C. S. Lewis made the interesting observation in MERE CHRISTIANITY that true humility is a kind of self-forgetfulness.
I think perhaps the operative words above are “kind of”. The article does go into the true and false self. I’ve never read Lewis, but perhaps one needs to insight what he meant by “self” and this is what the article in part deals with. It can be quite informative with a word in common use in a conversation such as “the self”, to ask each person how they define “the self” and this can reveal that those present, who had thought they were talking about the same subject, actually had completely different concepts of the subject and its noun…each defined “the self” in totally different ways. The only way the conversation can continue is to come to a common agreement as to definition of “the self” or to change the subject matter of the conversation into "What is meant by “self” "?
I think “self” as being ego fulfillment is rejected and abandoned in true humility.
The self-knowledge of humility as St. Teresa pointed out, is not in order to wallow in the self in any way, but to liberate the person into God’s Mercy and His Love which turns the person totally towards neighbour lovingly. This kind of self-knowledge is not an investment in self, rather a liberating journey into what is real and true. True self knowledge leads to a real quality of mercy. If I can face and accept my own ‘demons’ and own them…I am able to be truly accepting, understanding and forgiving of the ‘demons’ of others and to “love others as you love yourself”.
What St Teresa is speaking of is the hard-won inner awareness that is born of honestly facing and submitting to the truth, wherever and however it emerges in your life. The tradition would suggest a number of processes in which we can engage to promote this awareness:
 
Hi Barb,

I have to agree that coming to understand who we really are before God is the work of a lifetime. Coming to terms with the ego, the false self, not to crush it but to own it, is to learn how to find the indwelling God. For when we are able to recognize the neediness of the ego self, we can begin in humility to recognize that we are not capable of fulfilling those needs. When we can step back and question what it is in us that causes us to believe that the world “owes” us anything, or that we “deserve” anything, we can come to understand that we are desperately needy for only one thing–the compassionate mercy of God.

We all end up “looking for love in all the wrong places”, putting our ego selves at the mercy of the world and turning cartwheels to try to conform to its expectations. As we humbly come instead before God, seeking to know ourselves as we are known, God will indeed fill us with the grace we need.

While the article mentions some of the psychological methods as superficial, I found them personally to be an excellent starting point in not only recognizing my own silly tendencies and failings, but in realizing that if I have them I have to also allow that others will have them and feel the same compassion for them that I have to hope for for myself. In doing so I slowly came to realize how totally dependent we are on the mercy of God–that we’re ALL in that same boat–and that unless we help carry each other’s crosses, tending to each one as the “least of his brothers”, that we are missing the whole message. For if we say that we love God, but don’t love our neighbors we are liars. For we cannot love the God we cannot see if we don’t love the neighbor we can see.

Thanks for another challenge to my humility Barb. I do need the constant reminders. 🙂
 
Hi again John…I need to ask your pardon, John. I am distracted at the moment or my mind is just switching off cause it’s had enough. I dont really know which but am finding concentration difficult. I am acknowledging your post gratefully John…always great (name removed by moderator)ut - we just cannot get off that same wavelength! I have read it but I can’t concentrate sufficiently to find words to respond. Oh my, John, knowing me that is most unusual, huh!!!😃
One thing…these articles etc. I post I post because first of all they spoke to me. I am sure I am a walking talking challenge to humility constantly.It would be such a comfort to be able to blame it all on Satan…so comforting. But then when I actually own myself, my whole self…God’s Love and Mercy is there. I dunno what I’m saying John:blush: …forgive me! It is
I that need constant reminders re humility John…see, we just can’t get off that same wavelength!!!👍

Cheers mate and cacha tomorrow…9.00pm here Tuesday 22/8 - Queenship of Mary…Barb:)
 
