Should I break up with my boyfriend of different faith?

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I’m currently dating this guy ( who is also one of my best friends) and we’re together for 2 years and 10 months. We’ve been sweet and great for the past two years and he has the qualities I look for in a guy: he doesn’t smoke and isn’t alcoholic.

But recently, his father discovered sites that say bad things about the catholic faith (like the site of David J. Stewart). Those sites talk about how praying the rosary is pagan, the vatican is owned by the illuminati and the like. His father introduced these sites to his family and my boyfriend’s mother even stopped praying the rosary (she used to pray the rosary everyday).
And of course, my boyfriend started introducing me to these sites in the hope of believing them too. Sigh. He even said he wants me to be saved by pulling me away from the catholics and being “born again” with him in the future.

Of course I was devastated, knowing that my boyfriend, even though he is still a catholic, is now having doubts of the authenticity of the catholic faith. Of course I tried to explain some of the catholics’ actions and the reasons why we do such rituals, but he wont budge.
All I wanted for him is for us to peacefully live within this faith, knowing that God should be the center of our relationship.

My mom, being a devout catholic wants me to break up with him and I know she’s right.
The problem is, it’s really hard for me to let go of course. What should I do? :confused:
 
Justmyself777 said:
I’m currently dating this guy ( who is also one of my best friends) and we’re together for 2 years and 10 months. We’ve been sweet and great for the past two years and he has the qualities I look for in a guy: he doesn’t smoke and isn’t alcoholic.

But recently, his father discovered sites that say bad things about the catholic faith (like the site of David J. Stewart). Those sites talk about how praying the rosary is pagan, the vatican is owned by the illuminati and the like. His father introduced these sites to his family and my boyfriend’s mother even stopped praying the rosary (she used to pray the rosary everyday).
And of course, my boyfriend started introducing me to these sites in the hope of believing them too. Sigh. He even said he wants me to be saved by pulling me away from the catholics and being “born again” with him in the future.

Of course I was devastated, knowing that my boyfriend, even though he is still a catholic, is now having doubts of the authenticity of the catholic faith. Of course I tried to explain some of the catholics’ actions and the reasons why we do such rituals, but he wont budge.
All I wanted for him is for us to peacefully live within this faith, knowing that God should be the center of our relationship.

My mom, being a devout catholic wants me to break up with him and I know she’s right.
The problem is, it’s really hard for me to let go of course. What should I do? :confused:
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It is very hard to break up with someone over religion when you really like them. I had to go through this in the past. If he is trying to pull you away from your faith, then what does that say about the respect he has for you and your Church? Do you pick God or man? Kind of simple but I am sure really hard to go through with. 😦

My prayers are with you!
 
I agree with aidanbradypop. Even if he stopped attacking your faith, you need someone who is strong in his Catholic faith and able to be a spiritual leader for your family, not someone with shaky faith.
 
You have a real problem on your hands but I believe you really, already know what has to happen. I will pray for you to have the courage to take action, God will be with you all the way.
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Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to thy protection, implored thy help, or sought thine intercession was left unaided.
Inspired by this confidence, I fly unto thee, O Virgin of virgins, my mother; to thee do I come, before thee I stand, sinful and sorrowful. O Mother of the Word Incarnate, despise not my petitions, but in thy mercy hear and answer me.

Amen.
 
I agree with the above posters and do believe you already know the answer to your question. That something is hard to do is no excuse to let it slide.

God bless you.
 
If you get married this issue will still be there.

Taking a leap of faith and breaking up with him might get him to “see the light” as it were…He might sit back and have to take stock of just how much he really believes this stuff if he has to lose you over it.

And if he he DOES chose these new beliefs over you you can be assured that if marriage and children were a part of the picture, the differences between you would be painful. There is nothing like being responsible for instilling values in a child and worrying about what type of person they grow up to be, to make you fight for what you want for them.

Good luck!
 
Justmyself777 said:
I’m currently dating this guy ( who is also one of my best friends) and we’re together for 2 years and 10 months. We’ve been sweet and great for the past two years and he has the qualities I look for in a guy: he doesn’t smoke and isn’t alcoholic.

But recently, his father discovered sites that say bad things about the catholic faith (like the site of David J. Stewart). Those sites talk about how praying the rosary is pagan, the vatican is owned by the illuminati and the like. His father introduced these sites to his family and my boyfriend’s mother even stopped praying the rosary (she used to pray the rosary everyday).
And of course, my boyfriend started introducing me to these sites in the hope of believing them too. Sigh. He even said he wants me to be saved by pulling me away from the catholics and being “born again” with him in the future.

Of course I was devastated, knowing that my boyfriend, even though he is still a catholic, is now having doubts of the authenticity of the catholic faith. Of course I tried to explain some of the catholics’ actions and the reasons why we do such rituals, but he wont budge.
All I wanted for him is for us to peacefully live within this faith, knowing that God should be the center of our relationship.

My mom, being a devout catholic wants me to break up with him and I know she’s right.
The problem is, it’s really hard for me to let go of course. What should I do? :confused:
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I’m sorry that this is happening. Your boyfriend’s father is undermining his family’s faith instead of building it up. That is awful. But you mustn’t spend any more time and effort with this young man who is dropping his faith because of some websites promoted by his dad. He is not strong in his faith and cannot help you get to heaven. You definitely do not want to marry, let alone have children with, a person who lets the wind blow him away from what should be the anchor in his life. It’s too bad.
 
