Sex before Marriage?

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Catholic people only, please:

Simple question… did you first have sex before you were married?

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yes i think very few of us can seriously say that we didnt AT LEAST engage in oral sex before marrigae. it just goes to show that the church should really lighten some of laws on sex. not just because it would allow much more souls a chance to go to heaven, but because its really not that big of a deal in the first place.
 
yes i think very few of us can seriously say that we didnt AT LEAST engage in oral sex before marrigae. it just goes to show that the church should really lighten some of laws on sex. not just because it would allow much more souls a chance to go to heaven, but because its really not that big of a deal in the first place.
Well…sexual morality isn’t really a matter of laws. They’re a matter of morals. The Church can change her laws, but she can’t contradict her teachings.
 
yes i think very few of us can seriously say that we didnt AT LEAST engage in oral sex before marrigae. it just goes to show that the church should really lighten some of laws on sex. not just because it would allow much more souls a chance to go to heaven, but because its really not that big of a deal in the first place.
Souls can easily go to heaven. Stop sinning, especially mortally, and go to Confession…regularly. The Church’s moral teachings are just find the way they are. It’s everyone else who has to change.
 
I have to take issue with the option, “yes, but it was against my will.” I don’t see what being a rape victim has to do with “engaging in penetrative sex.”

Also, the question is “did you first have sex before you were married?” I don’t consider rape as “having sex.” I don’t see what the point of putting rape victims in a separate category when you are in essence talking about virginity. I just feel this is disrespectful to rape victims.
 
No, I waited until married… which was in a Catholic Church.
 
yes i think very few of us can seriously say that we didnt AT LEAST engage in oral sex before marrigae. it just goes to show that the church should really lighten some of laws on sex. not just because it would allow much more souls a chance to go to heaven, but because its really not that big of a deal in the first place.
Really 555? Not a big deal? Where is that in the bible or any Church teaching from any where in history?
 
yes i think very few of us can seriously say that we didnt AT LEAST engage in oral sex before marrigae. it just goes to show that the church should really lighten some of laws on sex. not just because it would allow much more souls a chance to go to heaven, but because its really not that big of a deal in the first place.
I support the Church’s teaching on premarital relations.

It means a lot to me that my husband didn’t have sex with anyone else besides me, and it means a lot for him too that I never did it with anyone else either. It’s such a precious gift you can give to your spouse on the wedding night, and it is something that you can say you’ve shared exclusively with your spouse. That is very special and it is a big deal to the both of us. 👍
 
Well…sexual morality isn’t really a matter of laws. They’re a matter of morals. The Church can change her laws, but she can’t contradict her teachings.
but thats the issue, the church already has some contradictory doctrine. for example, the church says that sex must only be for reproduction, so ok then, if im lets say a billionare, and i can support many many women and children, then why cant i reproduce with many women? and why do i have to married? (and i know what your response will be) “because jesus said in the bible”, but have you ever stopped to consider, that jesus’s time was radically different than the time today. think about it, the reason Christ taught that there should only be one man and one women, was because back then the family was the only way a child could learn and be taken care of. back then they didnt have public education, state orphanages, a safe society like we do today. back then the only source of sustinence for a child was through his family. but nowadays the nuclear family is just not that necessary anymore.
(im not a heretic, im just thinking philosophically) that is why Christ in his infinite wisdom did not make marriage a dogma. whatever is not a dogma can be changed by the church. not to mention, the church has a few laws that jesus did not even talk about! for example, Christ never condemned the use of condoms or masturbation to my knowledge, (and yes, birth control did exist in his time)
and you mention “sexual morality”, well the church says that the purpose of sex is reproduction, you dont have to married to reproduce. i just think its a pointless rule, that makes many souls lose out on salvation. if sex laws were eased, i think about 75% of people who would originally be damned, would be saved.
 
I support the Church’s teaching on premarital relations.

It means a lot to me that my husband didn’t have sex with anyone else besides me, and it means a lot for him too that I never did it with anyone else either. It’s such a precious gift you can give to your spouse on the wedding night, and it is something that you can say you’ve shared exclusively with your spouse. That is very special and it is a big deal to the both of us. 👍
but why? isnt love what counts? sex is merely a phyical act.
 
Maybe we should start a new poll since this one is very dated? (This is a post from 2008)
 
Really 555? Not a big deal? Where is that in the bible or any Church teaching from any where in history?
the bible says a lot of things, but what you should remember, is that the bible was written 2000 years ago. the times radically different. back then the family was more necessary than nowadays. and no, its really not a big deal. as long as the two people consent, i fail to see the evil. and you know, its not like if the church eases the rules, everyone is going to suddenly have sex, its like the drugs debate. if drugs were suddenly legalized, its not like everyone would start doing them. for example, im a 21 year old male, so far, i have engaged in sexual activity, but i never went all the way. and you know what? i dont plan to. but that just my decision, i cant force that on others. also i dont smoke, yet i could legally if i wanted to, but i still dont because i hate cigarettes.
and thats the other thing where the church kind of contradicts itself. if its going to make masturbation a MORTAL SIN, then it shoud make smoking also a mortal sin! because smoking is much worse! not to mention mention smoking actually hurts the people around you! so i dont get the church’s logic there. i believe an individual should be able to do whatever he wants by himself in the privacy of his own home as long as it does not harm others physically or mentally, and it does not insult God. consensual sex does not harm anybody, it does not infringe upon the liberties of others, and it does not blaspheme against God. so seriously, why cany God just let people have sex. OR if youre going to ban sex, then ban smoking, drinking and gambling too by making them MORTAL SINS, just like sex.
 
but why? isnt love what counts? sex is merely a phyical act.
No, it is not “merely a physical act.”

It is a spiritual act as well.

It is the consummation of the sacrament of matrimony, where God binds the couple’s souls together (“the 2 shall become 1”)… and it is the act that brings new life into the world. 🙂
 
No, it is not “merely a physical act.”

It is a spiritual act as well.

It is the consummation of the sacrament of matrimony, where God binds the couple’s souls together (“the 2 shall become 1”)… and it is the act that brings new life into the world. 🙂
Very well stated.
 
No, it is not “merely a physical act.”

It is a spiritual act as well.

It is the consummation of the sacrament of matrimony, where God binds the couple’s souls together (“the 2 shall become 1”)… and it is the act that brings new life into the world. 🙂
but according to the bible, you will not be married in heaven, so it cant “bind your souls together”. :confused:
 
but according to the bible, you will not be married in heaven, so it cant “bind your souls together”. :confused:
Well, also, according to the Bible, marriage is a “mystery,” and is analogous to the relationship between Christ and the Church.
 
Well, also, according to the Bible, marriage is a “mystery,” and is analogous to the relationship between Christ and the Church.
Christ will take the church as his bride, and the church consists of many people. so isnt that polygamy, forgive me please, im not trying to blaspheme, thats a real question. then why is polygamy not allowed? if marriage is supposed to be analogous with christ’s marriage to the church, then why ban polygamy?
 
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