Sexual circuitry and appropriate thoughts

[TLM08]

Many of us have had our “sexual circuitry” formed by the secular culture. Mine was formed during the 1970s, a particularly perilous time. In an ideal world there would be nobody more attractive to us than our current spouse just as he or she is right this very moment! But we all know that life doesn’t really work that way.

Obviously, impure thoughts about co-workers or former flames is out of line. But as human nature goes, sometimes the mind wanders a bit from that Godly sweat covered wife who scrubs your kitchen floor in between changing diapers or that wonderful husband who faithfully winterizes your car every fall and occasionally has a few chili stains on his undersized T shirt.


Proverbs 5:18 says it’s perfectly okay to “rejoice in the wife of your youth”. So exactly what thoughts ARE morally acceptable while enjoying each other’s “intimate” embrace? Is a wandering mind necessarily a *sinful *mind?

 

[Jefe_Wyatt]

No, of course not. You can’t help or control your thoughts, and to attempt to do so would be impossible. You would spend most of your time feeling guilty for what you just thought, which would only cause you to think about it more.

The morally correct thing to do is to acknowledge what you’re thinking and feeling. Sure, maybe that one coworker looks especially good today, but that’s not anything to go on if you have a loving spouse at home. As long as you treat your feelings rationally, I don’t see any reason to worry about them.

 

[Ruthie]

Proverbs 5:18 says it’s perfectly okay to “rejoice in the wife of your youth”. So exactly what thoughts ARE morally acceptable while enjoying each other’s “intimate” embrace? Is a wandering mind necessarily a *sinful *mind?

That depends on where it wanders.

I, too, learned my first set of sexual ethics in the days of “If it feels good, do it.” But I now believe that it is sinful for me to fantasize about my husband being someone else during the marital act, or thinking about someone else in order to get aroused. So I don’t.

Is it sinful for me to fantasize about him when he was still “ripped” and didn’t have the pot belly? I don’t really know! After all, I’m still attracted to him. I think that might be a question to take to Fr. Serpa in the Ask an Apologist forum.

God bless us all,

Ruthie

 

[josethekke]

Many of us have had our “sexual circuitry” formed by the secular culture. Mine was formed during the 1970s, a particularly perilous time. In an ideal world there would be nobody more attractive to us than our current spouse just as he or she is right this very moment! But we all know that life doesn’t really work that way.

Obviously, impure thoughts about co-workers or former flames is out of line. But as human nature goes, sometimes the mind wanders a bit from that Godly sweat covered wife who scrubs your kitchen floor in between changing diapers or that wonderful husband who faithfully winterizes your car every fall and occasionally has a few chili stains on his undersized T shirt.


Proverbs 5:18 says it’s perfectly okay to “rejoice in the wife of your youth”. So exactly what thoughts ARE morally acceptable while enjoying each other’s “intimate” embrace? Is a wandering mind necessarily a *sinful *mind?

we cannot control our thoghts but we can modify it often sexual thoughts come to our mind through what we see ,think and hear and also through our friends we can try thinking speaking and seeing and hearing good things

 

[Snowy]

Impure thoughts during the marital act are the easiest thing in the world to fix: Just go for a week without getting any, and the next time you do get some, you’ll be so grateful, you won’t be able to occupy your mind with anything other than thanking the Lord and your spouse!

It works even if you’re an Atheist!

 

[That_one_guy]

Impure thoughts during the marital act are the easiest thing in the world to fix: Just go for a week without getting any, and the next time you do get some, you’ll be so grateful, you won’t be able to occupy your mind with anything other than thanking the Lord and your spouse!

It works even if you’re an Atheist!

Every now and then someone says something so obvious that I must applaud and give kudos!!!

On the other hand, some of the things the other folks are saying are just as equally valid.
The trick here according to when I’ve been in the confessional booth is to not entertain the notion when it arises.
As for thinking about your spouse when they were younger and the effects of age hadn’t yet begun taking thier toll.I don’t know. It sort of makes me smile when I’m reminded about how muscular I was and stuff…of course, my wife gets more beautiful everyday…

 

[Snowy]

Thank you, That one guy. My wife keeps getting more beautiful every day as well. Whoever believes that a woman with a 6-pack is better in bed than a soft woman should stop reading Vogue.

I believe that it is important to always be in the present time, at the present place, and with the present person, whatever you are doing.

