Sexual Sins non Binding?

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Feeling alone is not sufficient for perfect contrition; besides sorrow there must be metanoia a firm purpose of not sinning in the future, that the soul is more important than what is had through sin. But this can also happen quickly, with one thought of firm resolution.
Agreed. As Jesus did not condemn the Woman caught in Adultery for that Sin - although she was certainly guilty of it - He gave her forgivness - but he likeiwse gave her an admonishment as well. He said “Go and Sin no more.” So that is an important part of that equasion. Yes - Jesus will forgive us our sins. But he expects us to go and sin no more. Not get forgiven and go and sin more as if one was never forgiven or in anticipation that we can always just go be forgiven so why avoid sin in the future. The point of Amendment of Life cannot be understated. In approaching the Confessional - we have to be sorry for our sins. How sorry are we if we have no intention of amending our life? And when we have that contrition and firm amendment - then we can approach the Sacrament with a clear conscience. That is what was so disturbing about the Original Quote. The individual seemed to have very little intention of amending the life and or of avoiding Sin. Its as if the Gravity of Sin was rendered meaningless and the excuse give is that GOD is good. But in the parable - Yes yes is Good but no Jesus didnt tell the woman that she could continue breaking GOD’s Commandments and thus scandalizing her neighbors. But since she was forgiven - to put on the “new man” take advantage of GOD’s Mercy by going and sinning no more. That aspect , its seems for some - is lost.
 
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Episcopalian Bishop Stacy Sauls once said, when talking about “blessing” same sex unions, something to effect that, once you have turned against the absolute admonition in the Bible against divorce, the rest comes easily. And he is an advocate of Same Sex Blessings!

There is an undercurrent in Christianity nowadays that says we shouldn’t judge others and that loving others is the only thing that is important. Well, of course it’s the people advocating acceptance of certain sins as not sins that are advancing this idea. A lot of people find it an attractive way to be a “Christian”.
Well, I’d say that we can’t judge others as we don’t know what is in their heart, what they’ve experienced in life that might decrease their culpability, etc. only God can judge a person. However we CAN & MUST be able to judge their sin & our own sin.

For instance, you mentioned same sex unions. I CAN & MUST judge sexual relations between two people of the same sex as sin. Both Scripture & the Catholic Church are definite about this…plus Natural Law tells us that indulging in homosexual or lesbian sex is an abuse of our sexual organs given to us by God as a means of procreation & unity within marriage.

That said, we may not judge whether a specific person who indulges in this perversion is damned. Only God makes that final call. I do agree with you that society today doesn’t seem to understand the difference between “That is a sin” & “you are a sinner”. The principle of hate the sin, love the sinner has somehow gotten lost.
 
…Well, of course it’s the people advocating acceptance of certain sins as not sins that are advancing this idea. A lot of people find it an attractive way to be a “Christian”.
Christian in the sense of their interpretation of Christian. If one redefines “sin” to suit, they do the work of the devil, the father of lies.

John 8 [NAB]: [34] Jesus answered them, “Amen, amen, I say to you, everyone who commits sin is a slave of sin. [35] A slave does not remain in a household forever, but a son always remains. [36] So if a son frees you, then you will truly be free. … [43] Why do you not understand what I am saying? Because you cannot bear to hear my word. [44] You belong to your father the devil and you willingly carry out your father’s desires. He was a murderer from the beginning and does not stand in truth, because there is no truth in him. When he tells a lie, he speaks in character, because he is a liar and the father of lies. …[47] Whoever belongs to God hears the words of God; for this reason you do not listen, because you do not belong to God.”
 