Hi John, I can’t add or subtract anything from the your opening para John for sure! I had to delete it the Board told me off for being too wordy:blush:
Quoting NCJohn
We all end up “looking for love in all the wrong places”, putting our ego selves at the mercy of the world and turning cartwheels to try to conform to its expectations. As we humbly come instead before God, seeking to know ourselves as we are known, God will indeed fill us with the grace we need.
Agreed! Sooner or later and somehow or other we come to a crossroads I think. We have a choice of goal: sinner or saint. Wide indeed “is the road that leads to perdition” and narrow that way that leads to God. It is not an easy road. I read something pretty profound I thought yesterday that Ghandi said “the moments in your life may not seem important, but it is important that you live them”. I think that the sheer routine and mundaneness of life over long spans can be as crushing as any heavy cross. I read years ago in one of Thomas Merton’s works and he was actually referring to novices who on the night before their first vows are asked to give up anything unnecessary. Merton commented that the very thing we hold back from God, may be the very thing necessary. That one thing that we feel we cannot do without sooner or later we will probably be confronted with the fact that to serve God, we needs abandon it. But God who can seem to demand much, always returns one hundredfold. But first one feels the sting of loss: the purgation of detaching.
There is a beautiful little book called “Spring Comes Barefoot” written by an American Poor Clare nun who had been in the airforce. It is written in the form of a diary and I laughed so often in that book as I learnt the lesson she put across. It was very funny in parts. She tells of how she started to read the mystics and decided to become a mystic she had to become detached and so began the work. She wrote something like this: “about three months after the big decision to become detached I found I did not give a d*** about any jolly thing”. Boy, did I laugh. Detachment is a detaching as one attaches. Do read the book if its still around, John. I read it many years ago but still remember it fondly. I lent it out and it never came back.
Our society andculture can make the road especially difficult today with the constant assault of advertising. They are pretty clever people, having worked as the secretary to the Managing Director of an Advertising Agency. Not that I stayed there very long . I was really shocked at the research undertaken prior to putting together an advert/advertising campaign. Exploitation of our weaknesses. And if necessary to attempt to create a weakness. All very cleverly done indeed.
While the article mentions some of the psychological methods as superficial, I found them personally to be an excellent starting point in not only recognizing my own silly tendencies and failings, but in realizing that if I have them I have to also allow that others will have them and feel the same compassion for them that I have to hope for for myself. In doing so I slowly came to realize how totally dependent we are on the mercy of God–that we’re ALL in that same boat–and that unless we help carry each other’s crosses, tending to each one as the “least of his brothers”, that we are missing the whole message. For if we say that we love God, but don’t love our neighbors we are liars. For we cannot love the God we cannot see if we don’t love the neighbor we can see.
Agreed John. Love is of God - true love. In fact it is sharing in His Life. And since He loves all equally, if then I do not, how can I say I love God or share in His Life of true love. It does make me realize just how far short I keep falling. The moment one honestly and rather ashamedly and even fearfully admits who one truly is, there waiting is God’s Loving Mercy. Until then, I think it remains something of an intellectual concept? There is that saying that love of God is not only vertical but horizontal at the same time. The love of God is horizontally vertical.***Thanks for another challenge to my humility Barb. I do need the constant reminders.***Then it’s you and me both, mate! The other day I was pondering something or other - some thought that had popped into my head decidedly truly uncharitable. I thought to myself “What a comfort it would be if I could blame Satan for the thought” But then decided that I had to own my own selfhood. That the thought had welled up from deep inside me - that in my deep regions there is still an aweful lot of work to be effected by Grace. And there waiting in my owning my own misery was God’s Loving Mercy.It’s really wondrous matter, the Goodness of God and His Mercy, huh?
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wooow.

i was attempting to, just now, start a thread about this because it is most definitely my biggest struggle, and i just recently identified it. a significant portion of my struggle is that i can’t properly articulate it! so thanks for that! i need to expound on this, but argggg… i’m not so much a “wordy” person! but i do have a new found appreciation for St Therese of Avila!
thank you! :)))

barbara, where can i find that book?
 
I don’t know where I heard it, but it went something like,

As we are transformed toward union with Christ, the false self is stripped away. We gradually become the person God had in mind when he created us.

Jim
 
wooow.

i was attempting to, just now, start a thread about this because it is most definitely my biggest struggle, and i just recently identified it. a significant portion of my struggle is that i can’t properly articulate it! so thanks for that! i need to expound on this, but argggg… i’m not so much a “wordy” person! but i do have a new found appreciation for St Therese of Avila!
thank you! :)))

barbara, where can i find that book?
Umm, actually I have plenty of extra words you can have. Lord knows I use FAR too many. 😊

I did a search for the book on Bookfinder, but only came up with one that only had a few very expensive copies listed. The author name was Felicity. Is that the book you’re talking about Barb?
 
wooow.

