Sex Question Again

[Starwynd]

I’d appreciate some help finding official answer to this question:

Is it okay to pleasure your spouse without ending in copulation?

 

[bilop]

I’d appreciate some help finding official answer to this question:

Is it okay to pleasure your spouse without ending in copulation?

I assume you are talking about deliberate stimulation of the genitals, leading to orgasm.

It is not permitted. Stimulation of the genitals without the intent to have intercourse is masturbation. See the Catechism:

Offenses against chastity

2351 Lust is disordered desire for or inordinate enjoyment of sexual pleasure. Sexual pleasure is morally disordered when sought for itself, isolated from its procreative and unitive purposes.

2352 By masturbation is to be understood the deliberate stimulation of the genital organs in order to derive sexual pleasure. "Both the Magisterium of the Church, in the course of a constant tradition, and the moral sense of the faithful have been in no doubt and have firmly maintained that masturbation is an intrinsically and gravely disordered action."138 “The deliberate use of the sexual faculty, for whatever reason, outside of marriage is essentially contrary to its purpose.” For here sexual pleasure is sought outside of "the sexual relationship which is demanded by the moral order and in which the total meaning of mutual self-giving and human procreation in the context of true love is achieved."139

God Bless

 

[jean8]

I’d appreciate some help finding official answer to this question:

Is it okay to pleasure your spouse without ending in copulation?

Married people are ONE!

Stay out of the bedroom.

jean8

 

[bilop]

Married people are ONE!

Stay out of the bedroom.

jean8

Just because a married couple becomes one, does not mean that there are no rules as to marital sex.

All marital acts must be unitive and procreative.

God Bless

 

[StCsDavid]

I dunno…my wife and I engage in the unitive act of just spooning many nights that doesn’t end in copulation. My holding her is pleasurable for both of us, but not masterbatory (if that’s a word.)

Now if the OP is asking whether it’s okay to, shall we say, service one’s spouse, with no intent of making it a unitive or procreative act, then one could be stepping into sinful territory. An example might be a wife taking care of her husband’s need in order to appease his lust.