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TomS333
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Ruth and I became close friends at the start of our first year at College and were moderately flirtatious with one another. Ruth would often punch me in a flirtatious manner.
On 23rd November 2016, we encountered one another whilst volunteering at College’s Open Evening. Once we were done, she asked “Can I hug you?” to which I nodded, hence she proceeded. We walked a short way together after leaving the college grounds.
On 24th November 2016, we were sat together in our Further Maths class. Ruth caused me to distract our tutor by asking the question of “Why can’t you divide by zero?”. She also, in this very same lesson, started footsying me which made me feel slightly uncomfortable at the time.
Conversations between Ruth and me often contained kisses, love hearts and “love you”s in both directions.
I asked Ruth out in December, and she said that she did not feel the same way towards me as I did towards her.
Ruth and I distanced ourselves from one another for a while until Ash Wednesday (1st March 2017) when Ruth approached me in a friendly manner. From that point, she and I began talking again and returned to a seemingly stable friendship.
Later on in that academic year, Ruth DECIDED that I made her feel uncomfortable with seemingly no stimulus, so again I left her alone for a short while. Again, she returned to me and our friendship was restored.
In our second year at College, Ruth and I were friends again until she again DECIDED, seemingly out of spite, that I still had feelings for her despite her knowing full well that I was in a different relationship.
On Monday 27th November 2017, Ruth attacked me with an accusation that I was “pretending to know things.”
I was discussing synaesthesia with a couple of friends. Then Ruth entered the room and immediately attacked me with “Stop pretending to know things you don’t!”.
I had done nothing against her prior to this.
I later put up a status on Facebook concerning the earlier incident:
‘Earlier today, I was told by a supposed friend to “Stop pretending to know things you don’t.”
I do know these things.
I never pretend to know things.
It upsets me when I am accused of pretending to know things.’
She then accused me of “slagging her off”.
I pointed out that I only “slagged her off” because she upset me.
Had she not have upset me, none of this would have happened.
Why can she not see that she is, at least in part, to blame?
I accept that I may have hurt her feelings and I apologise for that.
I also deleted the Facebook status.
Why is it that, even though she is the one who caused all of this, she gets away with it and I am threatened and punished because of my reactions to her abuse? Because I’m male and apparently, females are incapable of any wrongdoing.
Each and every time I was called to the office, they asked “Is it because you like her?” The answer is, was, and always will be “NO! This has NOTHING to do with me liking Ruth.” I didn’t need SSO’s patronising lecture that clearly proved that they hadn’t listened to a word I’d said.
Ruth had upset me, I was going to react.
If Ruth had not have committed an act against me, I would have had nothing to react to.
On 23rd November 2016, we encountered one another whilst volunteering at College’s Open Evening. Once we were done, she asked “Can I hug you?” to which I nodded, hence she proceeded. We walked a short way together after leaving the college grounds.
On 24th November 2016, we were sat together in our Further Maths class. Ruth caused me to distract our tutor by asking the question of “Why can’t you divide by zero?”. She also, in this very same lesson, started footsying me which made me feel slightly uncomfortable at the time.
Conversations between Ruth and me often contained kisses, love hearts and “love you”s in both directions.
I asked Ruth out in December, and she said that she did not feel the same way towards me as I did towards her.
Ruth and I distanced ourselves from one another for a while until Ash Wednesday (1st March 2017) when Ruth approached me in a friendly manner. From that point, she and I began talking again and returned to a seemingly stable friendship.
Later on in that academic year, Ruth DECIDED that I made her feel uncomfortable with seemingly no stimulus, so again I left her alone for a short while. Again, she returned to me and our friendship was restored.
In our second year at College, Ruth and I were friends again until she again DECIDED, seemingly out of spite, that I still had feelings for her despite her knowing full well that I was in a different relationship.
On Monday 27th November 2017, Ruth attacked me with an accusation that I was “pretending to know things.”
I was discussing synaesthesia with a couple of friends. Then Ruth entered the room and immediately attacked me with “Stop pretending to know things you don’t!”.
I had done nothing against her prior to this.
I later put up a status on Facebook concerning the earlier incident:
‘Earlier today, I was told by a supposed friend to “Stop pretending to know things you don’t.”
I do know these things.
I never pretend to know things.
It upsets me when I am accused of pretending to know things.’
She then accused me of “slagging her off”.
I pointed out that I only “slagged her off” because she upset me.
Had she not have upset me, none of this would have happened.
Why can she not see that she is, at least in part, to blame?
I accept that I may have hurt her feelings and I apologise for that.
I also deleted the Facebook status.
Why is it that, even though she is the one who caused all of this, she gets away with it and I am threatened and punished because of my reactions to her abuse? Because I’m male and apparently, females are incapable of any wrongdoing.
Each and every time I was called to the office, they asked “Is it because you like her?” The answer is, was, and always will be “NO! This has NOTHING to do with me liking Ruth.” I didn’t need SSO’s patronising lecture that clearly proved that they hadn’t listened to a word I’d said.
Ruth had upset me, I was going to react.
If Ruth had not have committed an act against me, I would have had nothing to react to.
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Wow. That certainly illuminates things.