Should I attend this Protestant wedding? 2nd marriage for groom

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A Baptist friend of mine is getting married for the first time to a Baptist man who is divorced. If either were Catholic and there was no annulment, I would not attend. Is it morally permissible to attend and celebrate the weddings of remarried Protestants? Or do the rules not apply to them since their churches do not teach that it is wrong to divorce and remarry?
 
beckycmarie said:
A Baptist friend of mine is getting married for the first time to a Baptist man who is divorced. If either were Catholic and there was no annulment, I would not attend. Is it morally permissible to attend and celebrate the weddings of remarried Protestants? Or do the rules not apply to them since their churches do not teach that it is wrong to divorce and remarry?
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Do you think your presence there will be so notable that there will be scandal as a result? I am not sure how many weddings any believer could attend if a person had all the information about the bride and groom there was to have anyway.
 
In my opinion it is always permissible to show love, support, friendship and respect. "The gifts of the spirit are love, joy, peace, patience, knidness, goodness, faithfulness and self control. Against such things there is no law. " -* Galatians *

Judgment and the idea of moral superiority run counter to the work of God’s grace in the world, and so many people have been hurt by them. (I’m not insinuating in any way that YOU are judgmental or feeling morally superior. That is just the argument that so many people use to separate themselves from “sinners”.)
 
I would not attend. The rules on divorce and remarriage come from Christ. The fact that 99.999999% of protestants no longer recognize Christ’s teachings do not make them any less true.
 
that_name said:
I would not attend. The rules on divorce and remarriage come from Christ. The fact that 99.999999% of protestants no longer recognize Christ’s teachings do not make them any less true.
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I don’t know if the poster is asking to see what popular opinion is on this or if she wants catholic teaching on this, with some kind of citation or primary source to find out if she is allowed to per the church. Perhaps you can tell me if you are using anything like that in your decision making?
 
Definately attend.

These are not some terrible or evil people you should avoid…they are just normal people and sinners like ourselves. Also, as you said, they are friends. Have mercy on those that do wrong. Forgive them their trespasses so that in turn you will be forgiven.

They are obviously committed to each other already, and your attendance is not going to change that. They are also obviously commited to their brand of faith at the moment, and you not showing up will not change that either. With people, you cannot “boycott” their events to get them to change their ways or realize their errors. It will only cause hurt feelings and increased stubborness.

Rather, if you show them love and support on their day…a day which they are showing everyone they are commited to each other (the best way they know how), with all the joys and great challenges that comes with…if you continue to be a support and a light in their life on their wedding day and in the days to come…if you have the strength to do this in spite of their sins and imperfections…you would be more Christ-like than if you abstained.

Just my opinion! Pray about it as well.
 
If I love someone, I cannot participate in their sin.

I won’t drive my friend while he robs a bank.

I won’t take my brother down to get a hit of crack.

I won’t celebrate an invalid marriage.

Burial laws are not matters of faith and morals.
 
that_name said:
I would not attend. The rules on divorce and remarriage come from Christ. The fact that 99.999999% of protestants no longer recognize Christ’s teachings do not make them any less true.
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Me thinks the lady doth protest too much.
 
that_name said:
If I love someone, I cannot participate in their sin.

I won’t drive my friend while he robs a bank.

I won’t take my brother down to get a hit of crack.

I won’t celebrate an invalid marriage.

Burial laws are not matters of faith and morals.
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You don’t understand what I am saying.

Cremation was not allowed by the church for a ton of years for the reason that it could be percieved as a scandal because long long time ago, people got cremated to make a point they were denying the resurrection. Since no one in any substantial number does that today (and had not for many many years prior to the ban) it is not a cause of scandal to be cremated.

Are you following me now?

So, how is her presence going to create a scandal at this wedding? If she is a notable catholic it could be possible, it’s most likely not probable though.
 
that_name said:
This lady is sick and tired of Catholics who are afraid to stand up for the teachings of the Church.
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I’m trying to see if it is in fact church teaching I don’t agree with, our your personal interpretation of church teaching that I can’t see as logical.
 
StrawberryJam said:
You don’t understand what I am saying.

Cremation was not allowed by the church for a ton of years for the reason that it could be percieved as a scandal because long long time ago, people got cremated to make a point they were denying the resurrection. Since no one in any substantial number does that today (and had not for many many years prior to the ban) it is not a cause of scandal to be cremated.

Are you following me now?

So, how is her presence going to create a scandal at this wedding? If she is a notable catholic it could be possible, it’s most likely not probable though.
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Cremation was not allowed as in that time and place people used cremation to deny the resurrection of the body. The practice was changed, not because of any scandal, but because the common understanding changed.

Scandal is the fact that the person who invited me to the “wedding” knows I am Catholic. By attending, I show my friends and family that I approve of the invalid wedding. Every single one of us has influence over someone, and to lead them into sin is scandal.
 
that_name said:
Cremation was not allowed as in that time and place people used cremation to deny the resurrection of the body. The practice was changed, not because of any scandal, but because the common understanding changed.

Scandal is the fact that the person who invited me to the “wedding” knows I am Catholic. By attending, I show my friends and family that I approve of the invalid wedding. Every single one of us has influence over someone, and to lead them into sin is scandal.
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I disagree and will wait to see how many of your fellow catholics will stand by your views. In the meantime, I think this has been answered in Ask the Apologist from a quick google search. 🙂
 
beckycmarie said:
A Baptist friend of mine is getting married for the first time to a Baptist man who is divorced. If either were Catholic and there was no annulment, I would not attend. Is it morally permissible to attend and celebrate the weddings of remarried Protestants? Or do the rules not apply to them since their churches do not teach that it is wrong to divorce and remarry?
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Would you attend a SSM? What is the differance between a SSM and this marriage?
 
that_name said:
Scandal is the fact that the person who invited me to the “wedding” knows I am Catholic.
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Ouch! Thats a new one. So, you are saying that inviting Catholic Family/Loved Ones to a wedding is a scandal!?!?! Ba Zing!
 
PassingThru said:
Ouch! Thats a new one. So, you are saying that inviting Catholic Family/Loved Ones to a wedding is a scandal!?!?! Ba Zing!
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As those who invite me know I am Catholic, it would for me be the sin of scandal to attend a wedding that will not be valid.
 
that_name said:
As those who invite me know I am Catholic, it would for me be the sin of scandal to attend a wedding that will not be valid.
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But that is not what you said. You said the invitation was a Scandal. I can only assume then you are suggesting that if your marriage is outside the Church, do not invite any Catholics, as this would be Scandalous? Wedding planners the would over are trembling at the thought!
 
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