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karendesz
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My mother has been always been against my (now) fiancee whom I’ve been dating for 6 years. Initially her views were justified as my boyfriend had not graduated from uni as he was already engaged in full-time steady employment. Since then he has graduated, we are now engaged ( my family managed to talk her into an engagement) & both actively pursuing our post-grad degrees. He is a wonderful, patient man who is actively involved in the church and always one to extend a helping hand at the local charity or whenever anyone needs it. Our families, local priests and friends whom we have known for years happily support our decision. My mother now finds other excuses to refrain me from marrying him. She finds him ugly( he is not!), thinks that our family is too classy for the likes of his (they are just too quiet & humble for her likes!) and now just tries to pick any fault she fancies ( does not like the color of his shirt that day, or that he had a bit of a stubble etc) I find my mother’s prerequisites just silly now but she spares no bone to give me a hard time whenever she can and just makes it a living hell for me everyday. I support her financially and do everything she asks but I’m 28 years old now and know I will be making a mistake by letting my mother take complete control of me. My fiancee and I have decided to take the step ahead with marriage as there is nothing more we can do to please mother. But my heart still breaks for her as this whole ordeal has made her lose her mind and go berserk. Is it selfish of me to want to make my own decision, especially when it comes to marriage?