She's attacking me again

[Irishmom2]

Have you blocked her on social media yet?

It is never going to die unless you do not engage with her. So stop answering her. Stop giving her a place to rail at you too.

 

[1ke]

I later put up a status on Facebook concerning the earlier incident:

‘Earlier today, I was told by a supposed friend to “Stop pretending to know things you don’t.”

I do know these things.

I never pretend to know things.

It upsets me when I am accused of pretending to know things.’

STOP IT.

This is childish behavior and its purpose is to antagonize or else you have some serious issues demanding attention from others for supposed slights and wrongs.

I know you want people to tell you that you are an injured party here, but I don’t think that’s true. I think you are pouring fuel on the fire and should probably talk to someone like a counselor about your emotional issues. These behaviors are indicative of junior high not college age people.

 

[1ke]

Had she not have upset me, none of this would have happened

You control your own emotions.

Don’t blame others for your reactions.

Why can she not see that she is, at least in part, to blame?

Because you own and control your own emotions and behavior, not her. YOU posted on social media. YOU reacted poorly. YOU got emotional.

You need to talk to someone, because this is behavior that an adult should not be exhibiting.

Ruth had upset me, I was going to react.

If Ruth had not have committed an act against me, I would have had nothing to react to.

Stop blaming other people for your poor choices. You can control how you react. You can choose not to react.

So, just STOP IT.

 

[1ke]

The Counsellor is just as bad as the other members of staff.

My parents think I’m trying to get revenge on her

So when your position is “it’s not me” and everyone else’s position is “it’s you”… I think you need to consider that they may be on to something.

You need to continue seeing a counselor and talking with your parents about this issue.

 

[angel12]

I tried to ignore her. I don’t think about her except for when I get pulled aside to be accused of something I haven’t done.

Posting about it on facebook isn’t ignoring her.

 

[The_Old_Maid]

Transfer to another university. Preferably one at least two tanks of gasoline from where you attend now. In this way, there should be a paper trail if someone drives there to bother the other one.

While this might create a mild hardship for you in the short term, it’s better than a mild trip to jail.

It doesn’t sound like you’ve established any positive relationships at that university that would be hurt if you just ghosted the place. Aside from transferring your transcripts, of course.

As for Facebook, I fail to see the attraction. I’ve lived without it and so have most adults.

If the problem revives at the new university with a total stranger, it’s you. Help is available.