Sexual sins confession

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I’m being totally serious in this post and please only read if you can help.

What’s required with telling a priest sexual sins?

Should one just say “I committed impure acts with a woman ‘x’ number of times”? Does that count for all sexual sins? Or does one have to go into more detail (anal, oral, etc.)

Please don’t write anything mean or stupid in this post, I really am being serious.
 
Alex, if it’s anykind of the intercourse items you mentioned, then tell him it’s sexual intercoursebut spare the priest intimate deltails like those you suggested.
I don’t know if you’re speaking hypothetically or not, but in order to receive absolution, it’s essential to determine to avoid these occasions of serious sin,
 
I apologise for not finishing or correcting my response. I was interrupted.

Alex, if it’s any kind of the intercourse items you mentioned, then tell the priest that about the sin of sexual intercourse and how many times, but spare the priest intimate details like those you suggested.

Sins involving sexual intercourse, or submitting to behaviour that leads to sexual intercourse, between partners who are not married to each other, must involve determination to avoid such occasions of sin in the future. Absolution cannot be granted if a person does not sincerely intend to avoid these sins or occasions of sin.

From the Catholic Catechism

2353 Fornication is carnal union between an unmarried man and an unmarried woman. It is gravely contrary to the dignity of persons and of human sexuality which is naturally ordered to the good of spouses and the generation and education of children.

A few quotes from the Bible, God’s word:

“Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither fornicators…”[1Corinthians 6:9]
“Flee immorality. Every other sin that a man commits is outside the body, but the immoral man sins against his own body…”[1Corinthians 6:18]

"I am afraid that when I come again my God may humiliate me before you, and I may mourn over many of those who have sinned in the past and not repented of the impurity, immorality and sensuality which they have practiced. [2 Corinthians 12:21] .

"But immorality or any impurity or greed must not even be named among you, as is proper among saints. [Ephesians 5:3]
"Therefore consider the members of your earthly body as dead to immorality, impurity, passion, evil desire, and greed, which amounts to idolatry. [Colossians 3:5 ]

"Marriage is to be held in honor among all, and the marriage bed is to be undefiled; for fornicators and adulterers God will judge. [Hebrews 13:4]
 
Trishie: I think the original poster is asking for the proper way to refer to various types of sexual sins. This is a question I would have as well. Say, for example, you committing an impurity with a woman, involving rubbing or touching of the genitals, but it was not oral sex nor anal sex nor intercourse…is “I committed a sexual impurity with a woman” sufficient? Or “I touched a woman impurely”? None of these seem sufficient without going into detail, otherwise the priest might assume it’s intercourse on the one hand or something much more innocent on the other…
 
Be clear. Be brief. How many times? Alone or with others? The priest can ask for more detail if he needs to ascertain the gravity of the sin.
 
I’m confused on how ‘clear’ one has to be, like twf pointed out.
 
Generally speaking, the priest doesn’t need to know the specific details. And, if he does, he can ask (a simple “what do you mean by that?” should do the trick). I would suggest trying to give a general idea of the type of misconduct you’re talking about, along with enough details to let him know the scope of the problem (e.g., heavy petting with your fiancee is one level; but you’re at an entirely different level if you’ve had intercourse with 12 different people, some of whom you don’t even know).

In my experience with confession, the priest is usually more interested in finding what went wrong (“So tell me, why do you think you’ve been committing that sin so often?”) and trying to fix that (“Have you considered avoiding this person?”) than in learning the salacious details (“Really?! Then what happened?”). You know what I mean?

You shouldn’t be totally vague (“I was impure”), because that doesn’t tell him anything. You should be specific about the sin; you need not be specific about the details. Does that make sense?
 
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