It is so nice to have such an optimistic attitude/belief. It borders, in my opinion, on the sin of presumption. There are many folk sayings like,“Live by the sword, die by the sword.” etc. etc.** I firmly believe that as one lives, so one will die. Not being in the habit of repentance will make it very unlikely to happen at the moment of death.** The ideal is to live as if death is a breath away. Living in unrepentant, habitual mortal sin hardly comes any where near that ideal. Looking back on over 70 years, I would say life is very short and is very serious business and then comes the judgement. Doing ones best to avoid sin leaves plenty of room for legitimate enjoyment.Don’t delude yourself. As the saying goes,“God is not mocked.”
Your post is both insightful & wise. I’d not thought of life in that way, but you’re correct. If one is not used to admitting his/her sin during life, if one has not made it a habit to confess & repent throughout their days on earth, one probably won’t do it when death is close.

Which reminds me that it’s been over a month since my last confession & it’s time to go again. THANK YOU!! (in the begginning we make our habits…in the end our habits make US.)
 
“Do not be deceived, God is not mocked; for whatever a man sows, this he will also reap.” (Galatians 6:7)

I have heard a saint say as much… confession with the intention of only brief or untrue repentance… is mocking God…

Some words from a great Doctor of the Church on the subject on sins of impurity:

'We have now to speak of the fourth gate of Hell, which is impurity, and it is by this gate that the greater number of the damned enter. Some will say that it is a trifling sin. Is it a trifling sin? It is a mortal sin.

St. Antoninus writes that such is the nauseousness of this sin that the devils themselves cannot endure it. Moreover, the Doctors of the Church say that certain demons, who have been superior to the rest, remembering their ancient dignity, disdain tempting to so loathsome a sin.

Consider then how disgusting he must be to God, who, like a dog, is ever returning to his vomit, or wallowing like a pig in the stinking mire of this accursed vice (2 Pet 2.22). The impure say, moreover, “God has compassion on us who are subject to this vice, because He knows that we are flesh.” What do you say? God has compassion on this vice? But you must know that the most horrible chastisements with which God has ever visited the earth have been drawn down by this vice.

St. Jerome says that this is the only sin of which we read that it caused God to repent of having made man, for all flesh had become corrupted (Gen 6.6-12). And so it is, St. Jerome says, that there is no sin which God punishes so rigorously, even upon earth, as this. He once sent fire from Heaven upon five cities, and consumed all their inhabitants for this sin (Sodom and Gomorrah, Gen 18-19).

Principally on account of this sin did God destroy mankind, with the exception of eight persons, by the flood.

It is a sin which God punishes, not only in the other life, but in this also. Because, says God, you have forgotten Me and turned your back upon Me, for a miserable pleasure of the flesh, I am resolved that even in this life you shall pay the price of your wickedness (Ezek 23.35). You say, “God has compassion upon men subject to this sin.” But it is this sin that sends most men to Hell.

St. Remigius says that the greater number of the damned are in Hell through this vice. Father Segneri writes that as this vice fills the world with sinners, so it fills Hell with damned souls; and before him St. Bernardine of Siena wrote: “This sin draws the whole world, as it were, into sin.”

And before him St. Bernard and St. Isidore said that “the human race is brought under the power of the devil more by lust than by all the other vices.”

The reason is because this vice proceeds from the natural inclination of the flesh. Hence St Thomas Aquinas says that the devil does not take such complacency in securing the commission of any other sin as of this, because the person who is plunged in this infernal mire remains lodged therein, and almost wholly unable to free himself again.

“No one is so obstinate in sin as the impure,” says St. Thomas of Villanova.

Moreover, this vice deprives one of all light, for the impure man becomes so blind as almost wholly to forget God, says St. Laurence Justinian; which is in accordance with what is said by the prophet Hosea: They will not set their thoughts to return to their God; for the spirit of fornication is in the midst of them, and they have not known God (Hos 5.4).

The impure man does not know God; he obeys neither God nor reason, as St. Jerome says; he obeys only the sensual appetite which causes him to act like a beast. This sin, because it flatters, makes us fail at once into the habit of it, a habit which some carry with them even to death.

