Sex before marriage

[CheesusPowerKid]

Actually, at the Steubenville conferences high schoolers can go to, they often hand out chastity cards. There are two different cards, one for those who have retained their virginity and one for those who have lost it but want to seek what is called “second virginity”. I haven’t ever read the second one, but I know that in the talks they encourage kids who have lost their virginity and seek forgiveness to repent, go to confession, and recieve God’s grace and forgiveness. Each card has a promise of chastity that you can sign and carry with you. I have carried mine in my purse since my first conference two years ago.

Bottom line: God will always forgive and let you have a fresh start, but you still have to seek and ask for it

In Him,
Britty

 

[Bruised_Reed]

Genev Lim:

Catholic does not allow to have sex with his/her parther before marriage. It is mortal sin once you commit it. However, in our society nowadays, this is not an issue anymore. Sex is a very common thing.

Is there any way to turn back once a person committed it?? Does the confension really take effect??

Pls suggest/advice.

First, it’s not automatically a mortal sin.
And, I disagree that it is not an issue in society. It’s a HUGE issue. STIs, abortion, pornography, divorce, poverty, crime - all these things are intertwined and are either the cause, the result or both, of the misuse of the gift of our sexuality.

It isn’t an arbitrary rule, no sex before or outside one’s marriage. It’s there to protect us, body (from diseases), mind (from mistrust of the opposite sex following heartbreak) and soul (from sin).

Confession is an amazing thing. A good sacramental confession can open the floodgates of grace to begin healing that wound. Understanding what God meant the gift of sex to be for us can bring that healing along. I also recommend Christpher West, or if you are up to it, the original by Pope John Paul II.

But I want to emphasize this: it IS a big deal. I think many are too wounded to notice.