Sex ed: what's a good book for 6 or 7 yr old boy

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I am asking for my son & DIL who have adopted a 6.5 yo boy (will be finalized next month :)).

They are Catholic (she is a convert). This is their first child, and my first grandchild.
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The boy was in foster care since 3 yrs of age; is smart; likes to read. He is being catechized in their parish religious ed program.

I like to give books as gifts, and do research on good children’s books for character-building and learning about the faith.

Thank you in advance for suggestions and links!

Mimi
 
I recommend giving any book that you might choose to the parents first, not directly to your grandson, as that is a sensitive topic that I’m sure they’d want to be heavily involved in.
 
Are you asking for recommendations for any kind of book for a 6 or 7 year-old, or specifically a sex ed book? (Your subject says sex ed, but you don’t mention this specific topic in the main body of your message.) If you are asking about a sex ed book, I think it is best to leave that up to the parents, and 6 or 7 is probably too young to get into much detail on that topic anyway.
 
I would see what books they are using in Religious Ed. The DRE may permit you to take a book home with you, so that when you are together you can read to him from his religion book. It’s full of Gospel values, stories about Jesus and the saints, and lessons about respect, dignity, and loving your neighbor. The groundwork for raising a well adjusted child. šŸ™‚
 
Thank you. It’s so nice to get responses so fast!

I often send my DIL a title so she can look it over via a link.
I’m sure they’ll get suggestions from the DRE.

I recall using this: The Wonderful Way Babies Are Made and still have a copy. It’s pretty basic.

I’m thinking there may be other books that do not go into detail which maybe use cartoon characters; or which talk about different kinds of families, like those who adopt as well as have ā€˜natural’ children.

It is a sensitive topic to talk about ā€˜where he came from’ as his birth mom has been denied her rights to him 3 times now. He is very verbal, so that helps him talk about what he is feeling. He goes to therapy weekly and has made a lot of improvement in the 5 months of care under my son & DIL.

Mimi
 
I think books on animal and human families are good at this age: Misty of chincoteague, the Trumpet of the Swan, cheaper by the Dozen, Little Men, Oliver Twist, anything that shows families or kids trying to find their families. At this age, it is more important for him to see himself and his family through other stories. It creates connection and continuity, appreciation and identity. These things factor in later as a child begins to mature.
 
I am asking for my son & DIL who have adopted a 6.5 yo boy (will be finalized next month :)).

They are Catholic (she is a convert). This is their first child, and my first grandchild.
😃
The boy was in foster care since 3 yrs of age; is smart; likes to read. He is being catechized in their parish religious ed program.

I like to give books as gifts, and do research on good children’s books for character-building and learning about the faith.

Thank you in advance for suggestions and links!

Mimi
A good friend of mine and a wonderful father recommended this – it is freely available on EWTN’s website. It’s called ā€œListen, Sonā€ and might be dismissed by some because it was published in 1952, I think it gives good information without being too graphic.

ewtn.com/library/FAMILY/LISTENSN.TXT
 
I think books on animal and human families are good at this age: Misty of chincoteague, the Trumpet of the Swan, cheaper by the Dozen, Little Men, Oliver Twist, anything that shows families or kids trying to find their families. At this age, it is more important for him to see himself and his family through other stories. It creates connection and continuity, appreciation and identity. These things factor in later as a child begins to mature.
Little Wamen (Lousa May Alcott), the Little House books by Loura Engles Wilder, and Anne of Green Gables. šŸ™‚ 🤷
 
? Sex ed book for a six year old child that is not yours?:eek:

I recommend two books.
  1. A nice first grade book from your local Catholic book store. A book on a saint perhaps.
  2. A book for yourself on some familial boundaries.
I don’t mean to be mean but this is something a parent should handle, not grandma as a welcome to the family gift!:eek:
 
Not sure what is included in the sex ed book you’re looking for. I don’t think a child of that age needs sex ed.
 
Yes, what us your concern regarding this child’s knowledge of sex?
There must be more to this…:confused:
 
Little Wamen (Lousa May Alcott), the Little House books by Loura Engles Wilder, and Anne of Green Gables. šŸ™‚ 🤷
I have read all of these books multiple times. I generally read the Alcott book (and the other two books in her March family trilogy), and also all the Little House books once a year, and I am now 57-years-old.

Although the Little House books are good for young children, I think that Little Women (and the other two books in the March family trilogy by Alcott), and also the Anne of Green Gables books are much too advanced for a 6-7 year old boy or girl. Although on the surface, these books are just moral stories about girls, there is much more under the surface, and most children do not have the life experiences to be able to understand or appreciate these books.

E.g., much of Little Women is about the March sisters’ various experiences with romance–hardly something that a 6-7 year old needs to be concerned about. A better choice for that age would be the next book in the series, Little Men.

Also, the books are written in a historical context (Civil War and the aftermath), which might be difficult for a child without knowledge of this period of U.S. history to understand.

I think that all of the books listed above are better-suited to girls, and that it would be much better to find books written for boys. It is important that little boys and little girls develop a gender-identity, and one way to do this is to provide appropriate literary role models. When the boys get older and have a solid sense of their own masculinity, then they can possibly enjoy the ā€œgirls’ books.ā€ In fact, I believe that Little Women should be required reading for all teenaged boys and girls–it changed the way children’s literature was done.

The exception would be Farmer Boy, by Laura Ingalls Wilder (it’s one of the Little House books, but the least popular of the series). This is the wonderful story of Laura’s real-life husband, Almanzo Wilder, and it is ALL boy and lots of fun! I think a little boy would enjoy this book.

