Should I even bother going to confession?

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As someone who has been struggling with her faith for many years and now appears to be coming out of the other end to embrace the faith she was baptised in, I have a question about confession.

I have been married for 10 years. A justice of the peace elopment. I realize in the eyes of the church then that I am not really married. If the purpose of confession is to be able to be in full communion with the church and God, if I understand dogma correctly, I never will be since my marriage was not blessed in the church. Therefore, what would be the purpose of confession for me since I won’t be able to receive communion anyway?

Would love your thoughts!
 
Miss_Honeychurc said:
As someone who has been struggling with her faith for many years and now appears to be coming out of the other end to embrace the faith she was baptised in, I have a question about confession.

I have been married for 10 years. A justice of the peace elopment. I realize in the eyes of the church then that I am not really married. If the purpose of confession is to be able to be in full communion with the church and God, if I understand dogma correctly, I never will be since my marriage was not blessed in the church. Therefore, what would be the purpose of confession for me since I won’t be able to receive communion anyway?

Would love your thoughts!
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The sacrament of reconciliation permits you to have an ongoing relationship with God by confessing your sins and seeking forgiveness. You are absolved of your sins if you are truly sorry for them and affirm not to commit the sins again. If you have any grave sins that are unforgiven, salvation can be lost. Consequently, it’s extremely important to receive the sacrament of reconcilation.
 
Make an appointment with a priest and discuss your marriage situation.
 
Thank you soldier! I have been so wrapped around the axel about the marraige question that I completely forgot about salvation. Isn’t that ridiculous? I feel much better now, from the bottom of my heart, thank you:o
 
Miss_Honeychurc said:
Thank you soldier! I have been so wrapped around the axel about the marraige question that I completely forgot about salvation. Isn’t that ridiculous? I feel much better now, from the bottom of my heart, thank you:o
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You’re most welcome. Sometimes we do forget. The point of our life is to ultimately be united with God and have a personal relationship with him.
 
Miss_Honeychurc said:
As someone who has been struggling with her faith for many years and now appears to be coming out of the other end to embrace the faith she was baptised in, I have a question about confession.

I have been married for 10 years. A justice of the peace elopment. I realize in the eyes of the church then that I am not really married. If the purpose of confession is to be able to be in full communion with the church and God, if I understand dogma correctly, I never will be since my marriage was not blessed in the church. Therefore, what would be the purpose of confession for me since I won’t be able to receive communion anyway?

Would love your thoughts!
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Get your marriage convalidated (this should be fairly simple) then go to confession. You are correct that you should deal with the marriage situation first.
 
Cider said:
Make an appointment with a priest and discuss your marriage situation.
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phoooiee said:
You can just have your marriage convalidated- I did!
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I would highly recommend this course of action. Provided neither you nor your husband had been previously married, it should be a rather simple thing. The priest should be only too happy to help you with that.

But, in the mean time, there’s no reason to stay away from the Sacrament of Reconciliation. As Soldier said, it really does open the door to an ongoing relationship with the Lord. It can be very humbling and nerve-wracking for some people (like me :o), but it is well worth it!

God bless you in this time. I will pray for you!
 
yes, this is the first marraige for the both of us. I appreciate everyone’s advice 🙂
 
Miss_Honeychurc said:
As someone who has been struggling with her faith for many years and now appears to be coming out of the other end to embrace the faith she was baptised in, I have a question about confession.

I have been married for 10 years. A justice of the peace elopment. I realize in the eyes of the church then that I am not really married. If the purpose of confession is to be able to be in full communion with the church and God, if I understand dogma correctly, I never will be since my marriage was not blessed in the church. Therefore, what would be the purpose of confession for me since I won’t be able to receive communion anyway?

Would love your thoughts!
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can you get your marriage convalidated in the Church? then it would be valid 🙂 it’s just a simple ceremony. Is there anything that is preventing you from doing this? I would speak to a priest… if it’s the first marriage for you, there shouldn’t really be any problem… then you can get your marriage convalidated and then go to Confession and Communion 👍

as for meanwhile… I’d honestly ask a priest about this… I do not know. I’d say Confession is always good, but receive Communion after your marriage has been convalidated 🙂

God bless!
 
Miss_Honeychurc said:
yes, this is the first marraige for the both of us. I appreciate everyone’s advice 🙂
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Then your situation is relatively simple. Either convalidation, or if your spouse has issues with that, radical sanation. There are no impediments.

God bless and good luck.
 
Miss_Honeychurc said:
As someone who has been struggling with her faith for many years and now appears to be coming out of the other end to embrace the faith she was baptised in, I have a question about confession.

I have been married for 10 years. A justice of the peace elopment. I realize in the eyes of the church then that I am not really married. If the purpose of confession is to be able to be in full communion with the church and God, if I understand dogma correctly, I never will be since my marriage was not blessed in the church. Therefore, what would be the purpose of confession for me since I won’t be able to receive communion anyway?

Would love your thoughts!
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Dear the purpose of confession is to tell God we are sorry for our sins and recieve absolution.(through the priest God truelly hears our confession.Its the way He wanted it done).One cannnot become in full communion with the Church if she(he)if she is living in mortal sin and refuses to repent of it.Best Advice:Go talk to a priest(maybe several different priests)and explain your situation.Priests always want to help even if they are unable to free you from your situation.He may have some very good advice that you may want to consider.
 
crazzeto said:
Get your marriage convalidated (this should be fairly simple) then go to confession. You are correct that you should deal with the marriage situation first.
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I did it in the other order… Reconciliation, then we married in the Church, so I could receive at the Wedding Mass.

God bless and welcome home!
 
Statius said:
I’m curious - what is “radical sanation”? I’m not familiar with this term.
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Radical sanation:
RADICAL SANATION
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Can. 1161 §1. The radical sanation of an invalid marriage is its convalidation without the renewal of consent, which is granted by competent authority and entails the dispensation from an impediment, if there is one, and from canonical form, if it was not observed, and the retroactivity of canonical effects.
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Statius said:
Thanks, OraLabora! I think I sort of understand that…
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In a simple convalidation, the couple actually gets married in the Church – they exchange consent (vows) in front of a priest or deacon and two witnesses, sign the register, etc. It is the preferred way to remedy an invalid marriage.

Radical sanation is done when one of the parties refuses to be ‘remarried’. This involves paperwork and can be done without the knowledge of one or both parties – depending on why the convalidation is needed.
 
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