Sex Desires: Should I be concerned about this?

[YehoiakhinEx232]

I have been struggling with a masturbation addiction for sometime and I have noticed that when I go for a long time without masturbating my sexual desires, sometimes become slightly more deviant, is this something I should be concerned about or is it typical of the human sex-drive?

 

[Groo]

Based on one of Bishop Fulton Sheen’s talks, there are 3 stages of sin.

The first stage is the act, committed either just once or occasionally.

The second stage is a habit. This is when a sin is committed regularly but one is not hooked by it.

The third stage is addiction. At this stage, one is a slave to the sinful behavior.

If you are in stages one or two, then prayer, holy hours, and the sacraments should be enough to rid you of the masturbation problem.

If you really are in stage three, a full-blown addiction, then you will not be able to stop by yourself. In addition to prayer and the sacraments, you will need counseling or a 12 step group or both. There is a self-assessment on the Sex Addicts Anonymous (SAA) website to help you make that determination.

 

[phil_at_dayboro]

Yes,it’s typical of normal human sex drive, it’s just a pity we can’t rewire humanity ,
So to make human sex drive non existent , then see what happens …

 

[edarlitrix]

I have the same problem of deviant desires especially due to deliberately neglecting masturbation. Whether that is normal human behavior or not, i don’t know… If you’re not giving your body what it wants through masturbation, then it’s not surprising it will come up with a Plan B–no masturbation? to perversion we go, maybe this will be more successful etc.

Anyway, even if it is not normal, all one can do is distract oneself (for example I watch videos on Closertotruth.com and take notes)–but, if you have vErY deviant desires, like mutilating animals or people or cutting yourself, then it may also be prudent to seek out psychological help of some sort.

 

[SuperLuigi]

I have been struggling with a masturbation addiction for sometime and I have noticed that when I go for a long time without masturbating my sexual desires, sometimes become slightly more deviant, is this something I should be concerned about or is it typical of the human sex-drive?

I’d say it’s a more or less common effect.

Desires in and of themselves are not sins, no matter how disgusting or bizarre they may seem.

 

[tawny]

Praying to the Holy Spirit to give you guidance, direction, strength & fortitude to overcome your temptations.

 

[KatieM2]

Based on one of Bishop Fulton Sheen’s talks, there are 3 stages of sin.

The first stage is the act, committed either just once or occasionally.

The second stage is a habit. This is when a sin is committed regularly but one is not hooked by it.

The third stage is addiction. At this stage, one is a slave to the sinful behavior.

If you are in stages one or two, then prayer, holy hours, and the sacraments should be enough to rid you of the masturbation problem.

If you really are in stage three, a full-blown addiction, then you will not be able to stop by yourself. In addition to prayer and the sacraments, you will need counseling or a 12 step group or both. There is a self-assessment on the Sex Addicts Anonymous (SAA) website to help you make that determination.

The fact that abstaining for any length of time leads him (or her) to have increasingly perverted fantasies leads me to think it’s stage three. So help is urgently needed.

 

[Groo]

The fact that abstaining for any length of time leads him (or her) to have increasingly perverted fantasies leads me to think it’s stage three. So help is urgently needed.

That was my impression as well. And the needed help must come from another human being. Hard to do, but self-help is no longer sufficient. The alternative to seeking help is for the addiction to get progressively worse, leading to insanity, prison, or death in the end.