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Jart
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Thanks everyone for your prayers and advice. I know I am on the track of stopping for good since I have slowed down significantly. Today I fell though… and this may be a little graphic but I did find blood. This freaked me out a bit. Is it a mortal sin if I continue to do it to check?
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Jart
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I did some reading and there was only a very small amount of blood so there should be nothing to worry about. 
I was freaked out for a while there! But still looking for a answer to my question to be sure it’s gone and it’s nothing serious.
I was freaked out for a while there! But still looking for a answer to my question to be sure it’s gone and it’s nothing serious.
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Jart
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Really would appreciate a response please. 
Wont talk to a priest until Saturday…
Wont talk to a priest until Saturday…
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As for blood mixed with your semen: I don’t know what that means, ask a doctor if you can. But if you researched and it’s nothing to worry about then there is certainly no reason to masterbate to see if its still there.
On the struggle with masterbation. I’ll share that I’m 23 (nearly 24) and it isn’t just a teenage struggle. I’ve battled this addiction for years without ever fully getting free. I think most men don’t even realize the frequency of their masterbation. In high school I indulged in this daily without guilt. Then around when I started college I realized the sin there, that was 6 (I think) years ago. I do better, it isn’t a consuming thing for me anymore. But I still fail every other week or so at a moment when I am week - and sometimes for the stupidest reason (I’m tired but I can’t sleep, I’m bored and don’t have any work to do…or cause as you said some part of our sexual culture jumped out at me and I embrace my lust).
It’s hard, but there are a few pointers I’d offer:
For a while I prayed it daily. I pray it often now, but more when sex won’t get off my mind. I also have gotten better and better at a (almost) daily rosary. When sex is on the mind, you can’t sit and think “don’t think about sex”, it’ll never work that way. You have to replace a thought with another thought.
I was told on a retreat to take my temptation and picture God floating down and my placing it in His hands. Then while He is in mind, ask instead what in this moment (even if I’m in an awkward position in the bathroom) ask what God wants me to do right now. Train yourself to follow in that moment. Of all times, it is in these moments of greatest temption we need to just give up our desires and just do what God says. If you can do that now, it will help you in all sorts of temptatoins through life (sex, cheating, lying, stealing).
2.1 Prevention again - learn to know yourself. Saints don’t magically get up one day and stop all sinning. They see their vices and run. Numerous priest have told me that then I find myself tempted by sex run from that place. So, if it’s TV get away from the TV. Internet? Only use it while momma is in the room with you. You struggle at 1 AM, make sure to get to bed at mid-night…but investigate you weekness and fix/avoid it.
Also, see if masterbation is serving you in other ways. Is it a problem when you are lonely? Or when you are sad? Then plan on other activities to help you at those times. I said I do it when I’m bored. I realized that so I got a copy of the Office on DVD and some science fiction books…when I’m bored to the degree that my mind offers 'what about ___ for fun?" I say…nah I’ve been saving just this book or episode for now.
Anyway, thanks for sharing I’ll pray for you and me and all us poor struggling sinners
On the struggle with masterbation. I’ll share that I’m 23 (nearly 24) and it isn’t just a teenage struggle. I’ve battled this addiction for years without ever fully getting free. I think most men don’t even realize the frequency of their masterbation. In high school I indulged in this daily without guilt. Then around when I started college I realized the sin there, that was 6 (I think) years ago. I do better, it isn’t a consuming thing for me anymore. But I still fail every other week or so at a moment when I am week - and sometimes for the stupidest reason (I’m tired but I can’t sleep, I’m bored and don’t have any work to do…or cause as you said some part of our sexual culture jumped out at me and I embrace my lust).
It’s hard, but there are a few pointers I’d offer:
- Humility. Confess as was suggested as soon as possible. It is a matter of your soul’s safety but it is also to keep from wanting to pretend (even just for a time) that it “isn’t really a sin”.
- I was really bad off a while back and had to confess 3 days in a row to the same priest. I felt terrible. But realized I can’t do it alone. I have to pray and get God involved in the prevention, not just in forgiving me.
- Prevention - so get God involved. I’ve memorized St. Joseph’s prayer for Purity:
For a while I prayed it daily. I pray it often now, but more when sex won’t get off my mind. I also have gotten better and better at a (almost) daily rosary. When sex is on the mind, you can’t sit and think “don’t think about sex”, it’ll never work that way. You have to replace a thought with another thought.
I was told on a retreat to take my temptation and picture God floating down and my placing it in His hands. Then while He is in mind, ask instead what in this moment (even if I’m in an awkward position in the bathroom) ask what God wants me to do right now. Train yourself to follow in that moment. Of all times, it is in these moments of greatest temption we need to just give up our desires and just do what God says. If you can do that now, it will help you in all sorts of temptatoins through life (sex, cheating, lying, stealing).
2.1 Prevention again - learn to know yourself. Saints don’t magically get up one day and stop all sinning. They see their vices and run. Numerous priest have told me that then I find myself tempted by sex run from that place. So, if it’s TV get away from the TV. Internet? Only use it while momma is in the room with you. You struggle at 1 AM, make sure to get to bed at mid-night…but investigate you weekness and fix/avoid it.
Also, see if masterbation is serving you in other ways. Is it a problem when you are lonely? Or when you are sad? Then plan on other activities to help you at those times. I said I do it when I’m bored. I realized that so I got a copy of the Office on DVD and some science fiction books…when I’m bored to the degree that my mind offers 'what about ___ for fun?" I say…nah I’ve been saving just this book or episode for now.
Anyway, thanks for sharing I’ll pray for you and me and all us poor struggling sinners
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Jart
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Thank you for your reply Smber2c! From the time this thread was started it has gotten a little easier for me and went from everyday to once a week. I’m trying my best and believe I am almost free from this sin. Thank God! And thank all of you. I have really taken everyone’s advice and use it daily. I will definately think about what you have posted Smber. I know it will help. As for this:
When I researched it said it PROBABLY isn’t something serious… but it could be if the blood does not go away. It’s actually happened before sometime last month I think. Good thing I turned 18 today and can go to the Hospital and not have to get my parents consent. I don’t want to think about having to explain this one to them lol. :\
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