You see husbands, and decrepit old men, indulge in the same thoughts and committing the same sins that they committed in their youth. And because sins of this kind are so easily committed, they become multiplied without number. Ask of the sinner how many impure thoughts he has consented to: he will tell you he cannot remember.

But, brother, if you cannot tell the number, God can; and you know that a single willful immodest thought is enough to send you to Hell. How many immodest words have you spoken, in which you took delight yourself, and by which you scandalized your neighbor? From thoughts and words you proceed to acts, and to those innumerable impurities which those wretches roll and wallow in like swine, without ever being satisfied, for this vice is never satisfied.

But, Father, you will say, how can I hold out against the innumerable temptations which assail me? I am weak, I am flesh. And since you are weak, why not recommend yourself to God, and to most holy Mary, who is the mother of purity?

Since you are flesh, why do you throw yourself in the way of sin? Why do you not guard your eyes? Why do you gaze upon those objects from which temptations flow? . . .

It is to be remarked, moreover, that this sin brings with it innumerable others: enmities, thefts, and, more especially, sacrilegious confessions and Communions, by reason of the shame which will not allow these impurities to be disclosed in confession. And let us remark here in passing, that it is sacrilege above all things that brings upon us sickness and death; for, says the Apostle, “He that eats and drinks unworthily, eats and drinks judgment to himself, not discerning the body of the Lord”; and then he adds: “therefore are many infirm and weak among you.” (1 Cor 11.29-30) And St. John Chrysostom, in explanation of that passage, says that St. Paul speaks of persons who were chastised with bodily infirmities because they received the Sacrament with a guilty conscience.
 
My brethren, should you ever have been sunk in this vice, I do not bid you be disheartened, but arise at once from this foul and infernal pit; beg of God immediately to give you light, and stretch out His hand to you. The first thing that you have to do is to break with the occasion of sin: without that, preaching and tears and resolutions and confessions, all are lost. Remove the occasions, and then constantly recommend yourself to God, and to Mary the mother of purity.

No matter how grievously you may be tempted, do not be discouraged by the temptation; at once call to your aid Jesus and Mary,* pronouncing their sacred names*. These blessed names have the power of making the devil fly, and stifling that hellish flame within you. If the devil persists in tempting you, persevere in calling upon Jesus and Mary, and certainly you shall not fall. In order to rid yourself of your evil habits, undertake some special devotion to our Lady; begin to fast in her honor upon Saturdays; contrive to visit her image every day, and beg of her to obtain for you deliverance from that vice.

Every morning immediately after rising, never omit saying three “Hail Marys” in honor of her purity and do the same when going to bed; and above ail things, as I have said, when the temptation is most troublesome, call quickly upon Jesus and Mary. Beware, brother, if you do not be converted now, you may never be converted.

St. Alphonsus Maria de Liguori
 
My brethren, should you ever have been sunk in this vice, I do not bid you be disheartened, but arise at once from this foul and infernal pit; beg of God immediately to give you light, and stretch out His hand to you. The first thing that you have to do is to break with the occasion of sin: without that, preaching and tears and resolutions and confessions, all are lost. Remove the occasions, and then constantly recommend yourself to God, and to Mary the mother of purity.

No matter how grievously you may be tempted, do not be discouraged by the temptation; at once call to your aid Jesus and Mary,* pronouncing their sacred names*. These blessed names have the power of making the devil fly, and stifling that hellish flame within you. If the devil persists in tempting you, persevere in calling upon Jesus and Mary, and certainly you shall not fall. In order to rid yourself of your evil habits, undertake some special devotion to our Lady; begin to fast in her honor upon Saturdays; contrive to visit her image every day, and beg of her to obtain for you deliverance from that vice.

Every morning immediately after rising, never omit saying three “Hail Marys” in honor of her purity and do the same when going to bed; and above ail things, as I have said, when the temptation is most troublesome, call quickly upon Jesus and Mary. Beware, brother, if you do not be converted now, you may never be converted.

