Self Hatred

[BookofJames]

Hey guys

All my life I’ve struggled with self hatred. I don’t know what it is. Sometimes i’ll hit myself in the head and insult myself while looking in the mirror. I think it’s because I’ve struggled with weight all my life and I know nothing better. I just have no confidence and very low self esteem. I just ask that you pray for me and maybe shoot some advice my way as to how to love myself. It’s time to make a change.

Thanks a ton!

Pat

 

[ready]

Love Our Lord with all your heart, mind, soul and strength … and you should find that your bad behavior will change. I suggest you have a strong devotion to the Sacred Heart of Jesus and to the Immaculate Heart of Mary. Your life can change in a dramatic way if you read and follow the direction found in The Devotion to the Sacred Heart by Fr. John Croiset, S.J… The book is a precious jewel! I’ll be praying for you. God bless you.

 

[Lady_Love]

I don’t know what your family life was like as a child but often we develop “self-talk” based on how our parents would react to our behaviors or just us in general. Sometimes it is not the parents but your peers although the parent’s influence usually far outweighs any other voice.

The great thing about being an adult though, is that we can choose to talk to ourselves differently. We can parent ourselves differently than our parents did. We can DECIDE to encourage ourselves with positive self-talk or forgive ourselves for our mistakes. We can choose to give less attention to our failures than our successes. This can take a lot of hard work but it can be done and it can transform your life.

It is hard work because we have neuro pathways in our brain that retrieve thoughts from a particular part of the brain that is responsible for negative thoughts. We have to try to create a new neuro pathway to the positive thoughts. The more we use the positive thought neuro pathway the more defined the path becomes. Hopefully, it turns into a highway! and while your brain is building the positive pathway the negative pathway is getting narrower, and narrower, and harder to travel to those negative thoughts. Through, determination, one foot in front of the other, you can help yourself. It also helps to have a friend who you can reveal what you are committed to doing and they can help you when you find yourself in a slump.

Prayer is a must! Bring all your thoughts to God. He is a miracle worker! He will have many wonderful and loving things to say to you and about you. Just this morning in prayer, (I was in a slump), I heard in a super quiet voice say to me, “I love all that I have created.”

I burst into tears because that meant that He loves me too. God can lead you on the straight and narrow (neuro pathway ) I’m praying for you!

 

[soroman]

Hey guys

All my life I’ve struggled with self hatred. I don’t know what it is. Sometimes i’ll hit myself in the head and insult myself while looking in the mirror. I think it’s because I’ve struggled with weight all my life and I know nothing better. I just have no confidence and very low self esteem. I just ask that you pray for me and maybe shoot some advice my way as to how to love myself. It’s time to make a change.

Thanks a ton!

Pat

Why are you overweight? Is it because of overeating, chemicals in the food or some other issue? I think you just have to carry your cross if you are predisposed to weight gain issues, like DNA. It’s not your fault. Imperfections of the soul and body are caused by centuries of sin. Don’t rebel and accuse God for it. Obedience, love and patience in suffering and enduring in prayer for healing and God will reward you with love and healing. If He does not that means you have to carry your cross with resignation and atonement for sins, yours or others.

I also hate the way I look and that is how I deal with it, haha .

 

[George_Stegmeir]

In addition to paying attention to Lady Love’s advice, I strongly suggest that you seek out Professional Counselling from a Psychotherepist. If you are in school, you might get a referral from your Guidance Counsellor. If not, I suggest that you make an appointment with the Pastor of your Church. During your meeting with him, outline what you have written here and ask him for a referal to a Catholic Psychotherepist. If you are in College, then talk to the priest in charge of your campus Newman Center.
Prayer is always good, but occasionally people do need psychotherapy.

 

[Sailor_Kenshin]

Why are you overweight? Is it because of overeating, chemicals in the food or some other issue? I think you just have to carry your cross if you are predisposed to weight gain issues, like DNA. It’s not your fault. Imperfections of the soul and body are caused by centuries of sin. Don’t rebel and accuse God for it. Obedience, love and patience in suffering and enduring in prayer for healing and God will reward you with love and healing. If He does not that means you have to carry your cross with resignation and atonement for sins, yours or others.

I also hate the way I look and that is how I deal with it, haha .

When did the OP even hint that he ‘blamed God?’

I don’t know what would help either of you but I’ll say a prayer.

 

[soroman]

When did the OP even hint that he ‘blamed God?’

I don’t know what would help either of you but I’ll say a prayer.

You are slow minded, if that’s English way of saying it. Usually when people suffer that’s what they do and that’s what the devil tempts them to do. So it was an advice in advance, so to speak, to understand the movements of the enemy and of one’s own weakness. I did not say OP is doing it, I just gave an advice ahead of time; one step ahead of the devil.

 

[Mary_Ellen]

I, too, struggle with weight issues, depression, and self-abuse such as hitting. While prayer is an important part of my life God has also helped me through medications and psychotherapy. I encourage you to confess the self-abuse as a venial sin under the Fifth Commandment and to seek the help of a psychiatrist and/or counselor for your depression.