Sex before marriage

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Catholic does not allow to have sex with his/her parther before marriage. It is mortal sin once you commit it. However, in our society nowadays, this is not an issue anymore. Sex is a very common thing.

Is there any way to turn back once a person committed it?? Does the confension really take effect??

Pls suggest/advice.
 
Absoultely. If you are truly sorry and you go to confession, you are forgiven:thumbsup:

It’s actually a bigger issue now because so many people are putting their eternal soul’s in danger by commiting such a grave sin so frequently.😦
 
Have faith that God is so great and that he will do what he promises. He knows we will fall at times, but he promises to give us the strength to overcome our weaknesses if we only allow him. It may be hard to accept that God will forgive us, but as bad as the things we have done are, God is that much more good!

Also, if you can, I would read “Good News about Sex and Marriage” by Christopher West, and you will see that it’s not a prohibition from God that tells us to not have sex before marriage, but it’s an invitation to something that is so much greater if we discipline ourselves to wait for it and put our trust in Him.
 
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jmv:
Have faith that God is so great and that he will do what he promises. He knows we will fall at times, but he promises to give us the strength to overcome our weaknesses if we only allow him. It may be hard to accept that God will forgive us, but as bad as the things we have done are, God is that much more good!

Also, if you can, I would read “Good News about Sex and Marriage” by Christopher West, and you will see that it’s not a prohibition from God that tells us to not have sex before marriage, but it’s an invitation to something that is so much greater if we discipline ourselves to wait for it and put our trust in Him.
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Genev Lim:
Catholic does not allow to have sex with his/her parther before marriage. It is mortal sin once you commit it. However, in our society nowadays, this is not an issue anymore. Sex is a very common thing.

Is there any way to turn back once a person committed it?? Does the confension really take effect??

Pls suggest/advice.
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You must truely be repentant and sorry for commiting the sin. Confession does really take place if you are repentant.

I wouldn’t say it is not an issue anymore, I would say it is more of an issue;it is just avoided.
 
It is 100% possible to turn back. Just make a heartfelt and sincere confession.

Unrelated: 2002 is an awesome group.
 
Abstinence is the healthiest choice for EveryoneWhether you are a virgin now, or have had sex in the past, you can still make the choice to start over and wait for sexual activity until marriage. The term “secondary virginity” is the choice for those who have had sex at sometime in the past, and have decided that they want to be abstinent for their future. Make an informed choice to live an abstinent lifestyle until marriage, from today forward

Start first with Confession as many of the other people posted already. Ask for help with your decision to go for secondary abstinence. Consider also reading the Book called “I kissed dating goodbye” by Joshua Harris. It’s a book about a new way to look at dating relationships. It is very worthy of a read, done in a Christian perspective. As with all things, Pray, Pray and Pray some more.
 
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jmv:
Have faith that God is so great and that he will do what he promises. He knows we will fall at times, but he promises to give us the strength to overcome our weaknesses if we only allow him. It may be hard to accept that God will forgive us, but as bad as the things we have done are, God is that much more good!

Also, if you can, I would read “Good News about Sex and Marriage” by Christopher West, and you will see that it’s not a prohibition from God that tells us to not have sex before marriage, but it’s an invitation to something that is so much greater if we discipline ourselves to wait for it and put our trust in Him.
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So when and how did it become a mortal sin exactly?
 
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stbruno:
Try the sixth and ninth commandments
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Those refer to adultery and coveting your neighbor’s wife…not sex before marriage. I’m just curious about where exactly the Church’s stand comes from because all I’ve ever been taught, really, is “that’s just the way it is”.
 
YES, Confession restores you to God’s Grace, and His Friendship.

Trust in the Divine Mercy!
Trust in God’s Love!
 
It’s not THAT hard to abstain from sex before marriage you know? Just don’t do it! All my friends (girls and boys) say yeah but it’s what people do so they do it. Stupid teenagers and their stupid reasoning. Sometimes I wish I were 30.
 
Rand Al'Thor:
Those refer to adultery and coveting your neighbor’s wife…not sex before marriage. I’m just curious about where exactly the Church’s stand comes from because all I’ve ever been taught, really, is “that’s just the way it is”.
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“Be sure of this, that no fornicator or impure person, or one who is greedy (that is, an idolator), has any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and of God.” -Ephesians 5:5

A fornicator is someone who has unmarried sex. Several places other than this passage state that fornicators will never enter the kingdom of heaven. Of course, this means unrepentant fornicators. God’s mercy endures forever!
 
In addition to the other suggested reading, I would suggest “Christian Courtship in an Oversexed World” by T.G. Morrow.
 
My fiance and myself were asked by our priest to stay abstinence when we first asked him to marry us over a year ago. It was difficult for my fiance in the beginning but I have stated very clear to him that out of the respect of God and our priest, we should do as we were told. To date, we have stay true to our promises and 2 1/2 months to go.
 
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hkct:
My fiance and myself were asked by our priest to stay abstinence when we first asked him to marry us over a year ago. It was difficult for my fiance in the beginning but I have stated very clear to him that out of the respect of God and our priest, we should do as we were told. To date, we have stay true to our promises and 2 1/2 months to go.
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Awesome! See everyone, it can be done! God bless you!
 
I haven’t engage in intercourse since Jan 04. Ive been to confession for my past transgressions and moving forward.
 
Remember the woman caught in adultry whom the crowd wanted to kill. Jesus loved her and simply asked her to sin no more!

Peace be with you!
Bob
 
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