Seriously considering giving up reverting

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The main reason, is that though there is A priest that shows up for Mass, or masses plural, one is told you need to speak with one if you want to revert, have your marriage normalized so you can come back to full communion. I know priests are busy. But having appointment after appointment cancelled does not help the soul of someone who was yanked away from the church as a child and can’t seem to get back in. It is very depressing to be but a shadow sitting in a pew during mass.
 
Please don’t after all maybe the Lord wants you be seven times tried to see how faithful you are, you left the Lord in the first place, now HE is testing you on your strength and determination to come back so you can say at the end like St. Peter you know Lord that I love you,prove it.
 
Casilda said:
The main reason, is that though there is A priest that shows up for Mass, or masses plural, one is told you need to speak with one if you want to revert, have your marriage normalized so you can come back to full communion. I know priests are busy. But having appointment after appointment cancelled does not help the soul of someone who was yanked away from the church as a child and can’t seem to get back in. It is very depressing to be but a shadow sitting in a pew during mass.
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If able, try another parish or speak to the DRE (religious ed director) of the parish you attending.
 
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I pray for the intercession of St. Raphael the Archangel, patron saint of happy meetings. By the power of your intercession, may Casilda cross paths with a priest who will have the time to talk to her about her journey back into the Catholic Church.

As the above poster said, do not lose hope, do not be discouraged! You’ve made a decision to come back to the Church, and I guarantee you that any priest you tell that to will just light up after hearing it. They are busy men, but I assure you that they’ll be delighted to walk you through this process.

I pray that a priest near Casilda will have the time to meet with her. And I pray for any and all people that you know she will encounter, Lord, in this experience. I pray that they will be more than helpful to her for this. I pray for all the people in her parish to be more welcoming to her!

Our Father
Hail Mary
Hail Mary
Haily Mary
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Amen.
 
Casilda said:
The main reason, is that though there is A priest that shows up for Mass, or masses plural, one is told you need to speak with one if you want to revert, have your marriage normalized so you can come back to full communion. I know priests are busy. But having appointment after appointment cancelled does not help the soul of someone who was yanked away from the church as a child and can’t seem to get back in. It is very depressing to be but a shadow sitting in a pew during mass.
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Try another parish…or see if there is a faith formation director that can act as a liaison.

I imagine you could even show up at confessional time and talk to him there.

Don’t give up!
 
Praying for you…

It is worth the wait. Mine wasn’t too bad–didn’t have people breaking appointments, but it would have been worth a lot more trouble than it was.

Please don’t let the priest’s bad scheduling cause you to give up. Jesus is waiting for you in the Eucharist, and He will make sure that the meetings happen.

–Jen
 
Casilda said:
The main reason, is that though there is A priest that shows up for Mass, or masses plural, one is told you need to speak with one if you want to revert, have your marriage normalized so you can come back to full communion. I know priests are busy. But having appointment after appointment cancelled does not help the soul of someone who was yanked away from the church as a child and can’t seem to get back in. It is very depressing to be but a shadow sitting in a pew during mass.
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I’m sorry to hear of your frustrations. 😦 I would encourage you to spin it as positively as you can. Maybe the priest keeps getting called to administer Anointing of the Sick at the bedside of dying people. :o

Though you do need to meet with the priest to get certain things ironed out and taken care of, never think that you are just “a shadow sitting in a pew” simply on the priest’s account. Priests are imperfect human beings who cannot be everywhere and can make mistakes (particularly when it comes to scheduling). The Lord is with you always – even now. Look at this as an opportunity to persevere in patience.

The reason to come back to the Catholic Church is because She is the pillar and bulwark of Truth that Jesus instituted to remain in the world and administer grace. Don’t allow a few set backs (or even more than a few :o) to keep you away. Nowhere else is home.

God bless you. I will pray for you.
 
Casilda said:
The main reason, is that though there is A priest that shows up for Mass, or masses plural, one is told you need to speak with one if you want to revert, have your marriage normalized so you can come back to full communion. I know priests are busy. But having appointment after appointment cancelled does not help the soul of someone who was yanked away from the church as a child and can’t seem to get back in. It is very depressing to be but a shadow sitting in a pew during mass.
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What you describe is totally unacceptable. I know priests can be busy, so I could excuse your having one appointment cancelled, especially if the priest had to go on a sick call or something of the sort. Repeatedly like this? Uh-uh.

