Sex after 50

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My wife and I are both over 50. We do not want any more children. She had trouble with both of her pregnancies and we don’t want to go through it again. Luckily, both of our boys are fine. The youngest is 17.
The question is, do we have to give up sex? Is oral sex wrong? We know contraception is out of the question. What can we do and still remain in good standing?
 
I and my wife are both over 50. We very successfully use the Billings Mucus Method.

As far as I know, sex acts intentionally geared to non-coital orgasm are objectively immoral.
 
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GaryB:
My wife and I are both over 50. We do not want any more children. She had trouble with both of her pregnancies and we don’t want to go through it again. Luckily, both of our boys are fine. The youngest is 17.
The question is, do we have to give up sex? Is oral sex wrong? We know contraception is out of the question. What can we do and still remain in good standing?
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You should take a class in Natural Family Planning if your wife has not yet reached menopause. Web resources:

www.creightonmodel.com
www.ccli.org
 
Soon you will be able to use a perfectly licit method of birth control called menopause.
 
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Maccabees:
Do people after 50 have sex? :bigyikes:
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There’s that book called “SEX AFTER FIFTY” which one’s relative give at the 50th birthday party. This is what it says:

I learned a lot.
 
Then there is that book you give when one turns 60

I forgot a lot.
 
anything oral would be immoral… but soon , due to menopause, there shouldn’t be any problems. you could also employ disgression…

God Bless–JMJ
Laura 🙂
 
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GaryB:
My wife and I are both over 50. We do not want any more children. She had trouble with both of her pregnancies and we don’t want to go through it again. Luckily, both of our boys are fine. The youngest is 17.
The question is, do we have to give up sex? Is oral sex wrong? We know contraception is out of the question. What can we do and still remain in good standing?
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Abstain. See CCC 2351.
 
Abstain? Permanently? I think not.

As for oral(and other) types of sex, if my memory of the CCC is correct, (my children have actually run off with it, so I can’t quote chapter and verse) the point of marital relations is intercourse, with male orgasm during intercourse. If other types of physical contact is used as foreplay for intercourse, then OK. Oral sex, with the intent that orgasm occurs just from that would NOT be OK.

Billings or Creighton NFP should serve you well.
disgression…
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What is this?
 
We are 65+…Sex is great. No worries about pro-creation, just good, fun, loving, recreation. Seriously, natural family planning does work and it brings the couple even closer together, an intimate, beautiful way to practice “birth control”.Love and Peace
 
My Catholic friend was telling me that Catholics can’t have sex after a woman has manopause because the whole point of sex is to have kids and if a woman cant have kids then the couple cant have sex. She said that its immoral to have sex if your not trying to have a kid. I’m not Catholic and I’m new to all of this so it’s news to me!
 
Sylvia- That isn’t true. The couple need only to be open to new life. (not using artificial contraception) There is nothing wrong with a post-menopausal woman having sex with her husband.
 
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Sylvia22:
My Catholic friend was telling me that Catholics can’t have sex after a woman has manopause because the whole point of sex is to have kids and if a woman cant have kids then the couple cant have sex. She said that its immoral to have sex if your not trying to have a kid. I’m not Catholic and I’m new to all of this so it’s news to me!
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I like to think of it this way. Sex is total self giving. If you hold any part of yourself back it is immoral. That would include one’s fertility(contraception), love, or lifelong commitment (marriage). If any of these these things are missing, someone is holding something back and it becomes selfish and in essence mutual masturbation. Now, during infertile periods or menopause, fertility is not possible to give, so the couples are still giving all they have to give to each other.
 
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Sylvia22:
My Catholic friend was telling me that Catholics can’t have sex after a woman has manopause because the whole point of sex is to have kids and if a woman cant have kids then the couple cant have sex. She said that its immoral to have sex if your not trying to have a kid. I’m not Catholic and I’m new to all of this so it’s news to me!
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That’s a crock.
Uh, I mean your friend is sadly misinformed. Sex is both for procreation and an expression of love w/in marriage. Goad has designed women so that they cannot procreate beyond a certain age but that does not make marital sex any less legitimate.
I feel sorry for your friend who (one presumes) hasbeen denying herslf and her husband one of God’s gifts.

Didymus
 
From what I can gather…
Catholics are against homosexuality because the purpose of sex is to produce children- so thus, only males and females are allowed to have sex.
HOWEVER, from this thread I am gathering from some of you that it is okay for those over 50 to have sex (or after menophaus). Is that not hypocritical?
After 50 they can’t produce children… so they shouldn’t be able to have sex!
 
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