Sex and newlyweds!

[rayne89]

I hear male hygiene (or the lack of it) has just as much to do with UTI as your proneness to it. Just another issue worth looking into.

When my hubby when in the military he showered at least twice a day -he’s a very clean guy.
Actually after my (civillian)doctor did a internal exam she said I am prone to them because I’m hmm…smaller than average internally -kinda like a tight squeeze. And since I delivered our daughter by (semi-emergency) c-section that was never rectified.

 

[ltbpoe43]

Don’t let this culture we are in convince you that everyone is a dynamo from day one. It ain’t true. Remember that marriage is a journey and not a destination.

It’s supposed to be a learning experience and a journey together of sharing and caring about the other person. So relax, don’t get anxieties about it. When there is no pressure about it, the unitive act is more expressive and natural. Think of it more as a blessing and not an event to be admired and rated good or bad.

With time and patience, the joys will be there to share. We’ve been married 25 years and we are still on the journey of sharing and joy. Good luck and God Bless.

 

[MomOSix]

I think sex is overrated. IMO

Maybe you’re not doing it right?

I waited, DH did not. It’s been 21 yrs and honestly, the beginnings are difficult to remember. I do remember it being an awkward time, but fun. I remember we laughed a lot…sometimes still do.
Once you both figure out what you like or don’t like and let go of the pressure or idea that sex has to “be” anything in particular, and just enjoy the time together you will even learn to enjoy the times that don’t rock your world because it is time spent in closeness with one another.
Sometimes you’ll have a “WOW” kind of night, other times may be an "Oh well. . . " kind of night. And both are normal and okay.

Congrats on your marriage! Wishing you many, many happy years together.

 

[His_Ruby]

See, my fiancee and I are getting married at 10am, and the reception ends at 5pm. I would hope we’re not totally wiped out; we’ll have time to rest.

We got married at 1:30PM and the reception was from 5PM-10PM (really 11PM by the time everyone came to say goodbye to us)… and we still had the energy somehow

And actually… I had been so hyped up and excited that I couldn’t eat anything at the reception when we got served or after (I hear this is common)… and after it was all over I suddenly was starving! So we ordered room service, ate, went down to the bar to hang a little more with family first… 'course we were so tired once we got to the honeymoon destination we zonked out

 

[jedimasterham]

yay, sex is great! people shouldn’t wait to have sex… Have sex with people now! It’s a great expression of your love for one of the opposite gender. I think the Church has led people to fear sexuality as something devilish and wrong, something to be ashamed of. But in reality, it’s just skin, bones, muscle, blood, nervous system and mind mixing… So go for it, don’t wait!~

 

[Mirror_Mirror]

yay, sex is great! people shouldn’t wait to have sex… Have sex with people now! It’s a great expression of your love for one of the opposite gender. I think the Church has led people to fear sexuality as something devilish and wrong, something to be ashamed of. But in reality, it’s just skin, bones, muscle, blood, nervous system and mind mixing… So go for it, don’t wait!~

Wow that was amazing and very well thought out…are you serious? I guess that middle school let out early today.

 

[Margita]

I have reported that post. Enough is enough.

 

[Mirror_Mirror]

I have reported that post. Enough is enough.

I did as well. Hopefully everyone caught the sarcasm in my last post.

 

[jedimasterham]

Wow that was amazing and very well thought out…are you serious? I guess that middle school let out early today.

haha! Actually I’m 21, no middle school. I just think people might like a different outlook on sex. It’s not a bad or good thing unless you want it to be. I choose it to be a wonderful experience, and I don’t have to be married to have these nice experiences. I would say, go for it, try it whenever you want, just use contraceptives though.

 

[rayne89]

haha! Actually I’m 21, no middle school. I just think people might like a different outlook on sex. It’s not a bad or good thing unless you want it to be. I choose it to be a wonderful experience, and I don’t have to be married to have these nice experiences. I would say, go for it, try it whenever you want, just use contraceptives though.

Somebody is trolling. This is a Catholic forum, I believe you said you went to Catholic School. You obviously know what you just said goes against church teaching. You are trying to stir people up for your own amusement. I’ve seen you other posts, I would think a 21 year old would be more mature.

 

[Margita]

Let’s not feed trolls.

 

[Sarabande]

As someone else said - practice makes perfect and even the practice is a lot of fun. But even when we don’t have it down perfectly, because we are doing this out of love for each other and for the sacrament and God, it is still beautiful.

We were both virgins (26 and 28) and waited till the wedding night. Our first time and first week was interesting, albeit still beautiful. We both didn’t have high expectations, so that is probably what made it great for us, with exception of one thing - be prepared for urinary tract infections, especially if you are going to end up having your period on your wedding day.

