sexual passion

[Paul_theApostle]

I am tortured by sexual desires,is it okay to pray or ask God to help me find a partner?

 

[thistle]

I am tortured by sexual desires,is it okay to pray or ask God to help me find a partner?

You don’t even say you want a wife but just a partner.

In any event, in my opinion, looking for a wife just so your sexual desires would be satisfied would be a sin of grave matter.

 

[JRKH]

You don’t even say you want a wife but just a partner.

Yes - this is troubling.

In any event, in my opinion, looking for a wife just so your sexual desires would be satisfied would be a sin of grave matter.

I know that you are simply responding to the OP’s specific question, but I think that we need to be careful here - calling something sin that is actually addressed by St Paul in the Bible.
St Paul speaks of the person who marries in order to keep from sexual sin…(the only reason to marry?) So if St Paul speaks thus and it is contained in Spirit guided Scripture…can it be said to be a "sin of grave matter?
1 Corinthians 7
1 Now concerning the matters about which you wrote. It is well for a man not to touch a woman. 2 But because of the temptation to immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband. 3 The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. 4 For the wife does not rule over her own body, but the husband does; likewise the husband does not rule over his own body, but the wife does. 5 Do not refuse one another except perhaps by agreement for a season, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, lest Satan tempt you through lack of self-control. 6 I say this by way of concession, not of command. 7 I wish that all were as I myself am. But each has his own special gift from God, one of one kind and one of another. 8 To the unmarried and the widows I say that it is well for them to remain single as I do. 9 But if they cannot exercise self-control, they should marry. For it is better to marry than to be aflame with passion
(Bolded is mine)

For the OP…These are matters best discussed with a confessor.

But - to answer the OP’s specific question - yes it is fine to pray for God to send you someone special to love.

Peace
James

 

[Latinitas]

Yes - this is troubling.

I know that you are simply responding to the OP’s specific question, but I think that we need to be careful here - calling something sin that is actually addressed by St Paul in the Bible.
St Paul speaks of the person who marries in order to keep from sexual sin…(the only reason to marry?) So if St Paul speaks thus and it is contained in Spirit guided Scripture…can it be said to be a "sin of grave matter?
1 Corinthians 7
1 Now concerning the matters about which you wrote. It is well for a man not to touch a woman. 2 But because of the temptation to immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband. 3 The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. 4 For the wife does not rule over her own body, but the husband does; likewise the husband does not rule over his own body, but the wife does. 5 Do not refuse one another except perhaps by agreement for a season, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, lest Satan tempt you through lack of self-control. 6 I say this by way of concession, not of command. 7 I wish that all were as I myself am. But each has his own special gift from God, one of one kind and one of another. 8 To the unmarried and the widows I say that it is well for them to remain single as I do. 9 But if they cannot exercise self-control, they should marry. For it is better to marry than to be aflame with passion
(Bolded is mine)

For the OP…These are matters best discussed with a confessor.

But - to answer the OP’s specific question - yes it is fine to pray for God to send you someone special to love.

Peace
James

My opinion is similar to this ^. It is okay to look for a spouse because you’re tempted by sexual thoughts/desires, it’s not a mortal sin as was thought above (cf. 1 Cor. 7 above). I deeply understand this as I’m going through it right now. My only advice to you would be, that, while it’s okay to want an attractive wife, be careful that concupiscence alone does not determine who you marry. Pope Gregory XVI said:

“They should be aware that those marriages will have an unhappy end which are entered upon contrary to the discipline of the Church or without God’s favor or because of concupiscence alone, with no thought of the sacrament and of the mysteries signified by it.”

• Mirari Vos, Gregory XVI, 1832

I hope this was helpful, and I’ll pray for you,
Benedicat Deus,
Latinitas

 

[phil_at_dayboro]

That could be a good start,it’s part of the human makeup to be sexual, and have desire,
It’s what we do with those emotions that count,that we control it,
And it Doesn’t control you, bit like driving a car, are you in control of the car driving it ?
Or is the car driving you ?

 

[Paul_theApostle]

[QUOTbelieveil at dayboro;12287386]That could be a good start,it’s part of the human makeup to be sexual, and have desire,
It’s what we do dose emotions that count,that we control it,
And it Doesn’t control you, bit like driving a car, are you in control of the car driving it ?
Or is the car driving you ?

Thank you for your response and to the other kind posters also.

I guess falling asleep at the wheel or not concentrating properly will end up with the car running us into disaster and a crash.If we let the desires take over and drive us im sure it will end in disaster also.

I do believe living a sacramental prayer life does give us the grace and strength we need to keep us in check,it’s just that I have reasons why I haven’t had Holy Communion in years and have stopped confession also,i dont know when or how I will get back to the Sacraments but just wait and hope to sort it all out one day,in the meantime I am very weak and have little or no resistance to impure sins of this kind and I just don’t know what to do.I have been even getting thoughts to go and pay for the experience but I am resisting that.

Thanks.

 

[jab42483]

Praying for you through the intercession of St. Augustine. In this day and age it is difficult to steer clear of temptation, but it is possible.

 

[thistle]

Yes - this is troubling.

I know that you are simply responding to the OP’s specific question, but I think that we need to be careful here - calling something sin that is actually addressed by St Paul in the Bible.
St Paul speaks of the person who marries in order to keep from sexual sin…(the only reason to marry?) So if St Paul speaks thus and it is contained in Spirit guided Scripture…can it be said to be a "sin of grave matter?
1 Corinthians 7
1 Now concerning the matters about which you wrote. It is well for a man not to touch a woman. 2 But because of the temptation to immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband. 3 The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. 4 For the wife does not rule over her own body, but the husband does; likewise the husband does not rule over his own body, but the wife does. 5 Do not refuse one another except perhaps by agreement for a season, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, lest Satan tempt you through lack of self-control. 6 I say this by way of concession, not of command. 7 I wish that all were as I myself am. But each has his own special gift from God, one of one kind and one of another. 8 To the unmarried and the widows I say that it is well for them to remain single as I do. 9 But if they cannot exercise self-control, they should marry. For it is better to marry than to be aflame with passion
(Bolded is mine)

For the OP…These are matters best discussed with a confessor.

But - to answer the OP’s specific question - yes it is fine to pray for God to send you someone special to love.

Peace
James

I get what you are saying but we have to remember a married man and woman cannot use marriage just to satisfy their sexual desire. The sin of lust also applies within a marriage.

 

[phil_at_dayboro]

I get what you are saying but we have to remember a married man and woman cannot use marriage just to satisfy their sexual desire. The sin of lust also applies within a marriage.

I Don’t think I should ask how that one works,

 

[JRKH]

I get what you are saying but we have to remember a married man and woman cannot use marriage just to satisfy their sexual desire.

Amen - the key word here being “just” - as in the one, single, only reason…

The sin of lust also applies within a marriage.

I Don’t think I should ask how that one works,

Yea Phil…I think that is a tricky one. Let’s just say that what is being alluded to is “disordered desire”.

Peace
James

 

[Paul_theApostle]

I hope I find a Partner in marriage one day
Look it up before you eat frogs legs toads