Grace be with you all.
-Hebrews 13:25

Thank you all! :angel1:
 
Justmyself777 said:
I’m currently dating this guy ( who is also one of my best friends) and we’re together for 2 years and 10 months. We’ve been sweet and great for the past two years and he has the qualities I look for in a guy: he doesn’t smoke and isn’t alcoholic.
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If the only qualities that you look for are a non-smoking, non alcoholic guy, there may be more issues there than just religion. That’s a pretty low bar to meet. 😉
 
Have you really given this thought?

If you have, please do not hesitate to let me know.
 
cheese_sdc said:
If the only qualities that you look for are a non-smoking, non alcoholic guy, there may be more issues there than just religion. That’s a pretty low bar to meet. 😉
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Good point, I noticed that too. I think she needs somewhat higher standards.

🙂
 
Say a prayer to the Holy Spirit asking for direction and guidance.
 
It is difficult. I left my boyfriend ages ago after dating 5 years. Heart breaking. But, it frees you up to find that man who will be your life partner, be a great dad to your kids, walk with you through life holding hands and standing on the Rock that is Christ. You can mourn for a time but tell God you know He has awesome plans for you and you can’t wait to see what they are! God bless and strengthen you at this difficult time.
 
You do have a difficult situation. It is possible if you break up with him and he knows the reason why, he might start looking at Catholic websites and learn the truth about his faith and want to stay with you.
You are both very much in my prayers this day.
 
Ad_Orientem said:
I agree with aidanbradypop. Even if he stopped attacking your faith, you need someone who is strong in his Catholic faith and able to be a spiritual leader for your family, not someone with shaky faith.
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That being said, some of the greatest saints had their moments or periods of doubt, fear, etc. Nobody knows what’s in store for him in the future. Right now, though, he wouldn’t be a good influence to have for someone. We should still pray that he will find his love of God and the Church again.
 
By the way, OP, why did you title your post as you did? Your boyfriend is not of a different faith, he’s Catholic and will remain so, even if he is somewhat lapsed at the moment. A different faith would mean that you had been dating a Muslim, say, or a Buddhist. Or a Protestant, for that matter. 🙂
 
CarolNoel said:
You do have a difficult situation. It is possible if you break up with him and he knows the reason why, he might start looking at Catholic websites and learn the truth about his faith and want to stay with you.
You are both very much in my prayers this day.
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It’s important to be clear to him why you are breaking up with him. That is the only fair way to do so, and perhaps in your decision, he will see how important your faith is to you and realize the error of his ways.

Also, the fact that he is so easily swayed by his father shows that he is not only unprepared for receiving the sacrament of marriage on the basis of his strength of faith but also on his maturity and commitment to you. If his father can change your boyfriend’s opinion about Catholicism, just imagine what he can change in the future.

:blessyou:
 
Justmyself777 said:
I’m currently dating this guy ( who is also one of my best friends) and we’re together for 2 years and 10 months. We’ve been sweet and great for the past two years and he has the qualities I look for in a guy: he doesn’t smoke and isn’t alcoholic.
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I hope those aren’t the only “qualities” you look for; sobriety should be a requirement, not a plus.
Justmyself777 said:
But recently, his father discovered sites that say bad things about the catholic faith (like the site of David J. Stewart). Those sites talk about how praying the rosary is pagan, the vatican is owned by the illuminati and the like. His father introduced these sites to his family and my boyfriend’s mother even stopped praying the rosary (she used to pray the rosary everyday).

And of course, my boyfriend started introducing me to these sites in the hope of believing them too. Sigh. He even said he wants me to be saved by pulling me away from the catholics and being “born again” with him in the future.

Of course I was devastated, knowing that my boyfriend, even though he is still a catholic, is now having doubts of the authenticity of the catholic faith. Of course I tried to explain some of the catholics’ actions and the reasons why we do such rituals, but he wont budge.
All I wanted for him is for us to peacefully live within this faith, knowing that God should be the center of our relationship.

My mom, being a devout catholic wants me to break up with him and I know she’s right. The problem is, it’s really hard for me to let go of course. What should I do?
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Don’t look at this problem only as a conflict between religious views. If he took so readily to the conspiracy theories and inaccuracies promoted in these websites, I would question his sensibility and his family relationships. Is he an independent thinker, or could he be persuaded to trust anything that looks or sounds good? Does he genuinely believe in what he professes, or is this merely an attempt to please his father? Is the father controlling?
 
It depends how important of a role faith plays in your life. I married a Catholic who converted to Islam. It’s been 7 years and 2 kids later she still hasn’t told her parents. Her father disowned her after learning she married a guy for “the evil religion” as he calls it. My MIL lives with us now and she feels like she failed her kids.

I remember a few years ago I encouraged her to reach out to her dad and so she went out and got a Christmas gift box for him and his family. It had pictures, a card, and some gifts. The man returned the entire package without a word and that was the last time we heard from him.

My parents were more open to the idea and didn’t have a problem with it. Anyway It’s been hard on her but we’re happy that we’re both on the same page regardless what the parents think.

I hope it works out for you.
 
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