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They can go for a weekend without the alcohol! The availability of alcohol may be the very thing that would make the BIL backside! It will be a good example for the kids, to see that adults don’t need alcohol, in order to have a good time. You did the right thing. Don’t let a few selfish people rob you of your good plan!
 
Given that these are parents, not 22-year-olds fresh out of college, I find it odd that in this day and age they are having such an issue about one dry weekend with family. We’re many decades out of the “cocktail culture” where people just expected to have drinks every evening. To me, it does signal a problem with alcohol - maybe not to the point of alcoholism yet, but whenever you can’t “go without” an addictive substance (up to and including caffeine or sugar) for a few days, it’s a red flag in my book.

Props to the OP for handling this as graciously as possible.
 
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I wonder if they would feel the same way if their own son was just three months out of rehab for a life-threatening addiction?
 
My own experience is that an alcoholic cannot be trusted to use good judgment at 3 months sober, so I wouldn’t ask.
 
Thanks everyone for your helpful thoughts! 😀 The weekend and party went completely fine.

Almost everyone I have talked to, on and off this board, agreed with our decision. There was one person I talked to at work, though, who said to me, “You pay the bills and you can’t have a beer in your own home? Seems bogus to me.”

Having said that, I think I would do the same thing again. However, once he gets past the 3-6 month mark, we probably won’t any longer as it does put a lot of attention on him. Can’t do it forever and I don’t know you can ever get to the point where an alcoholic can be 100% trusted. But this early on, I think it was very important to put up that buffer. The way I thought of it is that it was charitable and being charitable will often deprive one of pleasure. I was just listening to Fr. Ripperger on that. 😀
 
basketballguy said:
Almost everyone I have talked to, on and off this board, agreed with our decision. There was one person I talked to at work, though, who said to me, “You pay the bills and you can’t have a beer in your own home? Seems bogus to me.”
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You can do a lot of things that you probably shouldn’t do, or at least that it would be good to not do in the interest of charity.
 
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