I’ve said a prayer that you find a good priest near you, and strongly recommend that you check at another parish. While you’re at it, unless every excuse this priest has given you is a good one (i.e., “I had to give the last rites to someone on Tuesday, and then the week after I had a heart attack, and the following month both my parents died and I had to arrange their funerals…”), I’d suggest writing to the local bishop and the vicar for clergy, and cc’ing this priest on those letters. You want to come back to the Church, and that’s a very laudable thing. This situation with the priest (s) is not the norm, nor should it be. In your letter, I’d advise specifically pointing out that at least one soul (yours) and possibly more (those of your family, depending on their situation) could be at stake, and that this priest doesn’t seem to take that seriously.
 
Don’t throw away the Bride of Christ on account of human failings. Please, don’t.

My own road back to the Church seemed so easy, then wasn’t. I had to call multiple parishes to find a priest who would work with me. I will never regret it.
 
Casilda said:
The main reason, is that though there is A priest that shows up for Mass, or masses plural, one is told you need to speak with one if you want to revert, have your marriage normalized so you can come back to full communion. I know priests are busy. But having appointment after appointment cancelled does not help the soul of someone who was yanked away from the church as a child and can’t seem to get back in. It is very depressing to be but a shadow sitting in a pew during mass.
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Go to confession and during your confession, confess that you are currently married outside the Church and that you want to have your marriage convalidated.

The priest should start working with you right there and then.

If you still feel like you are getting “brushed off” then go to another parish or call the Religious Director.

Don’t leave the Church because you simply have an extremely busy Priest, by the sounds of which is not resident at your Church.

I too was married outside the Church and stuck with the process of getting it recognized. My wife did not want a convalidation, so I had to be patient while becoming “eligible” for a Radical Sanation. It’s worth the wait. You will appreciate Communion that much more. Trust me :)

Good luck and God Bless.
 
O Lord, preserve us from “busy” priests, especially those who are “busy” with potlucks, dances or fundraising, when there are starving souls out there.

I am praying for you, for perseverance, trust, and wisdom as you journey back. Keep in mind there is someone (satan) who would prefer you give up, and he’s on overtime making sure you get discouraged and walk away.

Read the posts and prayers of the faithful here, and gain wisdom. Pray before you do anything negative. There’s an amazing exercise of St. Ignatius for discernment of spirits, and although I can’t remember exactly what rule it is, (perhaps #5?) it is WHEN you are feeling discouraged and want to give up, remember where you were when you were ENCOURAGED to return, and follow that path.

Indeed, as I write this, I am thinking if you are going through a lot of turmoil and struggle, there’s indeed an amazing reason that you should come back home. Perhaps there is a ministry in this struggle for you. Once back home, consider being a positive mentor and advocate for those who are in the struggle in the future. They will need you so much. You’ll remember this time and be their encouragement. You can be their salt, and their light to Jesus. I really feel this strongly, and pray that this is from the Holy Spirit. Hold on tight to whatever you can to return right now, and be assured of my prayers, tomorrow morning, while I’m at Mass, as well as today.

God Bless
 
I understand and share your frustrations completely. I agree that as a reverter we can see it as unnecessary hoops to jump through. It seems as though the Church don’t really want me back. However I also look at it as a way of showing my commitment to the Church and a measure of how important it is.

I am going through a similar process I’m in the UK and I started this process last July. My parish priest isn’t a flexible man and has very strict ideas. He isn’t very friendly if I had the option of trying another priest I would have. However I live in a rural area so it was him or not at all. He lost the original forms we completed in July, so I have just had to start the process from the beginning again and have lost 5 months during this period. My husband has had his interview today regarding his previous marriage in 1988 as that was in a Catholic Church. We married in 2006 so need our marriage to be formalised also.

I also have blood clots that have gone into my lungs now, so I’m desperate to get this matter sorted out, as I feel a strong need to be a ‘fully paid up member’ of our Church. I’m hoping that in the near future I’ll be able to feel fully embraced by the Church and be allowed to have communion and absolution. I hope you also find your marriage formalised in the near future. :signofcross:
 
When I decided to revert after two decades as a ECO-Catholic, I called two parishes in my area to meet with a priest and make a confession. It was a week before Easter. One priest was out of town, one couldn’t meet with me until after Easter. I was plenty PO’d and somewhat deflated, since I had to psych myself up to even make the calls.