St. Alphonsus Maria de Liguori
Thanks for the great insight. That pretty much sums up the Catholic approach to Sin and the Need for True Repentance!
 
Thanks for the great insight. That pretty much sums up the Catholic approach to Sin and the Need for True Repentance!
Beyond all I have read here, the fire and the brimstone reserved for those who reject our loving GOD and the Mercy of Jesus, I believe you try and try and try each day. You fall, but you get up and reach for the loving had of our Savior. You do this until the end of your life, until the last breath…you win the race. So many carry the baggage of past sins and never leave them at Jesus’ feet. Accept his greatest gift of salvation, it’s free and it’s yours. Nothing pains the Sacred Heart of Jesus more than those who do not accept his gift of eternal life.One drop of the Blood of Divine Mercy can erase ALL the evil in this world, but it must be accepted. Here is a little prayer sent in by a single mother who, out of her depression finally prayed for herself…I saw this in Reader’s Digest and say it each day…it has helped me in my impure laden life.

Jesus,help me realize I am a child and heir of God
Help me to realize my own goodness and value.
Help me to accept your love,mercy, forgiveness and my Salvation.
May I treat myself with patience, mercy and gentleness
and, may I treat other as I treat myself. Amen

God Bless us all
 
Our salvation will not be determined by our “feelings” or by what we “think”. Our salvation will be determined by our actions, God’s Mercy, and our acceptance of that mercy. For confession to be valid we must have true contrition.

I know many confessions when I was in habitual sinner where I did not have true contrition, as a worldly poor excuse for a Catholic I presumed God would be there to forgive me again after my next sin all I needed to do was ask. I created my own formula for salvation and I never had true contrition. This self made formula was not going to save me. I basically had my own religion yet I called myself “Catholic”.

But 9 years ago today I watched the events of September 11th at a beer and pancake breakfast party. Beer at 7:30am thank you very much. I then watched the events of the day unfold and I realized that day that thousands of people went to work that morning not feeling that they were going to die that morning. Some I’m sure were mired in habitual sin like I was, I realized right then and there I needed to KNOW God and not assume I knew Him.

Yes God is Merciful, Yes God is Love, but God is also Just! We choose to ignore that aspect of God because when we ignore His Justice, we think it gives us license to do as we please and He will forgive us. As someone said above, this mocks God, and God will not be mocked!

If you get right with God you will no longer commit mortal sin with any regularity. And when you do sin, you will know it, you won’t fight the fact, and you will have true contrition when you go to the Sacrament of Reconciliation.

Adoration, frequent Reconciliation, the Eucharist in a state of grace, and Scripture Reading is the solution to all the ills of worldliness.

God Bless you and may God have mercy on those who die in sin, especially those who died on September 11th.
 
I would hope that the gravity of repentance is just as real as the gravity of sin, regardless of the case.
 
Every Sin damages our relationship with GODS , no matter how small. Certainly mortal sin can make us enemies of GOD and rob our soul of sanctifying grace altogether. Search the parables - Jesus teaches us this time after time. The man without a “Wedding Garment” got into the wedding feast but then the state of his soul rendered him an eyesore and he was cast out.

So should we then despair? No - because it is action that will repair that relationship. Praying is free. It doesnt cost us anything to pray. Fasting is free. Offering up suffering is free. Mortification is Free. Acts of Charity are free and cover so very many sins. Are we Catholics of Action - doing the will of GOD or are we Catholics of emotion who merely go to Church say amen and leave not thinking of GOD again until its time to go to Church next Sunday. We can make up for every Sin if we make up our minds to do it. If the will of GOD and his commandments become important to us. If we put GOD first in everything we do.

Its not hard to be Catholic. Its a matter of making a decision as to what is and is not important to us in life. When loving GOD and Neighbor and attaining Heaven becomes the most important thing in ones life and the ultimate goal of ones existance - then it becomes the focus in everyting one does each and every day.

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