Magicsilence:
I think everyone is missing the point here. If one has committed adultery then they have misunderstood the way in which sex is to be used. If they do not understand that fundamental concept, and thus are guilty of lust, then the sin has been committed in the heart, whether they physically go and have sex is actually irrelevant.
Therefore, i believe that if one has reached the point where they desire other women, and therefore are guilty of adultery, they need to be brought back to the faith, keeping it hidden? Not a choice.
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AS Jimmy Carter says, in his heart he may have committed adultery thousands of times…
I don’t feel any obligation to tell my wife every time I’ve lusted after other women. I try not to, but being human I have been tempted often, and every once in a while my imagination gets the better of me. In my defense I have never once acted on any of these mental infidelities, nor do I ever intend to.
If I were to tell my spouse each time I saw a beautiful woman and desired to have an affair with them, it not only would be very hurtful to her self esteem, and I think it would be extremely uncharitable.
No one is that honest and I think they should keep a lot of their thoughts and secret desires to themselves.
I don’t go looking for scantily clad women and I don’t search the web for porn or sexually explicit web sites. But in the every day life one can not help but come across some folks who look beautiful and openly flaunt it. And in the media of course, sex is openly displayed even in G and PG rated shows.
I don’t make a habit of gawking at every female that passes by, but I 'm not about to confess everytime, I see a pretty face.
As far as confessing a real life infidelity goes, I think a lot of folks are letting themselves off the hook easy in NOT telling their spouse about an infidelity. It seems to be just an excuse to avoid facing the music and consequences of their actions.
It is a terrible hurt and burden that they are placing on their victim spouse, but they should have thought about that BEFORE they went out and cheated.
I don’t ever want to be put in that situation of trying to decide whether to tell or not tell. My wife has threatened divorce if that ever happened and I wouldn’t blame her. But IF I were the victim, I think I would want to know. It would be painful, but I would think I could forgive eventually and try to work out the problems.
Christ says, we breaks our wedding vows at our own peril. It is a very greievious sin and too many folks take their vows too lightly.
wc
What about the increased risk for cancer that a woman or man may be placed at? For a woman, this knowledge may mean more frequent cervical cancer screening. No one has the right to risk another person’s life.
, I was still thinking in terms of syphillis & gonorrhea.