You really are not confused. You are having anxiety because you want to go a direction and can’t see how to get there.
The numbers of young women having an abortion has gone into the millions. Young women have been abandoned by their boyfriends when they become pregnant, and are left with a very painful decision of carrying a baby to term or having an abortion. What kind of awful stress are they under that they would kill their own baby?
Your boyfriend is asking you to take a HUGE risk, with no risk to himself, for a few minutes of pleasure. This is the opposite of love, it’s selfish, and if he loved you, he would never put you in that position. Shame on him. He should respect you and honor you when you spend time together. It is a privilege to be your boyfriend.
One day when you announce to your parents that you are pregnant, do you want it to be the happiest day of your life, or the worst day?
If you decide to go on the pill, it will not protect you from a broken heart. It won’t protect you from sexually transmitted diseases. Since the pill has come into the world, not only has there been an explosion of numbers of people who have gotten affected, but the* types* of diseases have increased dramatically. This is something your body will carry forever.
One day there will be a young man that will want to come before family, friends, and God to take you as his wife, to have and to hold, to be his life partner. How special do you want that day to be? How totally awesome will this young man be? How much of your heart do you want to give away before you meet him?
You can be praying for that young man, that he makes smart choices today regarding his sexuality, and include yourself as well.
How would you feel if you were engaged to the man of your dreams, planning your wedding, and he said that he slept with some girls. How would you feel if he said one of those girls had an abortion? Or, had a baby and he is paying child support? How would that make you feel? Would you feel robbed? Cheated? He’s had his first born baby without you.
How would you feel if you were that ‘other girl’?
Although you are at a time when God’s rules feel restrictive, you have to know that it’s very much like getting in a car and buckling your seat beat. You are on a destination, and we must navigate through a lot of traffic and drivers and weather conditions, and car crashes happen. Some don’t survive, some are hurt very badly. The seat belt saves lives, the air bags save lives. Following God’s plan is like that seatbelt. God’s plan is like the driver’s handbook. You know that driving on the right side of the road, stopping at red lights, etc will get you to your destination. No one ever feels that these rules are too restrictive, that stopping at a red holds you back. Have confidence that these rules will benefit and bless you through your life. They will. God will. You have a whole lot of young women who tried something else, and crashed and burned. Don’t follow their example, that leads to ruin. Don’t break your parents hearts. One day you’ll be married and announce that your expecting, and it will be a day of celebrating. I wish that so much for you! God does too. God bless and strengthen you today.