My cycle was always very unreliable, but because of the stress of preparing for the wedding and working three jobs prior to the wedding, it REALLY went out of whack. I was supposed to get my period a week before the wedding. It came the week of. That was fine, because I thought it would be over before the day. Instead of lasting only 4 days, it lasted 7. My parents, being a doctor and a nurse, both warned me about UTI’s, but I didn’t take the warning seriously. I never had any serious problems, even my periods weren’t too much of a hassle. But the day after the wedding and the entire first week of my honeymoon, I was so sick. I didn’t realize what it was, though, because I never had one before. I thought it was just a part of now being a wife. (Thank God it isn’t!!! ha!) I was ill, but because we were both so excited with fully being with each other and being in England, I ignored it. Amazing what the brain can do to get you through things. Finally, I became so sick had to call my Dad from England. My mom and he luckily gave me some Leviquin in case something like this happened. I had to take that for the rest of our honeymoon and two days off from being intimate. Although the first week of our honeymoon was great, the second week was so much better - since I wasn’t sick!!! Now, I always take precautions of drinking tons of water and cranberry juice - the real stuff with now sweeteners. All cranberry, pure sour pouts.

 

[jedimasterham]

Somebody is trolling. This is a Catholic forum, I believe you said you went to Catholic School. You obviously know what you just said goes against church teaching. You are trying to stir people up for your own amusement. I’ve seen you other posts, I would think a 21 year old would be more mature.

Your perception of what the concept of mature means, is different from every other persons perception. For a 21 years of age, I am decently smart, have a fair amount of wisdom, and I do not conform to standard just because they say you should. I advocate civil disobedience against any tyranny. Of course I know that what I said goes against the Church teachings, but I do not write for my own amusement, but to spread an alternative opinion. I do want to stir people up, I want them to question their faith as much as possible, it’s so important that they do this.

Take gay marriage or condoms for example, what is wrong with both? Your everyday Christian will be against these because they’re told to be. This is pure ignorance… I don’t want gay marriages, but I support their freedom of choice. I support condoms because it helps stop the spreading of aids and population explosion. I want people to think, debate, discuss, and question all of what they’re told to do.

 

[childofmary1143]

I sincerely hope that the moderators will not let “jedimasterham”'s antics to shut down this very informative thread. Being single I don’t have anything to contribute but I am learning some very important things here before star wars freak here railroaded this thread

 

[jedimasterham]

I sincerely hope that the moderators will not let “jedimasterham”'s antics to shut down this very informative thread. Being single I don’t have anything to contribute but I am learning some very important things here before star wars freak here railroaded this thread

This is a discussion forum, it’s not an agreement and nod your head forum. I put in my bits worth to express my opinion and understanding of sex, and if you want to learn something, then why reject what I’m saying? Why not try to think about it first.

 

[Rach620]

I read your post before it got removed, jedimasterham. This is not the place for that debate. If you want to talk about sex before marriage, start a new thread.

As someone who’s getting married in about two years, I’ve really been appreciating the frankness of the on-topic discussion on this thread. Can we please keep it that way? Thanks.

 

[maryjk]

One bit of advice for couples in this position… ask your mom, or your doctor, or older sister, or somebody to explain about bladder infections. It can save some misery on the honeymoon!

Or ask me.

Okay, ladies, men you don’t have to read this.

After, um, you know. Go to the restroom and well, pee. The problem is that bacteria from one of you gets pushed into the urethra during well, um, the process. That bacteria goes up and makes a nice home and you get a bladder infection. If you pee right after, the bacteria gets flushed out.

My Dad was military, retired now. My brother in law was military, retired now. And my husband used to travel a lot. So my whole family knows about this and knows how to prevent it.

 

[Questionsabound]

It was all good - still is. Enjoy and thank God every time you and your spouse can come together.

 

[Sarabande]

Or ask me.

Okay, ladies, men you don’t have to read this.

After, um, you know. Go to the restroom and well, pee. The problem is that bacteria from one of you gets pushed into the urethra during well, um, the process. That bacteria goes up and makes a nice home and you get a bladder infection. If you pee right after, the bacteria gets flushed out.

My Dad was military, retired now. My brother in law was military, retired now. And my husband used to travel a lot. So my whole family knows about this and knows how to prevent it.

VERY GOOD ADVICE!!! It definitely does help with preventing UTIs especially if you are very active.

 

[rayne89]

Or ask me.

Okay, ladies, men you don’t have to read this.

After, um, you know. Go to the restroom and well, pee. The problem is that bacteria from one of you gets pushed into the urethra during well, um, the process. That bacteria goes up and makes a nice home and you get a bladder infection. If you pee right after, the bacteria gets flushed out.

My Dad was military, retired now. My brother in law was military, retired now. And my husband used to travel a lot. So my whole family knows about this and knows how to prevent it.

Heck, I forgot about that. :doh2: I remember being told that now. I do that anyway. Before, after, sometimes it’s …Uhh honey I’ll be right back -my hubby says I have a “hamster” bladder.