Hope I’m not speaking out of turn since I’m not yet Catholic, but…
Debate with the priest when you’re in confession…?
Why on earth would that be a good idea, and what valid reason would you give to say you don’t want to pray the rosary? What are you there for?
I think enlightening theological discussions would best take place elsewhere.
I’m not against open dialogue even on such seemingly rudimentary gifts as the rosary, but pulling a stunt like this while receiving the Sacrament would seem disrespectful.
Am I wrong? Is this common at all?
I don’t mean in a disrespectful sense at all, nor in the sense of disagreeing for trivial reasons or just for the heck of it. Or having a knock-down dragout disagreement with him over something. That’s not to say you’re not permitted to go beyond ‘yes’, ‘no’ and ‘three bags full’ either.
To discuss such things with your priest, in or out of the confessional, is not a stunt. Many do go to the confessional for spiritual advice as well as absolution, it is actually meant to be part of the sacrament where possible. So I don’t see it as being at all wrong or inappropriate to do so unless there’s a long queue behind you and your objections or questions are lengthy.
Remember the priest is only acting as alter Christus in regards pronouncing the absolution - his advice in the confessional isn’t infallible, nor is the penance imposed. Otherwise we couldn’t question it even if he were to command the outright impossible as a penance, or tell us that, say, murder was OK (and some priests will make statements in the confessional that are almost as implausible).
I have in mind something like 'Father, could I perhaps do abc (for example, reading a Bible passage relevant to your particular sins or something) instead of saying the Rosary, I really feel I would get more benefit out of the Bible reading". And seeing what his response is.
I mean to say that it’s OK to engage in a well-thought-out discussion of alternatives, I wouldn’t suggest just an ‘I don’t wanna do your penance because I don’t wanna’.
Of course it’s not common at all, because bad advice or penances that people are uncomfortable with are also not common. I’ve never objected to a penance myself for that reason, but that doesn’t mean one can’t.
I did once have a priest who, without even knowing me or hearing what my sins were, objected to the fact that it had been (in his view) too short a time since my previous confession. I would maintain there’s nothing wrong in pointing out in response to such an attitude that Mother Teresa and John Paul II both went to confession more than once a week!