"Selective termination:" Which child is good enough?

[cove]

amcalabrese:

Simple – lawsuits. Some people if they have anything other than a perfect baby will sue. By getting counseling, it protects the doctor. And if you get an amnio and find out the baby is “abnormal” and still do no “terminate the pregnency” you really cannot sue.

I still mourn though for the baby we lost.

I don’t recall but I probably had to sign something, also, when I declined the amnio.

I am sorry that you lost a baby. I am happy to see you were blessed with two miracles.

 

[Christian4life]

amcalabrese:

My wife and I are a little older for first time parents (she 36 and me 35 at the time she became pregnent) and she had previously had a miscarriage. So the doctor really forced genetic counseling on us. I said no. My wife said no, but the doctor was in CYA mode I guess in case we had a “problem” child.

To make them happy we went to the session. What annoyed me was that they went ahead and scheduled us for an amnio even though we said no. After the counseling session was over, a nurse started going over what he had to do for the amnio session. I almost lost it.

They made us sign a release saying we refused the amnio and accepted that me could have a genetically deformed child.

With baby number 2, new doctor in a nbew city did not require this of us.

Good for you for not going through with amnio!!! The chances that it will kill your child are an astounding 1 in 100, that’s twice the risk of birth!!!

 

[legeorge]

Dennis, I hope your wife hasn’t suffered too much anguish over this. She has things in wonderful perspective. I wish we lived closer. I could use a good friend. And I certainly wouldn’t mind it being a good Catholic who has her head screwed on straight. I run into this problem all the time. People think that because you disagree with their “opinions” that you are attacking them personally. I guess we all do that to some degree, but it is especially heated when it involves something that the person knows is wrong, but wants it justified anyway.
PS. Be especially kind to your wife for a while. She is going to need your strength even if she doesn’t admit that this is bothering her. I know that I always put on a brave face for my husband when I am hurting even though I am aching inside for him to help.

 

[Christian4life]

It is deeply saddening that the people doing this kind of thing still think they are “good people” and doing nothing wrong.

Do you know exactly what this does? How would you feel if you were in a car accident, and were told you would be a paraplegic the rest of you life? That same day, your best friend went and had an abortion because she was told her unborn child had a defect that would not allow them to walk.

Your friend comes and comforts you and tells you that you are still you even though you are differently abled.

But wait a minute here, your friend is the biggest hypocrite on the planet!!! Because what she did is tantamount to telling you to your face that she would rather have killed you than let you live as you are. If she would do it to her own child, why not to you? Just because you are already born?

When a society has it in thier minds that something - ie disability, is UNACCEPTABLE in a human being, they are more likely to look on those human beings who already have it as INFERIOR.

Hitler had a plan for eliminating the “unwanted” and “genetically inferior”. But apparently this plan works better.