Ah! Wisdom at last!Do you love your niece? Then go to the wedding. There’s nothing to be gained by shunning her wedding. It just looks judgemental. Staying away from family and boycotting the festivities accomplishes zilch. We’ve all sinned. Go and take part in their happiness and worry about the plank in your own eye.
I take it this is either your sister or your brother’s child. What do they think of the matter? What is your relationship with your niece? Have you been active in their life, or are they more of an acquaintance?
Really? I don’t see it looking judgmental. Do people who have affairs really expect that no one will have a problem with it? In my experience, the people who behave in such a way have had enough sense to realize that no one particularly wants to celebrate their union and have chosen to quietly elope instead.Do you love your niece? Then go to the wedding. There’s nothing to be gained by shunning her wedding. It just looks judgemental. Staying away from family and boycotting the festivities accomplishes zilch. We’ve all sinned. Go and take part in their happiness and worry about the plank in your own eye.
Your whole statement sounds pretty judgemental to me, my friend.Really? I don’t see it looking judgmental. Do people who have affairs really expect that no one will have a problem with it? In my experience, the people who behave in such a way have had enough sense to realize that no one particularly wants to celebrate their union and have chosen to quietly elope instead.
I’m just saying, we don’t know all the details of the relationship with the couple. Maybe they both had very unhappy marriages, and finally found their “soul mate”. I vote for not making a statement about the situation and just go to the wedding and show love for the family. The greatest commandment is love, isn’t it? If they need judging, God will do it in His good time. Besides, this couple, they aren’t even Catholic, are they? They will never want to come into the fold if they perceive Catholics are looking down on them. And coming back to Rome would be good for this couple. So let the OP be an ambassador for the Church and not alienate them. Just my two cents! 
Last time I checked, the Sixth Commandment is only five words long, and makes no exceptions for details or unhappy marriages or soul mates.
I’m not judging their souls. They could very easily make it to heaven ahead of me. Perhaps their consciences have not been properly formed and they possess invincible ignorance. Perhaps their are extenuating circumstances that minimize their personal culpability.Your whole statement sounds pretty judgemental to me, my friend.
Also we must remember that approving another persons objectively gravely disordered act (culpability aside) is in reality acting contrary to the very friendship or family relationship. Truth and love go together. It would be contrary to love to act contrary to truth. It would be an act contrary to the very friendship.
So, they were living in sin.
They’re not rectifying anything. They are attempting to cloak their adultery under the veil of a “new marriage”. It doesn’t work that way.
How were they living in sin? Non-Catholics validly marry. Since they are both youth ministers, they might even be baptized non-Catholics which would make their marriages sacramental as well.
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