Sex within the Marriage

[CatholicSamurai]

I am confused. I believe sex is one of the great pleasures God has given us. Sex between a Man and his wife is an intragal part of thier married life. It brings them together and binds them as a couple and consummates thier commitment to one another. This bind between a man and a women is the basis in which our families are formed. It should be pleasurable to each and each should give of themselves to solitify this bond.
My wife and I want God to be a bigger part of our lives so I started to come to this web sight and read up on our Religion and look for ways to insure that God stays with in our marrige. With out God the true bond of matrimoney can not be enjoyed. I have read that any sex with out the chance of procreation is wrong. I have read NFP is wrong even though it was part of our marriage encounter 15 years ago. We seemed to be more concerned with what can not be done as opposed to having god with us. I thought Jesus freed us from these self imposed restraints.

My friend, you might have the wrong concept of freedom. Freedom is not doing what we want… it is doing what we ought to do. The reason we have these “restrictions” is to protect ourselves from ourselves.

It seems that your understanding of marriage needs to deepen some more. Truly, sex is to be enjoyed. It is what binds the husband and the wife. It is the physical representation of the love that is shared between them. When a couple has sex, they renew their wedding vows. When a couple has sex, they say to each other ‘yes’. Take my whole self at the same time, I receive your whole self.

I don’t know what site you’ve been to but… Ask your self this simple question… What is your motive for sex? Is it for personal gain or is it to die for your wife?

 

[Em_in_FL]

I have read that any sex with out the chance of procreation is wrong. I have read NFP is wrong even though it was part of our marriage encounter 15 years ago.

Sexuality within marriage is twofold… it must serve two purposes… for the UNION of the couple AND for PROCREATION…

Notice that the word procreate does not mean fertile.
An infertile couple can still have a perfectly holy sexual relationship.

Where in the world did you read that NFP is wrong???
Certainly not in the Catechism!

 

[True_Irish]

Yes it is true I want to have sex with my Wife and do not want to have any more Children we have three. More importantly I do not understand the Church’s teachings that this would be a sin. I do not use contreception though NFP could certainly be considered a contraception. I believe that sex is an intrigal part of marriage and it with God this union of a man and his wife consomates the marige.
I do not see where the Church comes up with thier philosophies on sex. It is not in the Bible. I believe these rules of the Church are founded in the Church’s battles with pagan religions of the early Church.

 

[Bruised_Reed]

TrueIrish, from reading your posts it would seem you don’t have a real grasp of Church teaching on the gift of sexuality. You seem to get that it’s a gift but without a complete understanding. You suggest a number of ideas that are not Catholic teaching (e.g.NFP is wrong, NFP is contraception). Before you make a decision which will affect your marriage and your souls, please do some more study on this. There are a lot of materials that are accessible on this subject; try christopherwest.com for one.

 

[Texas_Roofer]

I am confused. I believe sex is one of the great pleasures God has given us. Sex between a Man and his wife is an intragal part of thier married life. It brings them together and binds them as a couple and consummates thier commitment to one another. This bind between a man and a women is the basis in which our families are formed. It should be pleasurable to each and each should give of themselves to solitify this bond.
My wife and I want God to be a bigger part of our lives so I started to come to this web sight and read up on our Religion and look for ways to insure that God stays with in our marrige. With out God the true bond of matrimoney can not be enjoyed. I have read that any sex with out the chance of procreation is wrong. I have read NFP is wrong even though it was part of our marriage encounter 15 years ago. We seemed to be more concerned with what can not be done as opposed to having god with us. I thought Jesus freed us from these self imposed restraints.

Yes it is true I want to have sex with my Wife and do not want to have any more Children we have three. More importantly I do not understand the Church’s teachings that this would be a sin. I do not use contreception though NFP could certainly be considered a contraception. I believe that sex is an intrigal part of marriage and it with God this union of a man and his wife consomates the marige.
I do not see where the Church comes up with thier philosophies on sex. It is not in the Bible. I believe these rules of the Church are founded in the Church’s battles with pagan religions of the early Church.

It is not to complex

**Marriage is restricted to a man and woman. A legitimate marriage lasts until death. Sex is restricted to marriage. Intervention in sex to prevent pregnancy is a sin. **

Fair enough? I do believe most of these teachings are in the Bible; however they are interpretations not direct statements. I have some real problems with the teachings. The Bible also clearly allows divorce, and avoids many, many opportunities to condemn sex outside marriage. See Abraham & David. I believe the Church has raised the Biblical standard and this action may be unwise. Concerning contraception the Church uses a different definition than the public which may be causing your issue in that regard.