However, I am a big believer in selecting books for children that are age-appropriate, even if the child is ā€œsmart.ā€ Sometimes I think that parents and other well-meaning adults want their children to ā€œskipā€ the ā€œbaby booksā€ā€“not sure why, but I suspect that these adults have a strong desire for their child to be different/better than all the other ā€œnormalā€ children.

I think parents and other adults need to be careful about this. We shouldn’t rush children through their childhood and expose them to art and entertainment that they don’t have the emotional maturity to appreciate and understand.

If you check with your local library, they have a list of the books that are appropriate for every age of childhood. Select from that list. If the child is truly so intelligent that they read these books in a few minutes and ask for more books, then move up the list to the next highest-age.

But in my opinion, it’s important for parents who give children ā€œadvancedā€ books to provide a context for those books. E.g., tell the child about war, the Civil War, and take them to see the various Civil War landmarks and memorials. Even if you live up North, chances are good that there is some kind of Civil War Memorial in your area.

My husband would recommend the Danny Dunn books for young boys. My husband was (and still is) very intelligent and read advanced books, but he loved the stories written for young boys.

I recommend the Gone-Away series by Enright–lots of fun, and pretty gender-neutral.
 
Thank you for the recommendations!

Just to be clear: my intention is researching for the parents and would not just go out, buy a book on ā€œthe birds and the beesā€ & give it to the child.

Also, perhaps parents might be looking for such books and might read this thread.

I used the term ā€œsex edā€ in the Title for the thread bc it is short.

I wanted help in finding books with a Catholic worldview in which Marital Relations as the way in which God intended us to live. After all, that is supposed to be a little preview of Heaven, right? The pleasures we experience here are only a shadow of what God has in store for those who love Him. Respect for the human body as the temple of the Holy Spirit is another aspect; there are consequences to not following God’s laws.

A little off topic, but related:
I know this book is meant for 16 - 18+ yr olds, but wonder if anyone has used it in their family? If so, would you recommend it (or not and why)?
Sexual Wisdom: A Guide for Parents, Young Adults, Educators, and Physicians by Richard Wetzel, MD?
Or
Sexual Wisdom for Catholic Adolescents

In the back of the 1st book is listed several recommendations, one of which is
Know Your Body, pub: Our Sunday Visitor, which is written from a Catholic perspective. So I’ll have to check those out.

Other books I already have prepared to give are The Seven Sacraments (Fr Lovasik); Where Do Priests Come From (Ficocelli); Book of Saints (Fr. Lovasik); Our Lady of Guadalupe (Fr. Lovasik).

Mimi
PS: I read the Little House books to our kids back in the day and love them.
 
Thank you for the recommendations!

Just to be clear: my intention is researching for the parents and would not just go out, buy a book on ā€œthe birds and the beesā€ & give it to the child.

Also, perhaps parents might be looking for such books and might read this thread.

I used the term ā€œsex edā€ in the Title for the thread bc it is short.

I wanted help in finding books with a Catholic worldview in which Marital Relations as the way in which God intended us to live. After all, that is supposed to be a little preview of Heaven, right? The pleasures we experience here are only a shadow of what God has in store for those who love Him. Respect for the human body as the temple of the Holy Spirit is another aspect; there are consequences to not following God’s laws.

A little off topic, but related:
I know this book is meant for 16 - 18+ yr olds, but wonder if anyone has used it in their family? If so, would you recommend it (or not and why)?
Sexual Wisdom: A Guide for Parents, Young Adults, Educators, and Physicians by Richard Wetzel, MD?
Or
Sexual Wisdom for Catholic Adolescents

In the back of the 1st book is listed several recommendations, one of which is
Know Your Body, pub: Our Sunday Visitor, which is written from a Catholic perspective. So I’ll have to check those out.

Other books I already have prepared to give are The Seven Sacraments (Fr Lovasik); Where Do Priests Come From (Ficocelli); Book of Saints (Fr. Lovasik); Our Lady of Guadalupe (Fr. Lovasik).

Mimi
PS: I read the Little House books to our kids back in the day and love them.
It is just a little odd that you are going to just meet this child and hand them a book on marital relations…

YIKES!

Red flags on this for me…
 
I’m not sure what kind of relationship you have with your son and his wife, but if my mother or mother-in-law took it upon herself to research books about sex for my young child, I would kindly ask her to stop and let myself and my husband handle his education on sex and marriage. It just seems like such an odd thing for a grandparent to fixate on, especially at 6 years old. This is the parents’ domain, so unless you have already discussed this with them and they have asked you to research this for them, I would be careful about overstepping here.
 
Lorelei wrote, in part:
This is the parents’ domain, so unless you have already discussed this with them and they have asked you to research this for them, I would be careful about overstepping here.
Yes, absolutely! Am doing research in case I’m asked for advice. I know my DIL respects my views and I would not jeopardize that by saying ā€œhere’s a book for yaā€ … ultimately it’s up to them.

Dr Mast, who hosts a show on EWTN and is the author of the Sex Respect series, was asked:
My 8 year old daughter is making comments like ā€œI don’t get it. How does the baby get in the mom’s stomach?ā€
What is the best way to address this to an 8 1/2 year old?
RE: 8 year old question by sexrespect on 2014/05/19 1:05 PM
Let her know that God has a special plan for moms and dads to help the baby start growing in the mom’s womb, (not the stomach). There is a special prayer and a special ā€œholy hugā€ by which the husband and wife ask God for a baby. That often satisfies an 8 year old.
Let her know that there is a sacred hollow space in the mom’s body called the womb, and that’s why we say in the Hail Mary, "Blessed is the Fruit of your womb, Jesus.
I suppose this might be fine for an inquisitive 7 yr old, too. You never know when they’re going to spring it on you!

Mimi
 
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