i was attempting to, just now, start a thread about this because it is most definitely my biggest struggle, and i just recently identified it. a significant portion of my struggle is that i can’t properly articulate it! so thanks for that! i need to expound on this, but argggg… i’m not so much a “wordy” person! but i do have a new found appreciation for St Therese of Avila!
thank you! :)))

barbara, where can i find that book?
Hi there CTD…not too sure what book you may mean. But the articles on “Self Awareness” referred to in this thread can be located on:
aquinas-academy.com/body_reflections%20115a.htm

and then continue on:
aquinas-academy.com/body_reflections%20113a.htm

If you are looking for something else, let me know and I will do my best to help…

Blessings and regards…Barb:)
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Edit: On going back to my post I think I can see what you mean. The book called "Spring Comes Barefoot". I am afraid I dont know where you would be able to locate a copy nowadays as I read it over 20 years ago, just have never forgotten it because a lot of it was very funny and about monastic life.
If you cannot locate it on the internet, I suggest you contact a Catholic Bookshop. I can’t remember the author’s name, only that she was a Poor Clare Nun who had been in the American Air Force. Good luck, I hope you will be able to locate a copy…it is very funny and also very wise with insight into human nature…hence as one laughs, one is also laughing at oneself. One of the biggest errors of spirituality I think can be to take oneself too seriously…"cast your burdens on The Lord’.

Good luck!
 
Umm, actually I have plenty of extra words you can have. Lord knows I use FAR too many. 😊

I did a search for the book on Bookfinder, but only came up with one that only had a few very expensive copies listed. The author name was Felicity. Is that the book you’re talking about Barb?
Hi John…Yep that sounds like the book - “Felicity” seems to ring a bell. But I cant understand why it should be very expensive as it is not a large book at all. My copy would have been about 10" long x 6" wide with a hard cover and roughly about 300 or so pages…taken from memory that is. An actual Catholic Bookshop may be of help and keep the cost within reason.

Cacha John…and regards - Barb:)
On the word front…I once wrote a 40 page latter. Can you compete with that!!!:eek: My deceased Vincentian director/confessor once said to me, you dont write a letter, you write a book of epistles!!!:eek: I wrote something for him once and he came back to me: “Not enough detail”. So I went off and wrote it again and his response was “Girl, I did not mean I’d take a year’s sabbatical to read the >>>>> thing!” Being a quite down to earth Aussie, he had a fine command of our more colourful common adjectives here.:eek: :eek: :eek:
 
I don’t know where I heard it, but it went something like,

As we are transformed toward union with Christ, the false self is stripped away. We gradually become the person God had in mind when he created us.

Jim
Hi Jim…well said!
Any problem may or could occur in identifying what is my false self if I try to take an active part in the stripping process. There is that balance to be achieved…not too little, not too much. Not too fast, not too slow. Not too this, not too that. Balance. St. Albert wrote “common sense is the foundation of all the virtues”. Sometimes mine is out of commission and not from overwork either! A life’s work. Over and above all our words and concepts, we can eminently trust God.

The very best road and I think the safest one always is to live one’s life as best once can with a mountain of trust in God and His Love and Mercy, His Grace…and trust in His Church and the Mass and Sacraments. St. Therese and now a Doctor of The Church had it all down to a fine art. Her life story “Autobiography of a Soul” is a true adventure and journey.

The saint attains to their true identity in God in the footsteps of Jesus. To live the circumstances of one’s life and all it is…as if Jesus was living the very same life and circumstances. A work of Grace.

A good spiritual director is gold.

Blessings…and regards…barb:)
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wooow.

i was attempting to, just now, start a thread about this because it is most definitely my biggest struggle, and i just recently identified it. a significant portion of my struggle is that i can’t properly articulate it! so thanks for that! i need to expound on this, but argggg… i’m not so much a “wordy” person! but i do have a new found appreciation for St Therese of Avila!
thank you! :)))

barbara, where can i find that book?
Be comforted CTD…we all struggle and will do until the day we die. We will struggle somewhere or other on some level or other. Not even saints or mystics, or mystic saints are spared this. “take up your cross daily and come follow Me”.
As to being “wordy”, Thomas Merton wrote that “a wordy mystic is no mystic”. I consulted my list of “Possible Potentials” and firmly crossed “mystic?” off!!!🤷

Because one can find words…does not mean at all one can find the actions…and the latter is of far more importance…

Blessings and my regards…Barb:)
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