Should a man with an overly healthy libido get married or stay single?

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If a man is thinking about the possibility of being in a relationship, and he has a high libido, but he doesn’t want to be a burden (intimately) on a potential woman in his life, would it be better if he simply decides to stay single? Or should he still pursue a relationship with the hope of marriage and take his chances on being a burden on her with his high libido? It can be very frustrating to try to will away erections when they happen with great frequency, and one doesn’t want to be a burden in a loving, healthy marriage.
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There will always be lust to struggle with, married or not. Unhappiness results from slavery to passions. So it could be best to get the passions under control first and then consider marriage. It is true that St. Paul said it is better to marry than to burn.

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2339 Chastity includes an apprenticeship in self-mastery which is a training in human freedom. The alternative is clear: either man governs his passions and finds peace, or he lets himself be dominated by them and becomes unhappy.126 "Man’s dignity therefore requires him to act out of conscious and free choice, as moved and drawn in a personal way from within, and not by blind impulses in himself or by mere external constraint. Man gains such dignity when, ridding himself of all slavery to the passions, he presses forward to his goal by freely choosing what is good and, by his diligence and skill, effectively secures for himself the means suited to this end."127
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A “healthy” libido is a good thing! You are describing an unhealthy situation. A man in a such a position should speak to his physician and/or therapist to learn about options to healthfully diffuse excessive sexual energy.
 
OP, 1 Corinthians says that it is better to marry than to burn. Does that answer the question?
 
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