 

[Snowy]

The brain’s main mission during sexual intercourse is the enjoyment of the stimuli sent by the sexual organs, not the playing of any movies in your head. The extended idea that brain circuitry is a necessary component of sexual intercourse must be one of the Devil’s biggest accomplishments, and has its origin in pornography.The Devil shows his hand in the act by only giving you your reward (an orgasm) by making you take first one more step towards degradation (if this wasn’t true, we would all be still masturbating with that first copy of Playboy that fell on our hands). It all starts innocently enough: you enter puberty, find a picture of a woman showing half a nipple, and that drives you wild. Soon half a nipple just doesn’t cut it, and you need 2 full breasts to get your cookie. Then you need to add 4 pubic hairs to the picture, and by the time you become an expert in female anatomy you’re half way down the road to Hell. God have mercy on today’s kids who go from half a nipple to an orgy with beasts with the click of a button!

Then you get married, and once the initial excitement is gone, you find yourself producing, directing and starring in a soft porn movie inside your head with you and the wife in a deserted beach in Hawaii in order to get your cookie. When that doesn’t work any more, you add your wife’s hot friend to the cast and that extra synaptic connection in the brain gets you your cookie instantly. You excuse yourself with the thought that as long as the wife remains the co-star, things are not too out of control. Before you know it you’re starring in an X-rated movie with you, the wife, her best friend, Snow White, and the 7 Dwarfs. At that point you start to feel really disgusted with yourself, but have lost the ability to get an orgasm the way it was meant to be got. You have to have sex, and once you start you have to have an orgasm, and the Devil is always there to help if only you take one more little step, add something a little different to your movie.

Don’t get started down that road, kid. If you cannot control yourself, stick to your imagination and to half a nipple. When half a nipple stops working don’t take an extra step, just wait a week and it will work again.

I hope this embarrassment in public counts as penance and partial indulgence!

The good news is that since I disowned myself to God and accepted Jesus Christ as my Lord (that took me about 15 seconds) and thus became a Christian my desire to toy with myself has evaporated, and I don’t even spend that much time praying. I don’t have to control myself out of fear of Hell because masturbating is the last thing I feel like doing. I did stumble once, I confess, but that was because of pride, not because of an uncontrollable desire of the flesh.

 

[josethekke]

The brain’s main mission during sexual intercourse is the enjoyment of the stimuli sent by the sexual organs, not the playing of any movies in your head. The extended idea that brain circuitry is a necessary component of sexual intercourse must be one of the Devil’s biggest accomplishments, and has its origin in pornography.The Devil shows his hand in the act by only giving you your reward (an orgasm) by making you take first one more step towards degradation (if this wasn’t true, we would all be still masturbating with that first copy of Playboy that fell on our hands). It all starts innocently enough: you enter puberty, find a picture of a woman showing half a nipple, and that drives you wild. Soon half a nipple just doesn’t cut it, and you need 2 full breasts to get your cookie. Then you need to add 4 pubic hairs to the picture, and by the time you become an expert in female anatomy you’re half way down the road to Hell. God have mercy on today’s kids who go from half a nipple to an orgy with beasts with the click of a button!

Then you get married, and once the initial excitement is gone, you find yourself producing, directing and starring in a soft porn movie inside your head with you and the wife in a deserted beach in Hawaii in order to get your cookie. When that doesn’t work any more, you add your wife’s hot friend to the cast and that extra synaptic connection in the brain gets you your cookie instantly. You excuse yourself with the thought that as long as the wife remains the co-star, things are not too out of control. Before you know it you’re starring in an X-rated movie with you, the wife, her best friend, Snow White, and the 7 Dwarfs. At that point you start to feel really disgusted with yourself, but have lost the ability to get an orgasm the way it was meant to be got. You have to have sex, and once you start you have to have an orgasm, and the Devil is always there to help if only you take one more little step, add something a little different to your movie.

Don’t get started down that road, kid. If you cannot control yourself, stick to your imagination and to half a nipple. When half a nipple stops working don’t take an extra step, just wait a week and it will work again.

I hope this embarrassment in public counts as penance and partial indulgence!

The good news is that since I disowned myself to God and accepted Jesus Christ as my Lord (that took me about 15 seconds) and thus became a Christian my desire to toy with myself has evaporated, and I don’t even spend that much time praying. I don’t have to control myself out of fear of Hell because masturbating is the last thing I feel like doing. I did stumble once, I confess, but that was because of pride, not because of an uncontrollable desire of the flesh.

i think your comments are not approprate and embarrssing one

 

[Antrim]

The Holy Spirit is always there for us. When you find yourself having bad thoughts just say Come Holy Spirit and you will find that it will go away. It works for me. The Bishop that confirmed my Granddaugnter mentioned it in his homily when he was advising the young people on how to fight temptation.

Antrim