Then, I decided to make one last call- to the largest parish in town with the more (as my neighbors described it) “happy happy joy joy” outlook. Of the three churches, this was the one that interested me the least! A day or two went by and I said Oh Well, the church let me down again. Then Father Jack called me.

And Father Jack’s parish is now our parish.

That was three years ago.

Please don’t give up now. Lent is coming and it’s the best time to come home.
 
Casilda said:
The main reason, is that though there is A priest that shows up for Mass, or masses plural, one is told you need to speak with one if you want to revert, have your marriage normalized so you can come back to full communion. I know priests are busy. But having appointment after appointment cancelled does not help the soul of someone who was yanked away from the church as a child and can’t seem to get back in. It is very depressing to be but a shadow sitting in a pew during mass.
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You can also speak to the RCIA Formation Director. If need be, you can also go to another parish if possible. Do not give up. I’m praying for you. God bless.
 
:thumbsup:I agree with the others. Its tough now with the shortage of Priests. Also it could be the Devil trying to keep you from the Church. I had a few things happen when I was trying to plan our wedding and then when my husband was to begin the RCIA. Keep on trying, the goal is worth all the hassle. We will all pray for you, keep us informed, God bless you.
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I’m sorry to hear of your frustrations. 😦 I would encourage you to spin it as positively as you can. Maybe the priest keeps getting called to administer Anointing of the Sick at the bedside of dying people. :o

Though you do need to meet with the priest to get certain things ironed out and taken care of, never think that you are just “a shadow sitting in a pew” simply on the priest’s account. Priests are imperfect human beings who cannot be everywhere and can make mistakes (particularly when it comes to scheduling). The Lord is with you always – even now. Look at this as an opportunity to persevere in patience.

The reason to come back to the Catholic Church is because She is the pillar and bulwark of Truth that Jesus instituted to remain in the world and administer grace. Don’t allow a few set backs (or even more than a few :o) to keep you away. Nowhere else is home.

God bless you. I will pray for you.
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Holy Michael the Archangel defend us in the day of battle.
Be our safeguard against the wickedness and snares of the devil.
May God rebuke him, we humbly pray,
and do Thou, O Prince of the Heavenly Host,
by the Power of God,
thrust down to hell satan and all the wicked spirits,
who wander through the world for the ruin of souls.
Amen.

Remember, O most loving Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone fled to your protection, implored your help, or sought your intercession and was left forsaken. Inspired by this confidence, I fly unto you, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother. To you I come, before you I stand, a sorrowful sinner. Despise not my words, O Mother of the Word, but in your mercy, hear and answer me.
Amen
 
Casilda said:
The main reason, is that though there is A priest that shows up for Mass, or masses plural, one is told you need to speak with one if you want to revert, have your marriage normalized so you can come back to full communion. I know priests are busy. But having appointment after appointment cancelled does not help the soul of someone who was yanked away from the church as a child and can’t seem to get back in. It is very depressing to be but a shadow sitting in a pew during mass.
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I really have felt the same way as you. Remember, it’s not all about the fallible priests who are stumbling blocks along the way. It is about Jesus. Keep at it. Find your fellowship online or with others you meet close by. The journey will be worth it. I promise!
 
phil19034 said:
Go to confession and during your confession, confess that you are currently married outside the Church and that you want to have your marriage convalidated.

The priest should start working with you right there and then.

If you still feel like you are getting “brushed off” then go to another parish or call the Religious Director.

Don’t leave the Church because you simply have an extremely busy Priest, by the sounds of which is not resident at your Church.

I too was married outside the Church and stuck with the process of getting it recognized. My wife did not want a convalidation, so I had to be patient while becoming “eligible” for a Radical Sanation. It’s worth the wait. You will appreciate Communion that much more. Trust me :)

Good luck and God Bless.
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👍 Well said c:
 
Saint Michael, the archangel, defend us in battle, be our defense against the wickedness and snares of the devil, may God rebuke him, we humbly pray. And do you, O’ Prince of the Heavenly host, by the power of God thrust into Hell Satan and all the other evil spirits who prowl about the world for the ruin of souls.

Amen.

†

Our Father who art in Heaven, hallowed be thy name.

Thy kingdom come, thy will be done on Earth as it is in Heaven.

Give us this day our daily bread.

And forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.

And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.

Amen.

†

Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee.

Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the fruit of your womb Jesus.

Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death.

Amen.

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